What should I do about this?
My ex and I dated for over a year. I was cheated on multiple times and I was manipulated by their self harm to stay around. 11 months later, I'm still dealing from the abuse and am still terrified (which should be understandable). My friend has begun speaking to my ex again (my ex cheated on me with said friend) and she told me 'It's in the past. You need to grow up' which I understand but does she really expect me to speak with the person that changed my views on society? I am highly uncomfortable even when my friend is on the phone with them.. I get paranoid. Is it wrong for me not to want friendship with my ex after all they've put me through? I told my ex that she doesn't understand the extent of abuse at all.