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I'm torn between 2 guys in my life that are very important to me. Please help.

Two of my exes are very important to me. I love both of them, and they are great guys. But I get really confused when it comes to deciding who would be a good choice. Guy number one is someone I have a big history with, but we've had our problems before. We are currently doing really well, but it is scary to think it could fall apart. Guy number two is a great guy, but acts kind of childish and doesn't always act the way I want him to. Any suggestions?

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like johhny depp said, if you fall in love with two people, go for the 2ed one, because if you loved the first one, you wouldnt have fallen for the 2ed. (might be a few words off), but, with my expirence, it doesnt work that way, but, im only 15, johhny depp is like 50, he would know. or just go with the first guy, he sounds better, bit if you love the 2ed more, then go with the 2ed..

but my personal way of solving who i love more, is this- if one had to die, which one?

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No, that's actually good advice. But I've never fallen out of love with the first guy...so he's probably my best choice. It's just so hard to decide because I don't want to hurt anyone.
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well, which one dies? dude, im sorry, but thats how i decide things, and plus i think of death a lot, but its a good way. because you know who means more to you, right?

but you said you dont want to hurt anyone, so i think you know the answer to this question. dont think of hurting anyone, just think of yourself, and yourself only
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Ya like if they were both drowning in a river and they were on opposite sides and you were in the middle and uyou only had time to save one,who would you save??
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Oh my gosh that's horrible haha. Honestly, I would die trying to save both. I can't answer that question.
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yeap :) thats how i solve my problems :)
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omg, that trick has finally not worked. i dont know, it always worked for me
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haha, sorry to bust the trick. I could never pick someone that way. I would rather die and let them try and save eachother.
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ok, your over thinking it.

ok, how about this
they are both under a boulder, only way to save one is to tilt the big rock, but in doing so, one dies. so, you can only save one, impossible to do both, and you cannot die, because you are on land, far from the boulder.

how about that? :)
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you're killing me lol. ughhh I don't know.
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not really, im killing them, lol. ok, maybe im to negative.
umm, lets try the human approach, a more human like one
which one would you rather spend the rest of your life with?
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number one was my first love, and I was his. I've always loved him. The only reason number two is in the picture is because he's been there for me and I know he loves me. I just don't think I love him back. I'm a mess lol.
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omg, dude, you just answered it. i just dont think i love him back

ok, number one has won, ding ding ding :)

*pretend confetti is all over the place*
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hahahahaha I guess we have a winner.
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i have been in your shoes though, me and my bf are together almost 10 montsh (tomorrow will be 10 months), anyways. i have been in 2 crushes with other people during our relationship, with the latest one being only 2 weeks ago. but the crush is gone, i dont feel anything anymore, but i still feel for my bf. you have to think logical i guess
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I guess so. Thanks for your help.
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no problem :)
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The one that melts your heart when he kisses you, that is a good indication.

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I was thinking about that today. The first guy gives me sparks when we kiss. But I don't know if it's because I love him, or if it's because we haven't kissed in a long time. The second guy doesn't give me sparks.
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I agree
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The one that gives you sparks, kisses say a lot. If you are really honest....I think deep in your heart you know the answer but it is hard to choose because you care for both of them.
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That's true. I don't want to hurt either of them. I'm staying single now because of it, I don't want to make a choice until I'm ready.
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Good idea.
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Eenie 1 minie 2 miny 1 moe 2 touch 1 a 2 tiger 1 by 2 its 1 toes 2 my 1 mom 2 said 1 to 2 pick 1 the 2 very 1 best 2 one 1 and 2 that 1 is 2 you 1. Nevermind pick the second dude :).

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I'd Pick #1
You Might Have Problems at Time
But When' It Comes To It You Guys Are Happy At The End
#2
It's Hard To Change Someone without hurting there feelings so..
Yeah'..
Go #1!!

