Intelligence, honesty, sense of humor, great taste in music (hugely important!), like-mindedness... and.... Well, I just look for "MrBangedUp"... easy to find at the moment, he's right here on my couch! In my computer chair, too 'cause we're taking turns answering Q's on Ask! :)
I think loyalty and trust are the two main things, looks are important to but not super important, if my girlfriend hangs out with a bunch of dudes I usually get a bit jealous, but don't let jealousy cloud your thoughts. Anyways I think a sense of humors is very important too!
That he can handle a future. I've always dreamed of being in love with a perfect relationship and then having a perfect family. I want my guy to be able to handle my want for children, a big house, and my obsess with Christmas time. If he can't handle that, he ain't a keeper.
Someone I can talk to and have interesting conversations with. A lot of frustrated older couples say "We never talk anymore" because they've already exhausted everything they have to talk about. My wife and I just have interesting conversations and enjoy hanging out together. That's something that shouldn't be underestimated. One of the things that first captivated me about her is that she could carry on an intelligent conversation about the Red Sox, past and present. That, and she's got a backside that almost moves me to tears.
I always look for a sense of humor first. you don't want someone who can't joke around with you or is serious ALL the time. Yeah you want someone to also be commited and not TOO humorous all the time, you need to be able to take them seriously at times. I also look for intelligence, are they down to earth, and most important are they RESPECTFUL, they can be the funniest guy on the planet, most down to earth, smartest... but if he's not respectful to you or to others what's the point. oh and also loyalty and trustworthy. They get bonus points is they're 6 ft., and athletic.
We must be on the same wavelength so that our sense of wit, worldview, and humor match. She must be artistic, intelligent, caring, respectful, loyal, positive, and stable and easygoing. Liking the same movies, music, and food are a bonus. Eating healthy food and being active is a plus. Also open mindedness and ability to adapt are a plus.
To answer that question, imagine two musical instruments, perhaps a piano and a guitar. If they are correctly tuned, either one can produce beautiful solo music. Yet, what happens if these instruments are played together? Now they must be in tune with each other. It is similar with you and a prospective mate. Each of you may have worked hard to “tune” your personality traits as individuals It is important that both of you have common beliefs and principles. The apostle Paul wrote: “Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.” To be attuned to each other, you and your prospective mate should have similar goals. What are your goals?
Instead of asking, “Do we agree on everything?” some better questions might be: “What happens when we disagree? Can we discuss matters calmly, according each other respect and dignity? Or do discussions often deteriorate into heated arguments?” (Ephesians 4:29, 31) If you want to get married, be wary of anyone who is proud and opinionated, never willing to compromise, or who constantly demands and schemes to have his or her own way. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/?contentLanguageFilter=en&sortBy=2