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How can I deal with anger issues?

when people hurt my feelings I tend to explode at them. anger issues definitely run in my family and everyone else in my family get physical but I kinda just yell at people but when I'm not mad I'm super sweet and nice and I hate hurting people so I want to be able to deal with being mad better so any ideas?

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Break the goal down into subgoals. You can get angry, but just not explode or show it. First practice prevention of the explosion. Then you can address the anger. Pause, breathe, and look deeply at the rationale behind your anger; yeah, it might be something annoying, insulting, etc... but is it really worth it to explode? To...do...what...? They have a right to their opinions and you yours. Imagine yourself coolly moving on and you will. It may be hard at first, but with practice you'll get there. I used to explode too. Just practice turning your analytical skills on yourself, and have confidence in your self and ability. You'll get there. At least you'll be the positive one if you don't respond to other people's negativity. Then they = negative and you = positive. :)

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Thanks. :) I'll try that.
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That works.
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the only thing i can think of is to go to Anger Management classess

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Breath in and out, walk away, punch something *not someone*, take some anger management classes. Be the bigger person.

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Np
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sometimes i play basketball when get angry

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Does it make you feel better?
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just like try to calm down and think about something else

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your welcome :-) you seem nice
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when you get angry just count 1 2 3 4 5 ....up to hundred!

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it doesn't works for me.... :/
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nice to see you after soo many days....
where were you?busy?
how r you?
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sorry for too many questions... :p :)
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When I get really mad I say "sorry I have to go" then calmly walk away and freak out around the corner.

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Take Action

Your anger is telling you something. The first part of dealing with anger, as discussed, is examining it and listening to what it’s telling you about your life. The next part involves taking action. Knowing why you’re upset can go a long way, but eliminating your anger triggers and fixing problems that make you angry are equally important. You may not be able to eliminate everything in your life that causes you anger and frustration, but cutting out what you can should go a long way.

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We all experience anger. Managed in healthy ways, anger can be a positive thing -- a red flag that something’s wrong, a catalyst for change, a good self-motivator. Handled poorly, anger can cause health and relationship problems. (See this article for more on the negative effects of anger.) For many, especially those who didn’t have positive role models for anger management while growing up, dealing with anger can be confusing; it’s hard to know what to do with such a powerful and potentially destructive emotion. Examining your anger and using other anger management techniques can positively impact your health, relationships and overall happiness. It's simple to do. Here are some proven anger management strategies.
Understand Your Anger

Dealing with anger is much easier when you know what you’re really angry about. Sometimes people may feel generally irritable because of stress, sleep deprivation, and other factors; more often, there’s a more specific reason for the anger. Either way, you can become more aware of what’s behind your anger if you keep an anger journal (a record of what makes you angry throughout the day) for a few weeks, then talk it over with a good friend, or even see a therapist to uncover underlying sources of anger, if you find yourself stumped. Once you are more aware of your sources of anger, you can take steps to deal with it.
Express Yourself—Constructively

Research shows that writing about anger and expressing it constructively can help reduce negative mood and even pain, particularly if the writing leads to ‘meaning-making,’ or speculation into the causes of the anger. This research, as well as other research on the benefits of journaling, supports the effectiveness of writing down your feelings and working through them on paper. The written expression of anger allows you to actively do something with your anger rather than just letting it make you feel bad.
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Don’t Obsess

Ruminating on your anger isn’t actually helpful. Studies show that, among other things, those who have a tendency to ruminate over situations that have made them angry in their past tend to experience higher blood pressure as a result, putting them at greater risk for organ damage and associated health problems. Trying to solve a problem is a good idea, but stewing in your anger is not.
Don’t Over-talk It

Discussing your anger is a tricky thing. Talking about your anger with a trusted friend can be an effective strategy for dealing with anger -- to a point. It can help you better understand your feelings, brainstorm problem-solving strategies, and strengthen your relationship. However, there’s also evidence that repeatedly discussing topics that make you angry with your friends can actually make you both feel worse, and increase stress hormones in your blood. If you’re dealing with anger by talking to friends about it, it’s best to talk about a situation only once, exploring solutions as well as your feelings. Most of us --especially the women -- have been involved in conversations that are basically complaint sessions or downward spirals of negative emotion; it’s best to change the subject to a happier topic before it gets that far. If you find yourself wanting to talk a lot about what is making you angry, it might be a good idea to schedule a few sessions with a therapist, who may have some effective ideas on dealing with anger.
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Punch it all out to a pillow! ^_^

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Lol but I love pillows. :(
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When we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself “This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation worse.” Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to distance our self from the emotion of anger.

