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is it worth taking the risk if I ask my best friend if she likes me cause I kinda have feelings for her... but I'm just scared that if i ask her i might ruin our friendship and I think she likes me too cause we do this stuff together and yeah... but I like another girl too so im confuse so i need help should i go for my best friend or go for the girl I like? I'm just confuse its bugging me :(

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Perhaps you should wait a little while, and still see if you feel the same way. About either of them. If you still do, that's a tough one. if your best friend has feelings for you, she might be hurt. But that's an IF. You said in a comment that this other girl changed. Did you not like it when she changed? It's all how comfortable you feel. Take your time. Let your head clear, and try to weigh all the pros/cons. Best of luck!!!

Side note: Saw that youre on marching band. I'm on Colorguard!! What instrument do you play!!

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Oh Im in drumline and colorguards are cool they give these effects i the field :)
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Cool. Yeah, but you all keep tempo for the entire show. Kinda important.;)
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Haha yeah... But I'm not really those kids in drumline who think that they can do what ever they want I'm just that kid who likes to be normal not like other drumline people
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Haha. none of our drumline are normal. Theyre all very . . . special. But it's good that you try to be down-to-earth. The world needs more people like that. (sorry if I misinterpreted that.)
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Lol here it's different they think they are better than everybody so I'm just the quiet one
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Awww. At least you aren't afraid to be different!! :) I'm so sad the marching season is over. Did your band make it
to Championships?
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The quiet ones are always the most interesting anyways.
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Sorry to bombard you with replies, but I has to go and sleep. Maybe I'll talk to you tomorrow? * you don't have too- only if you want. I'll be able to survive ;)
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Lol yeah I can tomorrow and yeah we won second place in champs :D and see ya tomorrow :) me i need to sleep
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Just got back from concert
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Sorry just saw this. How'd it go??
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It was fun and my best friend gives me hugs after it so my cousin and my family thought that we are dating and I said no were just friends... So yeah
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Ah. Is this the same girl?
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Yeah! And yesterday she send me a voice thing on this one app called GO chat or whatever the name is and I opened it today and she deleted it... I wonder what it is?
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Oooh. a mystery. Ask her about it!!
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Sorry, as you can see, I'm not the best at making conversation.
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Yeah I know I'm going to ask her what it is about... And she likes to talk to me like those random stuff and we are both weird when we are around each other...
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Oh I didn't see the last one its ok I'm not good either :)
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That's good that you're weird around each other. :) I'm only like that around my friends, and it makes life 10x more interesting.
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Haha yeah and she likes to go next to me when I'm talking to my friends and talk to me but I don't get mad at her
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Thats good. Sorry my iPod is dying. I gotta go. Until we meet again.


Good luck with her Romeo ;)
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Lol but I don't want ruin our friendship tho... And see ya tomorrow I guess or whenever you're free cause my phone has long battery life and tomorrow is friday
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She's not in school so I can't ask her what the message is all about
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So should I ask her If she likes me
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Go for it. I'm asking the guy that I like on Monday (we're also good friends) I seriously hopes this works out for you two. Best of luck and more!!
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Awww cool but my friends said tht I should tell my crush that I like her and after I told her just leave and yeah...
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That's what I would do. Unless she tries to say something of course. And props to you. I'm too chicken to tell him, so I'm having a mutual friend tell him.
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Haha same I'm too chicken to do it... But I'll just tell my crush that I like her and after that I'll hangout with my best friend cause my bestfriend makes me happy that I forgot almost everything :)
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That's great that you have a friend like that. Everyone needs someone like that in their lives. I hope to be around when she tells him, but I don't know.
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Haha you should... Maybe you tell your friend to do it and you hide somewhere so you will know what he's going to say :)
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Brilliant!! Absolutely brilliant!! thank you!
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Haha no prob... Hide in the bush and if he said yes he likes you then you jump out of the bush... Lol Jk :)
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*strokes invisible beard and stares off into space thoughtfully* hmm... Yes, yes that might just work. ;p jk
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Haha sorry I was babysitting my baby niece
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No problem. Real life before random people on the Internet.
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Lol youre not random a random person
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That confused me.
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Oh shoot I mean youre not a random person
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No worries. And thanks. :)
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Did you tell her?? (Sorry if I am getting to personal. Don't be afraid to tell me- I won't take it personally.)
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Oh no not yet I'm too busy maybe Thursday I dunno I'll do it when I'm free :)
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Ah. Again, best of luck. I hope you get some free time ;)
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Haha yeah thnx
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So should I ask my friend out or my crush
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I'd tell your crush. I had my friend tell ask the guy I like if he liked me ( I wasn't around when it happened) and he said no. I'm scared I may have ruined a great friendship, and I don't want that to happen to you.
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Sorry it took me so long to see this >.<
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It's ok I'm sleeping when you replied
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Im in that same predicament. I know how you feel. It's really difficult:(

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Yeah, I don't wanna ruin it but its just i feel like she likes me and she is always there if I'm down and stuff and I feel comfortable with my best friend
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Yes, but it's your choice man! Go with your gut man.
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I'm having that problem to but choose the one you think is best

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Well my friend I'm comfortable with her but I just don't wanna ruin our friendship and I think she likes me so I don't know if I ask my friend out is it gonna be worth taking the risk?
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It is a risk but do what your heart tells you to :)
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I don't know maybe i should give it some more time before I make a move...
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Yea
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First of all calm down you sound freaking out. This isn't a life commitment. Make sure you don't have 'friend' feeling with your friend. If your mature about it the relationship then it won't ruin the friendship. Go with your gut feeling ignore the what ifs and when you picture being with someone who pops into your head first. When you figured out who it is then tell her, girls love to be told if you like them. (personal experience I'm a girl just if your wondering) good luck ;)

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I'm not freaking out its just I'm confuse maybe youre right maybe I'll try asking my friend but if she said she just wanna be friends I'm cool with it and ill just pretend that I'm just kidding like we always do
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Choose the other girl not your friend. Because if the relationship don't work out u don't want to loose ur friendship

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Ok now it's hard for me-.- so I guess I'll give it more time
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If they really are your bestfriend, they will understand!! Go for it! Only if you feel comfortable!

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Ok thnx maybe I'll try asking my best friend if she likes me
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Yeah man! Do what YOU feel is right!
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Thnx :)
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Welcome :)
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Wow that was 13 days late :) lol
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I mean 23 days lol XD
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Lol yeah I'm always on here.
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Lol
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Lol
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Lol... So whats up?
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Nm u?
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I think you should go with the girl you like. Because if you go out with your best friend then you're putting your friendship in a risk. And then the girl you like, as you said, she probably likes you too.

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Maybe I'll try asking the girl I like it just the girl I like is really hard to read... At first time we met we are Soo sweet to each other and one day she just change and I didn't see her anymore at lunch cause we don't have any classes together so we only meet at lunch
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watch it, lost one of my best friends like that...

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Ok thnx now I'm gonna be safe with what I'm gonna do I don't wanna ruin this great friendship I'll let her make a move :)
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Yeah well don't wait forever, and don't tell anyone unless you really really really trust them. Wait until you feel like youve just gotta do it and then go.
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Yeah I'm keeping it to myself I've learned from my last mistakes :)
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