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Should I give a young co-worker that looks up to me advice that I feel is good for him even if it is contrary to his parents beliefs?

I think he should work at his musical goals before continuing his education, he is a good kid and will succeed even if he takes some time off from school, he is a talented rapper and a decent cook besides, but disobeying his parents is not in his nature and unless he stands up for himself he will be on his way to being a dentist before he even gives music a shot. He is 18 and the same qualities that make him a good co-worker also make him want to honor his parents wishes. They will kick him out if he does not start school in the spring, and I am willing to rent him a room and back him up if he wants to go that way, but I feel that offering that option is interfering with his parents wishes, but I also think that because he is 18 I do not need to consider his parents wishes as much as I would if he was younger.

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that's so thoughtful of you. I wish I had friends like you, it's not as though your making him do it your just giving him another option which by the sounds of it he hasn't really had many options in life. I say go for it!! Good luck

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Music isn't a safe gamble and although you are dissing dentists you wouldn't believe the pay they get... I think he is fine the road he is on and we honestly don't need more rap... It's losing its cred every day and its hated already more then disco by alot of people. I don't want to say this stuff cause I hate rap but honestly even any other type of music would be a better option. Besides you are his boss and should stay out of his parents business... You can give him advice but occupational advice doesn't sound like your specialty... Sorry I say no.

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Even if he decides not to pursue a musical career at this time, going to school to become a dentist is waisting his parents money if he has no intention of becoming a dentist or would be miserable being one. If he decided that he wanted to honor his parents wishes by going to college then try to make it as a musician, getting a more generic degree makes more sense. If he really doesn't want to go to college then I don't see a problem with you encouraging him and helping him out because although he is young, he is an adult. However, I would make sure that he understands that even people who are talented don't make it as a professional musician. The odds are against him and he really does need to know that having a college degree is the better gamble. It has to be worth the risk for him to pass up the opportunity to go and having someone who will pay for it. So many people can't go to college because they can't afford it. He might consider going to school part time if he just can't completely ignore his parents wishes. Just a a side comment. Make sure you are trying to help him for the right reasons and not because him being in your life fills some kind of need for you. Please don't be offended because I am very likely totally off base about your relationship with him. You did refer to him as a kid. You are probably really just wanting to help him out because you believe in him and his talent. I'm only saying it because I helped out a younger guy once and didn't realize I was doing it because I liked the attention and not because how I was helping him was really the right thing to be doing. Again, just ignore my side comment if it is offensive with my apologies.

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Hi, thanks for the input, it is interesting to see it now that the whole thing has already played out. You were not totally off base, I was helping him out to feel important in someones life, not entirely, but somewhat. He moved out of his parents place, kept working for me for about another four months, then went back to his parents place and is now in college. He is making time for his music at the expense of his education now, and is in danger of failing all three of his courses this semester. He still crashes on our couch once in a while, and I'll always have the dudes back, but the relationship is no longer a mentor/student one, but just buds. Thought you might find the update interesting, cheers!
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maybe you should stay out of it. if you want to help him, encourage him to stay in school. how awful would you feel if he takes your advice & it destroys his future. be very careful.

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