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If you have been adopted do you think
That your adoptive parents should tell
You about it when you are old enough
To understand

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Depends on the reason for adoption. I adopted my daughter and she has known ever since.
Susan Atkins.... one of the Manson family murders had her son taken away and was adopted. That child NEVER needs to learn about his mother and where he came from.

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I tend to agree with you,but what happens if that child ever caught a whiff of the real past?
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If the child has questions.... they should be answered honestly. Even if Susan Atkins child.... Zezozos Zadfrack was to find out that that was his real name.... he needs to be told the truth. Nothing good comes from lies.
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i think they should tell their kids as soon as they are old enough to understand what they mean.

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Agree with you thx
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no problem:)
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Yes, because if you find later you want to know why they didn't tell you earlier. Better to know earlier because you can easier accept it.

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Thank you
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You are very welcome :)
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of course! I think any age before being a teenager is good, because it would hurt the kid very bad if they are old enough to realize you hid a huge secret for a laarge part of their life

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Yes!

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We have 2 adopted kids (now 19 and 17) they have always known they are adopted .

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Good to know,no issues for them?
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Not really. We speak about it from time to time. I have ALWAYS made sure that they understand that they weren't just given up. I make sure that they know that their birth mothers both loved them so much that they did the most difficult thing ever. They love them so much that knowing that they were not yet capable of taking care of their baby. Many women aren't able to do thus even though it would be the best thing for their baby.
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Yes I think so and I hope I get to meet my real parents someday

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Do you ever think that might not go
So well. I do know one young lady who found her mother, when it all
Boiled down to it the mother did not
Want a relationship, very upsetting
For the young lady
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