By a process known as desensitization. You need to seek out situations which challenge you a bit, but are still familiar enough to be somewhat comfortable. Gradually you need to push your self further and further outside your comfort zone. It's not going to be easy, and you may decide that you don't want to do it alone and seek out the help of a qualified therapist. But either way, you do have it within you to change this around for yourself; wanting to change is the very first step.
Hypnotherapy. Fear of social interaction is not "normal" but a habit you've acquired over time. Anything you've learned, you can unlearn. Hypnosis will work at the subconscious level and change that behavior to remove the fear and anxiety you may have in being in a social environment. Look up a good hypnotherapist in your area and have a chat with them. This should be a "one and done" treatment.
The answer to your question is to buy the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." This was written by Dale Carnegie, probably before your parents were born, but it has remained firm favorite for decades because it WORKS!!!! There is no better book on how to relate to other people and it helps you understand how to get the responses you want when in a social situation. Mr Amazon.com has copies right now for about $15, so all you have to do now is read and understand the principles and your shyness and awkwardness will be ancient memories.... I cannot recommend it too highly - it transformed my life and that of my two daughters - as it can for you and your destiny. lol....
You walk into a room and see group of people, jump right in there; you will be surprised how easily and quickly you are accepted. It also will prevent you standing there, sticking out like a 'sore thumb'
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I remember the day i was in a cross roads, and working out some issues in counseling, and I had a panic attack OMG I truly thought that I was dying. My counselor gave me some good advice it was to first slow down your thinking, and take deep long breaths. It did help and since I was working on some really serious issues she told me I might want to consider medication, which I did take for two weeks. Then I gave it to God and he helped me through it all. There is a great book called the anxiety cure I think that'she name by Archibald? Not sure of the name but he talks about many scenarios and how people learned to get over anxiety. It depends on your situation and how deep your anxiety is. Praying for you. Hope this helps?
Pray to God our Holy God and ask Him to forgive you of all your sin and ask Jesus into your heart and then tell Jesus as you told us whats going on inside of you and He is a dear friend of yours now and you are in the family of God and now when you pick up the Bible you will be able to understand it now. Hey this is a great day for you. You are now born again and now you do not have to have this at all you are a new baby now learn to do the best that God wants you to do.
I use to think people will think badly of me and judge me And i use to have a fear that ’ll be watched or evaluated by others. So i thought i had to be perfect in everyway so i could add up and i didint really feel Like making new friends i was just so unsocial but no i have got to the point were enough is enough i don't need to be afraid of what people think of me and How they see me! My adivce! Do you have a “fake smile” or a “real smile”?
Most of us go about our day while putting on that little upturn of our mouths when we order a coffee, respond to a customer, or a million other daily activities.
But is it real?
By real, I mean is it a GENUINE smile?
I bet it isn’t. You know how you can tell?
It’s all in the eyes. read on in the comments for more deatils!