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How do you get yourself into the "Christmas Spirit" when you don't care for Christmas?

Bah-humbug.

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dustee

Good morn Ms. CJ...accept it and move on....don't spoil Christmas celebrations for others...don't talk "down" or hateful to people...You have posted you don't believe in GOD or Christ or go to church...and you don't care for Christmas.... When approach just smile and say thank you...please don't spoil others happiness.....

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Um. I didn't plan on. The reason I hate Christmas, has nothing to do with religion. My Dad died 3 days after Christmas, kind of ruins the holiday for me. Even people who don't go to church or believe in god , can celebrate Christmas.
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sorry for your lost....and you are still a beautiful helpful young woman...I'm off to "star" some off your answers.... peaches
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Uncalled for Dustee. Very uncalled for.
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Going off to star a bunch of her answers won't fix this one-
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Rude answer Dustee-very rude.
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Dustee, this would have been better left unsaid. Christmas is a difficult time for lots of people, but to complicate the time of year with the death of a beloved parent is so complicated. This question needed compassion. You made this worse. Cj is asking for suggestions on how to manage under difficult circumstances. This has nothing to do with God.
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Well cj and me have this in common my dad died on the 9 of december almost 7 years ago and xmas isn't the same since so i understand bitter sweet month ... I don't know what to say to cj just remember the good times and take it day by day
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Thank you guys, I guess, I didn't know how to handle this. But thank you all very much for sticking up for me. And you are correct Rath, this had nothing to do with God or church.
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Become a Muslim and say you like Jesus only as a prophet and not for profit

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Huh?
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Get yourself a Christmas present wrap it up and open it

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I used to be a very Christmasy person, I loved everything about it. Loved the baking, the decorations, the tree. I still love it, but it seems like I just don't have time to do the stuff anymore. Maybe it is a night worker problem?

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Nope, I've been this way for awhile. :(
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awww is it just the commercial aspect you don't like? For me it is about spending time with the people I love and seeing them enjoy the decorations, food etc. More about people than presents or religion for me
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I've lost a lot of people I care about around Christmas. To me, all the holiday is, is a constant reminder of what I've lost. My dad passed away 3 days after Christmas. My Grandma (second mom) passed away a day after Christmas, amongst other people I really cared about. Makes it really hard to enjoy the holiday.
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That really does make it tough. I wonder if you could find a way to celebrate their memories, share who they were with others or even just with the family that is still left?
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Well my Dad's side of the family doesn't live near me. They all live four hours away. And most of his brothers/sisters have passed away as well. The Grandma that I lost, was my Dad's mom.
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Was there anything that your dad and grandma really cared about? Something that you could support, like volunteering in their name or something of that nature. Or maybe go through old photos and start a scrap book in their memory?
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I love Christmas, so I'm not sure, but here is what I do to get into it! I love decorating the tree, classic christmas movie night, listen to christmas music on pandora, make/ decorate cookies, ginger bread houses, and making homemade ornaments! ~Remember the true meaning of CHRISTmas~ <3

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Christmas music. Loud.

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Wouldn't you be celebrating Hanukkah instead of Christmas?

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I wasn't raised as a Jew. My family is Jewish, but I am not.
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Oh. I see. Well, volunteering to help others who really need it, like the coats for kids, or caroling at the old folks home (they really appreciate it) might help get the spirit.
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Thank you.
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Light some Christmas candles with a pleasing scent like vanilla or cinnamon, eat some Christmas candy, light some candles, listen to happy Christmas music and dance around. If that doesn't work, there must be someone in your life, bringing you down. Take care.

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Buy a small tree, decorate, Christmas music, candles, and a peppermint patty. Hot chocolate and peppermint schnapps or grand mariner.

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CJ, I am sure with you on this. The way I manage is to do a little bit and get lots of rest and plan to read good books over Christmas. Socialize with people you really love, and buy yourself an indulgent gift. You don't have to do the whole extreme participation thing at all. I'm sorry about your dad. Plan something pleasant with somebody else for that day.

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Thank you for your kind answer to CJ Rathkeale. I can't believe the top one is still up.
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I like that, Rath. Good answer.
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Thank you very much for sticking up for me Rath. I really appreciate that!
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A shame about that one answer above. I'm sorry and I know just how you feel. I'm hoping maybe next year I can have more Christmas spirit since my sister and daughter in law just died, so I am just going to take it easy this year. That is my solution and I think it's perfectly fine. Don't feel bad if you don't feel like trying to do it all. Watch a few old movies on the TV wrapped up in a blanket, treat yourself to some eggnog, and don't feel obligated. It's ok CJ.

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Sorry about your sister and daughter-in-law, Sincerity. I know how you feel (lost a son just before Christmas, but that was a long time ago now). For a few years Christmas just kept it fresh.
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This is so awful for both of you, and for everyone else who lost somebody close around Christmas. It changes everything. I think the answer is to keep things simple, meaningful (and not in any religious sense), and to spend time with people who love you no matter what. Eggnog, old movies, popcorn, thick blankets, pets, and permission to step back and not pretend that Christmas is great.
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Becky, I went up to that first answer and left a comment. I was happy to see yours there.
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So sorry for your losses Sincerity. And thank you very much for sticking up for me. It's greatly appreciated.
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They removed my comments but put them right back up which shocked me. I thought they should have removed that answer because it is speaking of someone's belief system on the forum in a negative way, but they also insisted on keeping that up too. So I don't know why they chose to even kep any of it up. There's more but I can't say here.
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There must be something you care about when it comes to Christmas. Maybe it's the eggnog so overindulgence or perhaps it's the music, some of it is very beautiful. Take what is useful for you from the season. Sometimes that can be the joy and excitement in others.

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Find a person or group that needs help. It can be a food bank, soup kitchen or a family that has suffered a tragedy or falls between the cracks.
Give of yourself and your time. Do it in the spirit of having a great dad. Know that while losing your dad shortly after Christmas was awful you can be glad you had a dad worth missing. You have terrific memories which is better than the alternative.

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X mas music!! X mas concerts!! X mas shopping !

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Not everybody enjoys Christmas, CJ, but it's hard to avoid all the festivity going on around you. If you don't feel like joining in you might take Rathkeale's advice -- read a book, watch a DVD, buy yourself something indulgent, go out for a meal.

I know one guy who put it into verse (and, no, it isn't one of mine). I can only remember the first bit but he called it Bah Humbug!

"I hope it rains on Christmas Eve, I hope it rains like heck,
So Santa Claus will prang his sleigh and break his bloody neck.
I hope it rains on Christmas Day, I hope it bloody pours,
So all those rotten little kids will have to stay indoors."

My friend is an old grump. Don't fall into the same trap. There's a big bucket of fun out there somewhere and it's got your name on it. I hope you find it.

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Great poem. Great answer. Christmas is not cheerful and bright for everyone. These are (almost) good answers to a great question.
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And good morning to you from the dark side of the planet, Mrs.T. (No, we haven't turned to the Evil One -- the sun hasn't come up yet.)
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Haha I love, and can relate with that poem! Thank you.
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Homemade eggnog(it's strong)

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I've seen Christmas specials since I was born and most of them had just that problem... Here's a start watch Charley Brown Christmas then the Grinch then Disney's Scrooge mcduck and then Veggietales' the toy that saved Christmas. That might light your spirits.

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thinking christmas even if i don "t care for christmas but i really believe christmas

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