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play a violent sport

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I fence.. does that count?
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not bad ..but i meant like boxing or karate ..something with ur hands :)
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Try doing whatever you can to lose any type of contact with them, call the police and descrobe the stalker, tell anyone you know about this. I mean people you can trust.

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ok well one thing you should never do is cut your self because thats bad ,so you should just try to calm down and punch something but not a person or you can try to hear music or just walk away ........!!!!!!!!

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Count to 10. If your extremely angry count to 100. Just and 0 for the amount of anger you have.

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Just find a really close friend and talk to them about it. Physical release of anger is only going to make your anger increase and holding it in could make you really hurt yourself/someone else.

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HelloPikachu

Listen to a song, (I think you should hear "50 Ways to Say Goodbye) or you can get a rock, write on it about what you are upset about, and throw the rock as hard as you can (don't throw at people) or you can throw it in a garbage can! :)

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Cool I'll try that :)
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Trust me, it feels like you are throwing something you are angry about but in rock form! My mom told me the story of a sad and angry person who did the same thing and he is fine!
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That's one very good way of dealing with it.
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Try to also put "unconditional" love in front of you as best as you can other than just being super nice and sweet cuz that changes depending on your mood. You know that people and the world we are living in are not perfect, right? In addition to that, be quick to forgive just for own good because you and everyone else including myself, already have and will still hurt others in one way or the other with or without realizing it. Think of it this way: If you hurt someone and pissed them off so mad whether intentionally or unintentionally, how would you want them to handle the situation and avoid any escalations? Would you want them to calmly make you realize how badly you hurt them and still forgive you and love the same in-spite of what you did? If yes, then see yourself becoming that understanding person, imperfect as everyone else but with a big forgiving and resilient heart. This is also beneficial for your health as well. Good(light) overcomes bad(darkness).... Remember the golden rule? "Treat others as you would want them to treat you" It works.
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Yeah! :D
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buy a punching bag, it helps me alot

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that makes more sence
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I find the nearest comfortable spot to lay down. I then stay completely still and focus completely on something other than the problem. It takes a few minutes, but it has always worked for me.

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say in your mind, i am not angy, i am thinking andgry thoughts. dont let the anger take control of you.

or you could close your eyes and count to ten.

i know alot about this stuff because i can get very angry sometimes because of my condition, but dont worry about it too much

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you have to polite with the people's those ignore you

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you said when people hurt your feelings, you get angry, are you angry because what the person is saying, is it truth to what they say? If so, just look at them with a smile and walk on with your head up and if its a good thing go on with your day and say, thank you... if its not truth to it, remember this; "if it don't apply let it fly"...life is too short to let people make you angry...This is growing up in the adult world. REMEMBER AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU ARE STILL PRETTY AND YOU KNOW YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON.

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I m jus like u n i tend 2 hit or bite but a better way is to try n break down the way u explode at them into a harmless thing.

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You have taken the first step by asking how. determination and self control is it. when you are angered, take a deep breath, swallow your saliva for a couple of times, then smile. the reaction that would be followed if at all, will not be explosive or harsh but rather mild

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Looks like you are a very emotional person which is very good for a girl :)) To deal with the negative emotions just try to focus on something good. Also, you may try to be alone for a while and listen to a nice music that you like a lot till your anger is gone. Some people use boxing pear. They are punching it till they get rid of the anger. The most important thing here is to work with your anger after you got rid of it. When it is gone find 21 positive sides of that situation which made you angry. Every situation of our life is a lesson.
Everything in this world has two sides: positive and negative ones. Everything! Your goal is to start focusing on the positive side...

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Any time ... :))
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Be calm!

