Be there for her. Don't yell at her, or upset her about it. That will only make it worse. Be understanding. Let her know you really care. Try to talk to her about it. Cutting is an addiction. She might need therapy or counseling for it. Good luck!
I used to have the same problem that you do. I really suggest that you get help, it works better than you think, and it was the difference between life or death for me. Some of the things that helped me get over cutting were just drawing fake cuts on my arm, getting fake blood and putting it on my arm, cutting something else, such as an apple, writing how I was feeling, and the rubber band trick. (The rubber band trick is keeping rubber bands loosely on your wrist, and just snapping them when you feel like cutting.) Most people do not realize that cutting is and addiction, and it can be just as bad or worse than drugs. Just as drugs, one of the biggest elements in quiting cutting is self-control. When you feel like cutting, get yourself involved in something else to take your mind off of it. Like I said before, Therapy would be best. If you do get into therapy though, understand that simply going there will not help. You have to be active in your treatment. You don't have to do this alone. You deserve all the help you can get. Just remember people DO care about you, and you are important in this world. Read on the comments for more advice!:)
Get her in to her GP for a referral for counseling services.. Cutting goes beyond her feelings of anger.. Please seek help for her ASAP.. There are underlying issues that, unfortunately, need professional intervention to bring out..
dont get mad at her or demean her for cutting herself. try and see through her eyes and talk to her and try to understand. let her cry on your shoulder and let her know she can tell you how she fells without being judgemental. seek counselling to but try and be there for her but give her space as well
1. She's (around) my age! 2. Does she have any disabilities? If so, there is nothing you can do about it. Trust me! My older brother has a disability, so I know what I'm saying... There's no cure....... YET.
I have been in this situation myself so i know how she feels. You need to just understand and support her. DONT threaten to punish her if she doesnt stop and DONT take away her privledges. This just makes things worse. What you can do is support her and know that it is a long hard journey and it wont happen overnight. Sit down and talk to her. Find out what makes her mad and try stop the problem. You can also get her a stress ball to squeeze when she gets angry instead. Definatley talk to a consiler but dont force her to go if she really really doesnt want to. To stop she has to want to. Hope this helped (:
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I've been there, done that. PArents knowing is really hard, i was that age when it happend. It's best not to presure her, just dont judge. IF i could telll my parents to do anything, I would tell her it's okay, and not sign her up to go to hospital or something. Try to get her to explain why, she probally has a whole life you dont know about and u need to get into that. Talk to her friends, her boyfriend, just break through that wall! it's extremly important u get to know who she is first. Also, entroduce her to the "butterflie Project" It's helpful. As well as "TWLOHA" (to write love on her arms) Play happy music.
they are usually refered to as cutters. there are a few reasons why people cut themselves. self mutelation is some times self hatred, or a control issues , a release of emotions by the act of cutting . the pain that they feel , they control. the act of control makes one feel better. THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO PUT THEM IN THE HOSPITAL. behavior like this is not very easily solved and most likely leads to more self destructive behavior.
I am 24 and I started cutting around your daughter's age. The fact that you seem to be seeking help is a very good thing. Be supportive of her, try to help her figure out exactly what motivates and triggers her. Don't make her feel ashamed about it - try to rather make her aware of how much you love and care for her. Help her find something that she is passionate about and that can distract her from self harm. I'm so very sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going through this - it is a terrible thing for anyone involved: parent and child. If you need any advice or moral support feel free to contact me, it is a subject that I have a lot of personal experience in and I will be happy to answer any questions for you to the best of my knowledge and experience.
Your daughter is lucky to have a mom like you. I had self-harmed for about five years, and when i finally decided to seek help it was to late. Just be very supportive and DO NOT tell her that she is bad because she does it. defiantly get her scheduled with a therapist, so she can speak with a person, other than a family member. A lot of people that i know do ont feel comfortable talking to their parent or family. Self-harming is a horrible addiction and can turn fatal. If it continues to spiral out of control, she may end up in a mental hospital, or a residential Treatment Center, which is a place you do not want her at. Believe me. Don't be mad, or scream, just be concerned. I hope the best for you and your daughter. If you need anything, just let me know and i will be happy to help.