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Im 14 and i am dating the most popular girl in the school, all is good except she wants to have safe sex. should i shouldnt i?

she said she is gonna break up with me if i don't. weve been dating since 4th grade.

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no! are you stupid, that is cray cray

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If u want to

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no you're wrong sweetie ugh you shouldnt even be asking this question ok tell her if thats the choice you would rather not have sex and if she breaks up with you shes not worth it.stand your ground man
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How old are you guys? College?
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oh, wait.
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I take it back.
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Bow >:3
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Hi!!!!!!! I'm a girl with a guy name lmaooo Merry Christmas.
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Hi, I hope everything goes well :)
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thanks! same with you.
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You shouldnt if you question it then no ; is she worth it honeslty at 14 years old she acting like a stuck up b$tch .. She doesnt love you or even like you if she's giving u an ultimatum - pathetic lol

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As opposed to unsafe sex...? What's the question here? Are you nervous? Unsure? Do you want unprotected sex...? Give us more info.

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No. If she will break up with you she's not a good girlfriend. Think about it. condoms break. in a year from now when you have a baby you will think you were stupid. it's not worth it. trust me.

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No. I know she wants safe sex but there is still a chance she could get pregnant. Also, wait till marriage. It will make it more enjoy able. DONT BE PRESSURED!!!! It's not worth it. Your still young. Enjoy it. I'm not kidding. That's what I think.

Also she only wants your body. She doesn't want to know you. If she will dump you for it, she is Definitly not worth it

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Well bro its totally ok to be in a relationship when u r 14. But u really should not have sex on that young age.
Just remember one thing relationship should not be all about sex.

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No bro she's not worth it. If shes going to break up for not having s3x your probably not her first,or second,or third,or fourth,heck probably not even her 5th or 6th.

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LOVE your profile pic.!!!!!!!!!!!:)<3
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No!!!! omg no!!

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Don't do it, she's probable been with the whole team. Just wait awhile :D

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Yeah the football team and basketball team, the soccer team the baseball team the water polo team. All the Teams
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Yup, yup ^.^ you forgot swim team c;
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im in 8th grade
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If she's threatening to dump you if you don't do what she wants, sorry, she doesn't really love you. You're better off with someone else.

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obviously shes "popular" because shes a skank so dump her skanky butt

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Ur 14. That's all I'm gonna say. And dude, do u love her for her or for her popularity?

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dont listen to people telling you to "wait" thats stupid. teens and younger dont wait anymore! haha thats laughable at best! teens for the most part will do what they want to do. its apart of gaining some life experience. just BE SAFE. use condoms and lube so the condom doesnt break and as soon as you bust a nut, then pull out and thats it! you should also make sure shes on BC. so youll have protection on both ends. that will cover all your bases!

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that's stupid. she is too fast. it doesn't matter how long you've been dating sorry. shes just a slut.

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Fast assss lil girl!

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Do middle school relationships last?
Does teen sex end well?
No.
If you have sex at such a young age, you will regret it the rest of your life.
Never Shout Never made a song called ''Losing it". Listen to it. He is sad and confused about his choice.
In the end, it's your choice, not mine, not hers, not his, yours. Just make the right choice.

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no im also 14 too. and im waiting for the right one. and if i waas you i would not loose it on a trick.

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yeah... it seams like more teenagers (unincluding me and you) are doing stuff like hitting the bed earlier in their lives! Good luck to you!!! and Merry Christmas!!!
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lol yeah...hahaha. im glad were in the same boat, (so to speak). and thanks for your thought! have a nice day!
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you too!!!
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im 14 i would wait until 16ish cuz trust me if the condom breaks ur doomed

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well wait where is a 14 year old going to get a condom?!
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the store 7 11
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Do what you wanna do.

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its all ways good to have safe sex but if your not ready and she pressuring you and saying if you wont do it then she will break up with you not then she not the right girl for you.

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If you want to, then go for it. But think about this, what if the condom breaks and she becomes pregnant? What if birth control doesnt work? What will you do if you have a baby at a young age? Your reputation is gone. Theres a girl at my highschool and nobody talks to her except for a few guys. She has three kids and all are different dads. She had what they thought was safe sex but every time the condom slipped off, broke, or birth control didnt work. I would wait until youre about 16 or 17, although i know girls and guys who have had sex at the age of 12, i think thats crazy. Im 14 too, and im a virgin. Im waiting for somebody special, and i think you should do the same. Although you are entitled to your own opinion and your own choices. Good luck, & i hope i helped

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are either of you virgins?

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do you want to be a father by 15??

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only if you want to but i think your still young and if you don't want to do it then she shouldn't pressure you to do it

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No! That is a major sin!

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she's a hoe .

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Sex is a personal choice,
and I know some fourteen year old people who have the emotional capacity to deal with the emotions and drama of sex, but, if you're asking this on ask.com that really sends the message that you're probably too immature for sex right now.

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god your 14!do you really want to get a girl pregnant plus if she actually liked you she would have been ok if you said no not ''im gonna break up with you if you dont' do you thinks she's really worth it you can find a way better gf so what if shes not as ''popular''

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The reason she is "popular" is because she wants every guy in her and wears the shortest shorts. Dump this skank she only wants your D, not your well being.

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Don't do it. Its not worth the risk.

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WAY TO YOUNG! there was a girl in my school pregnant in 8th grade!

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Ok. Your 14. At least wait until your older. Don't let the girl make you do anything you don't want to do, because odds are, she probably will dump you after she gets what she wants. Don't do it.

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Why would she break up with you for such a dumb reason... ?

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Do you want to? If you want to have sex and your parents are ok with it, then have at it. But if you don't wanna do it tell her you don't care what she thinks but your not gonna have sex

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DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
she is just calling it 'safe' to make is sound right but sex before marriage isn't pure!...bottom line!
if she says she wont love you if u dont have it with her, she is just in it for the sex and could care less about you! She is a player more than likely!

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love your profile pic!!!!!<3 I had that as my profile pic. for awile on my erased account and then I made myself a new account and have a dog pic.!!:)
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cool, i love urs too
'follow' me
lol
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cool, thanks :)
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I get the joke, LOL
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what joke?
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oh sorry I didn't mean to say that :(
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Even if she doesn't get pregnant think of the guilt you'll have. If you have to question it or feel guilty about it don't do it

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Talk to her and explain your worries about it. I personally wouldn't have sex before marriage but, I'm not you. You need to make your own decisions, don't let others even your girlfriend affect what you want to do Its not a one sided relationship there are two people. Two people to make decisions with.

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no because of STD's there bad and deadly, you shouldn't bro. it's not worth death!
YUCK!!! grow up and if you want to than do, but i would ppersonally stay away from it until marriage!!!!! or my whole life!!! YUCKKKKKK!!!!!!!

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I know its hard to tell her no, but think about what everyone would think if you had a baby at 14 or 15 ... Once you have a baby in your life it makes you feel way older than you really are . You would have to tell your parents and probably get punished very bad . Then you would have to quit school and get married . Its not worth it. This is your life try to live it right and overcome challenges like these. The Lord will guide you where you need to go if you trust in him and go with your gut. If you go ahead and do it you WILL have to face the consequences .. I dont want that to happen to you....... DON'T DO IT !!!!!! TRUST ME!!!! Good Luck!!!:)

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hell no

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