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Thank you. That's do helpful. :)
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Then give me a HELPFUL click!
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Lol but I was being sarcastic.
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Thanks , I am humorous!
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Sure. You're welcome. :P
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therapy

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Make a goal to be calm and have patience for one whole month, hope that works

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well i have anger issues and here is what i do when i start to get angry i just walk away from whatever or whoever is making me angry and then i go to a quiet room in my house like my room for instance and listen to my favorite music and then i meditate

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I just punch my Yoshi plush's HUGE nose, and play my 3DS/ Wii, and I'm a girl! Then, I play and make videos with my Toad plush! (Or, if I can't do those things, I just call my friend, and talk about random Mario games.) HOPE I HELPED! ;-D

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Being born with Corrosive Tourette's Syndrome I know all about dealing with anger issues. Though I will always have the mild tic and twitches and muscle spasms...the corrosive part (Anger) is something I can control) My methods are simple and may work for others as well. When I feel an onset of anger. My Tools are:
~ A journal that you can start WRITING down everything you want to scream out in anger about .....believe me I used this when I first learned to MAINTAIN my anger and you should see how messed up and scribbled my writing was when I was angry and the swearing I did ...HOLY Poop!! It was not a pretty sight... but it was the number one thing all those years ago that really helped me out and starting me on my way to controlling my anger.
~I have a cloth that I carry with me to bite down hard on to ease up on the explosion I can feel coming on.
More in the comment section from me.

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~Leave little notes around the house with things like *Go for a walk,but don't kill anyone along the way (I find if I add some humor to my note *TOOLS* it helps) or *Whoa slow down Wonder Woman He man is still single* little notes like that.
~Go to a quiet area and take slow breaths in and out
~Get a PHONE FRIEND *Release it on*
Make sure to.........call the friend ( CONFIRM AND ASK PRIOR TO THE CALL and before anger sets in(kind of like a prepare in case of if he/she can be your anger support before you start talking)
There are many more tools I use for all kinds of anger situations but those are the beginning ones I have used and still do once in awhile to this day.
If you need more help or a support ear...let me know. :)
Good Luck and I hope this helps you a bit. :)
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take some deep breaths and just walk away (i know its hard but when you have a job you just cant explode when your mad).

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love u <3

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Hit a pillow

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Lol but I love pillows.
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Think everything will pass and ill turn out fine. Think that this won't affect my future in the long run and in a little while this won't even be memorable. no classes will calm you down

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just start counting.........100...99...98....97.....96.............9..8..7..6......2..1 seriously it works..........

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Take a deep breath and think, "Is it really worth it?"

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First realize that anger is a CHOICE. Sometimes you just need to choose your battles. Some things are just not worth getting yourself worked up about. These smaller annoyances can only rob you of your peace of mind. Think about it. What are some things you recently exploded over that were not that significant? Another thing is to realize the body cues right before your anger rises (flushed face, clenched fists, blood pressure increasing, etc.), and, once being aware of these body cues, to disengage from the anger situation, take a time-out for awhile, and then go back to discuss the incident that triggered your frustration. Then you need to calmly discuss your feelings. You do this by using "I" statements, e.g., "When you do____, I feel____" instead of "When you do___, you make me feel___," thus, not putting the other on the defensive, but merely explaining how you feel. These are 2 adult things you can do. I hope these new behaviors can help you.

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Buy a stressball :)

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Rengamer - you already took the 1st step - realize you have anger issues. access how bad they are - are you just overreacting a little or are you enraged ready to explode? either one is serious and not to be taken lightly - so get help from wherever and whoever you can. the answers you need and the questions you have cannot be addressed over the internet - you need to find real people help- someone you trust, but not a peer - get an adult you trust and if that person seems to blow you off - find someone else. you are very wise to be asking this question - good luck in your search.

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Well you could write the problem on a piece of paper, put it in a box, and come back to it later! See how you feel about it then! :)

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i have major anger issues too so dont worry ;) but all i do before i explode is i think if its relly neccesary to flip.i also have to be super careful because i am a very big and strong girl who can really hurt someone.i have hurt someone and i felt really bad afterwords.(im not trying to make myself sound like i am super strong or anything) but i have bruised peoples arms and made them go numb just from playing shot for shot! my and i really connect so when ever i am really mad he sends the class to the library and lets me flip :) not sure if thats helpful or not but thats all i got :)

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Just think about what someone looks like when they freak out in public, don't embarrass yourself. If you start to lose control, don't say anything until you calm down

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I get glass figurines or cheap vases and break them with a sledgehammer...

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When you feel you want to get angry, just be calm and slow down to think it over. Anger can't solve your problem but only make you unhappy.

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Don't focus on anger, it will just make it worse, focus on happiness, it will prevent your anger from taking you over. But instead, have happiness take over.

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Study martial arts. Take up some entertainment like movie's, video games or
Reading or hang out with friends that understand u when ur angry!

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i too have this prob but when i am angry i used to hear melodies:)

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