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I would chose guy number one. He seems like he is trying to fix the problems from your guys's past mistakes. If you still can't decide, they should date each other! Good luck with figuring out who to choose. and remember, there is always a guy waiting for you.

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thank you!
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Welcome!
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#1

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Do what Katniss does, but with less death

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sorry, I don't know who Katniss is.
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Katniss Everdeen, from the Hunger Games... oh well :) nvm
just go with the one that gives you the feeling of safety when he's with you
the one that makes you feel that all fear has melted away when he kisses you
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Oh, I never saw the Hunger Games haha. But I know what it is. And that's a good point. Number one makes me feel safe, but so does number two. But safer with number one.
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Thats a tuffy, ur near the same spot katniss is in, in the 2nd and 3rd book! but Peeta isnt that childish... sorry im a major bookworm :)
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haha so am I, no worries. I think my best bet is to just stay single and see who wins me over.
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Put the names in a hat and draw the lucky winner. Done.

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I might just have to.
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Haha :)
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Go for #3

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There your ex for a reason

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Very true. Number two is my ex because I made him an ex. Number one is my ex because of complications between us, but we're working on them. But you are right.
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Well guy number 2 seems cool like he's not afraid to be himself around you:) but they both seem like grain guys I guess you'll just have to go with what you think is right:)

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Number two is great, but he's very immature and sometimes takes it too far with jokes. But you're right.
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If you have to decide who to be with, and can't feel it, or know they are the person for you, then you shouldn't be with either one. When you are with someone you should not have to worry about feelings for another person. If you want to be with someone you want them to be 100% with you, you should be the same with them.

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Here is an absolute law in relationships: You can't change anyone, you can only change yourself. If you have to change #2 to be happy with him, forget it, it won't happen. Don't hang on to #2 because you're afraid #1 won't work out...if #1 doesn't work out, #3 would be the next choice. You don't have to settle for someone just to have anyone. Every relationship requires work, so just because you're working on it with #1 does not mean he's not the right one. However, I'm suspicious that you even asked this question...I mean, if I was happy with #1 I wouldn't be thinking it was going to fall apart. You deserve to have someone in your life that you can trust. Forget about feeling safe, or melting when you kiss...that's all movie stuff. Find the one that you can talk to about anything, the one that loves you enough that your happiness comes before his own and vice versa, the one that has the same goals as you do, the one that is fun to be with even if you're only eating popcorn and watching tv. (continued)

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If you have one that will stick with you through thick and thin, you have someone you can travel through life with. Don't bother finding the one you can't live without, find the one you can live with!
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I think you just gave me my answer. Thank you.
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And find the one that can make you LAUGH!
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You are very welcome! Go, fight, win!
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Going through the same thing girl. I'm still with man #1 cuz he's been by my side through it all. Ups AND downs. Those are memories you will never forget but no matter what you go through in the end, you will be stronger and will realize what's best for you

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I know. Number one was my first love, and I was his. You can't just forget someone like that.
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Exactly. There's always gonna be something to hold on to it just knowing when to let go. I give it my all everyday and if that last day comes you have to stand tall and realize all you have done and what's been done for you
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That's true.
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Take a coin and get ready to flip it. Right before you flip the coin you'll know whom you really want.

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Omg. I got really excited because I thought to myself, no one will say this. Well thanks alot, :p! Did you see this on pinterest too?
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No, I actually heard of this when I was a kid- more than 5 decades ago. Truth is, you know who you really want right now.... Go with your gut.
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Laurel: hold off on both of these dudes - even if you are under pressure to have a boyfriend - you would not have even asked this question if you had the right guy come into your life - the heart is not a logical organ - we try to be - but chemistry will trump any logic you try to apply to making a decision between guy 1 and guy 2. Should Mr. Right walk into your life - after you've chosen one of the two dudes - you could be missing out on a deeper, more profound, more exciting, love than you could ever get with a guy you chose logically, using opinions from Ask subscribers. ;-)

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If you just wait a little longer, you'll know in your heart who the right person is.

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