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What does it mean if a guy says he wants to spend time with me but can't date right now?

I went on my first date with a guy. he was really nice! he paid for dinner and we both had a really good time. 1 week after the date he texted me that he had been doing a lot of thinking and he wanted to spend time with me but couldn't date me because of some family problems... every time we see each other now there is just awkward silence and if I break it he shoots down conversations... any suggestions?

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im sorry to say this because you seem like a really nice girl, but it sounds like he was just trying to let you down easy. i could be wrong, maybe he just doesn't want a relationship right now. but, don't worry there are a ton of guys out there :)

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Maybe he likes you and wants to see how you are... or his parents wont let him date

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I like that thought. That is a very safe possibility.
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Exactly what he said. He can spend time with you, but can't date.

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CAn u vote for mine please :D
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I don't give people votes who ask for it.
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It could be that he likes you but like he said, has family problems. Maybe he doesn't want to get attached yet. Believe him.

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Can yo vote for mine then please :D
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It simply means he just doesn't have time to date you, but wants to.

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Face up to it, he doesn't think your date went as well as you did. Ouch. THAT hurts. But evidently he has some different interests than you or whatever. Not everyone matches up with everone else that they look at. I'm sorry, but it's really pretty unlikely that he's being truly honest with you, but rather he's trying to be nice and let you off easily. Keep your head up, and you'll be fine... You can even act like you believe him, but you need to start looking elsewhere...

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Agreed
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He probably can't. And there are reasons that make sense.

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