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I am in love with the same girl that my best friend is. Should he ask her out or should I?

We both like the same girl... She's pretty much perfect. I really want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if she likes me as much as I like her. I know my friend really likes her too, and we are both sort of secretly competing... It sounds horrible to put it that way, but we both know that we both like her. It's only a matter of time before he asks her out. He's danced with her once, and I'm pretty sure he has a bit more of a bond with her. He's already been out with another girl... I think she knows that he really likes her. But I have not really expressed how much I like her. I can make her laugh, I can talk to her, and I'm sorta fun to be around I guess. I know I'm not the best guy out there, but I just feel that I need her. I'm afraid that if I ask her out, that she'll say no, but if she does say yes, I'm afraid that my friend will pretty much hate me. I really don't have a clue of what to do. I'm just afraid that if I don't, that he'll get her, and I'll never really get another chance. And if I do, It won't work out. Please Help. Any advice would be really appreciated.

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talk to him about it tell him you really like this girl and that your going to ask her out he should understand that you really like her and he might like her too and say that he is going to ask her out too which is understandable if he freaks and doesn't want to be your friend then he doesn't deserve to have a friend like you that cares about his feelings if the girl doesn't like you then it's better to know then too regret never doing it at all

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I'll think about trying that... Thanks!!!
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bk no prob hope it goes well :) (and Yes I have no idea what bk means I just like saying it)
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you got nothing to lose if he"s a really close freind he'll get over it

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You guys are acting as if she likes both of you.
It doesn't matter who asks her first. He could ask her first-but she might reject him. You could ask her first, but she might reject you. She might reject both of you. Dont be so confident.

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Thing is... I'm not confident at all D:
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That's not what I meant.
But dude, forreal. You are not "in love" with this girl. If you were, you wouldn't be asking strangers on ask.com what to do.
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I think that you should try to talk to your friend about this. Secretly competing for a girl probably won't totally wreck your friendship, but it could put it at risk. So, make sure that both of you understand that whomever the girl decides to go out with, you two should still remain friends. If your friend listens and is understanding, he will understand and accept this.

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SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST. Be confident and have faith in yourself. Don't wait for him to make the first move. If you don't try and he gets the girl then you will always wonder what could have been. Trust someone who has been there many times and didn't move first

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I totally know what you mean! If you like her enough to take that risk, do it! If she isn't worth it, neither is the risk. Follow your heart is all I can say because it is ultimately your decision, I can just give you advice. As for the friend issue, use your words and talk it out. Don't get violent, be calm. If he hates you, he's not worth your friendship. If he's a true friend, he'll stick right by your side.

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Thanks for the help!
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No problem I love helping out...
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I'm actually going through this as well... but with a girl as my best friend... which makes it so much harder. All I can tell you is if you really and truly like this girl, tell your friend and maybe he'll understand.. If that doesnt work tell her! Another alternative is fight as hard as you can for her...

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