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Do you think my husband should leave me to go hunting an hour and a half away from me this weekend?

I am 37 weeks and 5 days pregnant right now. My husband wants to go hunting back in his home town with his dad this weekend which is an hour and a half away. I've told him I'm not comfortable with him being away like that when labor is getting this close. Especially when my doctor told me yesterday that with how I am progressing I could go any day. I just thought I would try to get some other people's opinions since my husband doesn't think it should be a big deal if he goes this weekend and I go into labor because he says he could get back in time and he just wants to go hunting. This is also our first child.

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It wouldn't be right if he left you under the condition you are in. This is because you could go into labor anytime, and considering that it is your first child, you wouldn't want to risk any complications. Request him to stay or postpone the hunting, just for the sake of your first child.

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Probably not because if you go into labor you would need someone to drive you to the hospital. he should reschedule the day to go hunting. Just tell him how you feel about it. Hopefully he will understand.

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He really should not be doing that right now. I'm not how that makes sense in his head, but he should really be there with you. He can go hunting some other time!

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Let him do what he wants to do. Find a neighbor or someone reliable to be on standby to take you to the hospital when you go into labor.

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I don't really think that letting him "do what he wants to do" is a great idea... especially when he's not really being considerate of my feelings to the entire situation....which also includes him thinking he's going to hang out with another girl while he's down there that he knows I don't like her and that he's not suppose to be around her unless I'm with him....
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We are 100% in agreement that he should not be away when you could go into labor at any time. I think his behavior is rude and disrespectful to you and the baby.
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The truth is that no one can actually stop him from getting in his truck and driving away, can they? Unless you physically restrain him, but that would be illegal. Should you stop him? The question is why would he be so lacking in concern that he would risk being gone when the baby could arrive any day?
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No, I say let him go hunting, make an ass out of himself, and possibly miss the most important event of his own life which is the birth of his child.
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If he is really has so little concern for you and the baby that he would rather go "hunting" to be with another woman, you may as well give him enough rope to hang himself. He will be the bad guy.
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It is better to find out now if he is going to be there for you and the child. Let's see if he does the right thing without nagging and pleading with him to stay. If he goes to visit his other woman when you are about to give birth, assume that you are in this parenting thing alone.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope you have a delivery that is free of complications, a healthy baby, and people at your side who truly care.
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That is why I suggested that you get someone lined up who is reliable (not him) who you can depend on in your time of need.
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He has no way of knowing if the birth will be fast (45 minutes) or take hours. I know someone and her daughter who both have delivered that fast (an hour or less). It is foolish on his part to go hunting.
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Let him go so you can find out for yourself what kind of partner and dad he is going to be. Put him to the test. If he misses the birth, it will be his loss and regret forever.
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I'll take your husband's point of view.

But its hunting season...

Hunting is a big stress reliever for a lot of hunters, and adding a child to the family is a big stressor.

Is there cell phone coverage where he is hunting? If so, he'll be there when you need him.

As long as he can get back to you in 2 hours as soon as you call, there shouldn't be a problem. First borns usually take a while in labour and very rarely less than 2 hours.

If his hunting territory is a cell phone null zone, then he probably shouldn't go.

(Personally, I would not go, but I can see why he would)

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He'll argue that he has cell service there...but considering the entire area he's in down there barely has service...He can barely get a bar or 2 at his parents house so going out hunting away from any cell tower...he's not going to have any service... and I know this from experience last year when he went hunting and I couldn't get a hold of him at all any day he was hunting.
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Do it the opposite way. Have him call you every 2 hours instead and if he can't then he needs to come home.
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Oh and I should also add to this that he thinks he needs to hang out with another girl while he's down there and I'm here....which he knows he's not suppose to be with this girl especially unless I am with him because of the crap she has said, done, and pulled in the past...
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He should have gone LAST weekend!

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Simply put....you made it clear you don't want him to go, so he shouldn't be going!

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There's nothing you can do he's thinking of him self right now what can you do to make him care about you nothing just pray that God will change his heart he is selfish and wrong

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I think that if you guys are having your first baby and you're due any day now then he shouldn't really go... But then I understand that when the baby comes, he'll wanna be with the baby and won't get to go at all. So you guys need to talk it over. Good luck and congratulations about your first baby :)

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Yes it's ok all dads need to hunt a little but if your pregnant then maybe no

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I have no problem with him hunting...and my dad has even offered that he can go hunting with him this year (even though its not the same as hunting with his own dad) because then they could be hunting right outside the town that we live in and I know that he would have phone service so I could get a hold of him here where as his hometown I know he won't have hardly any service there whatsoever.
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He needs to be close to home.

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Why would he want to take a chance to miss such a moment in your lives? Especially since you could go at anytime, it's not like you're only 20wks?!!?

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Definitely let him go! IF you go into labor while he's gone, you can call him & he'll be back in an hour or two. You won't even be in the hospital by then. Docs want you to be in FULL labor before showing up in the hospital. First child... I guarantee you'll be in labor for well over 10 hours. Enjoy your new alarm clock!

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You need to show him some articles that show how fast a woman can deliver a baby, maybe he doesn't understand.

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He must think you can handle things on your own somehow. Maybe you have family like your mom and your sister near by. If that is the case usually the new dad takes a back seat for most of the labor time. That is how it is in my family and with my own daughters (they want mom). but if he is the only person in this ordeal he needs to stay close by.

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