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My ex and I dated for over a year. I was cheated on multiple times and I was manipulated by their self harm to stay around. 11 months later, I'm still dealing from the abuse and am still terrified (which should be understandable). My friend has begun speaking to my ex again (my ex cheated on me with said friend) and she told me 'It's in the past. You need to grow up' which I understand but does she really expect me to speak with the person that changed my views on society? I am highly uncomfortable even when my friend is on the phone with them.. I get paranoid. Is it wrong for me not to want friendship with my ex after all they've put me through? I told my ex that she doesn't understand the extent of abuse at all.

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i hate to be the one to tell you...you dont have much of a friend or a x...i would get both out of my life. neither cares about you like you seem to have did them. you are the better person walk away.....GOD has something else for you..may not be what you want but it will be what you NEED.

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I wouldn't even be hurt I would be angry at him for a while, but after that then maybe we can be friends. Either way I wouldn't talk to him that much. And I think you need new friends. I mean your friend dated your boyfriend and I highly doubt she didn't know it was your boyfriend. I would never talk to that girl again in fact me and her would of probably been exchanging words for quite a while. Starting with "F--- you B---- I hate you" and so on. She's a terrible friend anyways for telling you, you need to grow up. I'd be like "why don't you grow tf up and get you your own man and stop taking mine w----!" but see as I said before we would not be friends lol. Just don't talk to either of them say to yourself "F them both" ,and I'm sure you'll feel a lot better.

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girlfriend need to walk away from that friendship she's no friend.friends don't do that to friend go out with there ex boyfriend at least I wouldn't they have Respect get out u don't need her just watch let him get Comfortable with her and he's going to do her the same an she gonna come back looking for her friend an tell u that u where right :/

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You need to stand up for yourself! Your ex is a pig for cheating on you, you don't need a dirt bag like him in your life! Your friend who slept with your ex is a b**** , she is NOT your friend! You should cut them both out of your life completely and move on! You WILL find a nice guy to be your boyfriend and some real friends who won't stab you in the back! I mean, a true friend would NEVER jump into the bed with a friend's boyfriend! Get rid of both of them immediately! You deserve better! Even if you do run into them at a party or something, just pretend as if you don't even know who these low life, gutter trash people are! Maintain your dignity and I am sure the right guy WILL notice you and ask out on a date! Good Luck............

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First of all you need to report a guy for the Abuse. causes he get away with you. dont let him do it to someone else you need to stop it.you can get a restraining order.and help stop the violence

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You can stop being friends with someone for any reason you choose. That's the point of friendship, it's a choice.

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You're at one of those points in your life where you just need to cut out the tumours from your life. Your ex sounds like bad news, and you know this. Your friend isn't really a friend either. Ask yourself, is the current situation making me happy? If the answer is no, then it's time to move on. As the saying goes, avoid people who are vexatious to your soul.

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