I lost my husband when we were only 42......it was the most horrible thing I ever experienced. Since then, I have lost my mother and father and many beloved relatives and pets. The first death is always the most difficult because you haven't established coping skills. After you experience more and more, you learn that death is as much a part of life as birth, birthdays, and other life experiences. If your aunt lived a long and happy life, that is about the best senario for a death. It is always so sad when someone dies young. So, be grateful for a long and happy life. Celebrate the good things in her life. If she was young, seems to me being a person of faith helps you cope, because with my husband, I came to accept that it was just his time. That was 21 years ago, and God has given me a very good life afterwards. It is normal to grieve and you must let that happen. But slowly you will come to accept it and be grateful for the years you got with her.
First of all I am sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to think how it is to loose somebody because of all the people I know I know none that have died, except for one of my pet dogs and that was pretty hard for me. Well, how I got over my dog dying was by thinking hes in heaven now and he's been a good dog. But if a relative died I think you should do your best in life so they can be proud of you while you're on earth. Hope this helped.
My sister died 5 months ago, and I still grieve. I say, just go with it. As long as you're safe and don't get depressed, it's ok to grieve your loss. Things will get better naturally, but you don't get over it really. Sorry about your loss, dear.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is just going to take time. You have to mourn and get it out. Feeling the loss is part of life. Try to focus on the memories of the good times you have had and not that she isn't here.
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Don't force yourself to get over it. Allow yourself to grieve fully and for a long time. Reflect on what made her so special Try and be like that to someone else
She was always glad to see you She always listened to your life tales She always sympathised with you She always had nice food and treats Her place was always nice to go to She had some really nice meals She took you seriously She was just kind.
She will visit you in your dreams Have a notepad ready to write it down
Soon enough you will be consoling others with your wisdom.
I would think about all the good times you have had with her, and make a little photo album to carry with you. Have pictures of funny moments especially. I can't really remember what my parents did, but when I was in 2nd grade, I lost 3 cats and my great-grandmother, grand-mother, and grand-father. I was so so sad. For my animals, I just thought about what they were doing in heaven. I was thinking how they are probably peeing all over heaven, because they all died for medical reasons. I had to put one down right before I went to Cancun for spring break. i would just think that she is in a better place now. Also, only think happy thoughts. But in all, everyone needs some time to talk it out and cry it out. If she was suffering from a medical conditions, think about how now that burden is lifted off of her shoulders! Just remember, don't less this one death affect the rest of your life. Hope this helps! I am really sorry for your loss. I hope you will feel better. Good luck healing!
Don't get over with it. You have to accept it. It will take a while but over time you will come to turns with your aunts death and she will be a happy memory. The dead never really leave us. Whether its a religion or superstion I won't say. What I mean is that she will always be in your heart and is a part of who you are. Be glad you met such a wonderful person and know she is in a better place. I'm really sorry for your loss and I hope this helped. Remember that she would want you to move on with your life. It's hard but you can do it!
I'm sorry for your loss. This is something you never get over but learn to live without. I lost my grandma over 17 years ago and I miss her every day. Just know she is in a better place and watching over you.