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I'm meeting his parents. How should I behave?

I'll be meeting them tomorrow. I'm afraid to make a fool of myself or come off as rude. What are things I shouldn't say?

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Never go into great details about anything they don't ask about....sometimes giving to much information at once can overwhelm them. People especially parents, are bad about judging. If in time, they ask the deep personal questions, of course be honest. I'm not saying don't be yourself.... I'm only saying dont get nervous and talk/tell to much all in the first visit. If this relationship is meant to be, they will learn your good and bad as time goes by and love you regardless... if it's not, then you haven't given them anything to run back and tell the neighbors about. Good luck...you are going to do great!

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Good job (:
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just be your self
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Just try to be yourself, or at least a polite version of yourself. If you try to act in an unnatural manner, you'll have trouble keeping it up past the first meeting.

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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I am not trying to say "don't be yourself."
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Just be yourself. The person they will meet tomorrow in you, should be the person their son fell in love with.

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (; I am not saying don't be yourself.
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Shouldn't say..you say..."How's it hanging.." , I wouldn't say that more than once.. or twice..

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like a young lady. don't say "howdy hello, how the hell are ya".

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Be respectful, and just relax and be yourself. :)

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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That's why I put the be respectful part in there. One should not put up a false front to who they are, but at the same time one should have respect for others.
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Just stay calm, be polite

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Be yourself, you want them to like you for who you are!

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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I am not saying "don't be yourself."
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Keep it simple and smile alot : D

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Be polite :) and be yourself

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I like the be polite part, but like what I said to the others: It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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Don't cuss or anything, dress nicely, make sure your hair looks nice but not to crazy, like loosely curl it and if your having dinner with them at a restaurant order something that not too messy like a salad. If your having dinner at their house offer to wash the dishes after

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Why would somebody cuss when they are meeting people?
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Just be yourself and completely honest. If you dont everything will get out of hand.
Let them see the real you. If they don't except that their loss. Good luck!

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I agree with part of it (: Like what I said to the other people: It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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That's very true ;)
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if you wouldn't say or do it at you're grandmas it's probably not a good idea to say or do it to his parents. when in doubt ask your boyfriend

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well girl be your self

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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true i was not specific
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Oh, it's fine, I was just saying. (;
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Just be yourself

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It depends who "yourself" is, you know what I mean? Like, if "you" is crazy and hyper, not a good idea, if "you" is calm and nice, then "be yourself" (;
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Well what are you, because if they are nice people they will not judge you. Ask him what there personalities are and like i said if they are nice they will not judge you :)
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Sorry about that, it's just I am hyper and crazy meeting people (sometimes...), and it just ends up that they think I am weird in many ways, so I want to warn people about that.
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I am not saying "don't be yourself."
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Well i know how it feels, it feels like you life is going to end (kidding) if you dont pass their "test" what i think you should do is that think to yourself and when you meet them act calm for the night and be crazy and hyper in the morning :)
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Exactly! :D
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i have been there before
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come off as yourself. try not to say anything weird, stupid, of annoying! u want 2 make a good impression if ur really serious about this make sure they know u r in love deeply with him

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All I have to say is this: Be nice. Be calm (have a calm nerve). Be "helpful." (;

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just be yourself

coz if you pretend to be someone else you'll ruin it for yourself and your BF

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Do not say that their son is great in bed, and that you bet he takes after his parents. Just relax and be yourself, unless you are usually a rude fool ;)

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The best advice is to not dress like a s***. Do not curse around them. Be nice and polite. Have good manners. And most importantly be yourself, and if they dont like you then try someone else.

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nice and royal and don't make a mess or fool yourself

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I agree with everyone on here who say be polite, no cussing, be the person you are when you're with your man. You are dating him not mommy and daddy. Just relax and try to be comfortable. Smile, and say "Nice to meet you". That always impresses me.

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Just be yourself. Do not try to change your personality for them. That is the first way you will screw up! Try to stay calm and just be yourself. I'm sure that the same beautiful things "he" sees will come shining through, but, only if your be yourself!

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just be nice
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Be yourself, polite and dont hang all over you guy. Sit next to him not on top of him. Listen and respond!!!!!!

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Have a cheerful kind attitude and try not to come off as awkward or desiring to be some where else (:

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Your comment to "behave" is the first thing to change. You don't have to say much about yourself to make a statement about you.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

Offer to help his Mother in the kitchen if she is out of the room preparing a meal, appetizers, or drinks. (Nothing worse than the family sharing stories, and the Mother/host can't be in a part of it because she is preparing a meal.) If she declines your help, it's OK. Don't take offense. She is nervous too. Don't push after 2 "No's". Just say, "I'll be right here if you change your mind."
Try to avoid talking about yourself and talking most of the conversation. When you hear yourself saying,.......I, I, I, me, me, me, my, my, then you are controlling the conversation. You could be boring the person you are talking to, and more importantly, you might be making them uncomfortable. That in turn leads to a very quiet evening .
If you find you are the center of attention and the room is quiet and unresponsive, .... it might be time to let someone else speak.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS>

Good luck.

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Be yourself and be honest. Act polite though. Being helpful helps, and stay calm. Hope it goes well. :D

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just be yourself, be polite and simple, and most important is to respect them as if they are your own parents.. since they will be really as your own parents one day if things work out good. it is good to put yourself in their place this will make it easier to know what they expect from you.

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must have met them by now, how'd you do? i would have told ya to follow their conversation lead and don't veer off it too much if you are nervous.

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aaaam... good

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Like a proper young lady.

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Just be yourself at all times. Act classy, be prepared to answer their questions. Just be the person you are when you meet him.

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one of the main thing is that you always make eye contact and shake hands when you meet them, don't be quiet and don't hide in the corners and follow your boyfriend around

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yah what everyone has said here be Ur self and if they don't like u 4 who u are don't change Ur going out with their son not them!! Good luck i know you'll do great!!

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Be yourself. If you're not a polite person, don't try to be extra polite, but watch your mouth as well. If you're over for dinner, ask if you can help with anything. Don't be helpless, stuck up, or prissy.

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be nice and calm and your self, then that is enough.

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Be a good girl haha

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You shouldn't talk about sex around parents ever! Talk about how and when you met and ask a lot of interesting questions.

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Try to find about likes and dislikes of his parents, as that will help you to be careful in handling your in laws in future. Moreover they will be impressed to know that you want to know about them and want to act accordingly.
Also find out from them as to what his likes and dislikes are. They may give you some useful tips that he may not have told you. Be honest to the core

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Keep it real. If his ma tries to get fresh with you don't be afraid to lay your hand across her face. Guys love that stuff. Also, don't be afraid to flirt it up a little with his old man, that way, you become the top dog at the dinner table and what you say goes. At the end of the dinner instruct his parents to do the dishes. It's during this time that you go to their room and rummage around for valuables. Get what you can and escape out of the window. Pawn the valuables and buy your boyfriend a pair of levi's. He'll love you forever.

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Fear not and wing it, good luck = )

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just be yourself

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Dont tell them how good he is in bed:)

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just be your self and put on cloth that show your respection good luck my friend

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be yourself unless you are an impolite person. listen more than you talk. Observe everything, and find the good in them, because nobody is perfect.

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im not sure but just burp all the time:)

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just be your self but be respectful

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Polite and respectful. Mind your table manners! Wear something appropriate for court.

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be yourself, be respectable.

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O ok.

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Eye contact is very important

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Avoid any awkward conversations - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXNwzKo5Yps

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don't tell them about your three way, drug use, bi polar. just keep quiet. they'll think your deaf. now just work on the body odor.good luck!

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Just like polite and nice and everything you would excpect your daughters boyfriends to act..

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Act like your normal self around teachers or something. Don't be fake. But dont be super comfortable like swearing or whatever you do. Just be nice and smile alot. Oh and EYE CONTACT! Parents love eye contact.

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Maybe act like you have manners maybe?

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just act the same way you would want your partner to act infront of your parents!
remember to ask to clean up afterwards too.
parents just love it when you do that!
be a classy individual.

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