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Last edited at 9:04PM on 12/14/2012
It's a friendly thing to do. I hug lots of people, but I definitely prefer huggers of the femine persuasion.
I read an account by a doctor, a woman, who used to pay house calls to an old lady who was unable to leave home. She always hugged her before she left. One day the patient said to her, "I do so look forward to your visits, Doctor. You're the only person in the world who still touches me." Touch deprivation is a very real problem to the isolated and elderly.
But there are different types of hugs.
The A-frame hug is one where you stand far apart and lean forward so that you only touch at the shoulders. That's for shy people.
The bear hug is much more robust and is the hug of preference for many people. But it must NEVER be confused with the bare hug, which is the method preferred by lovers.
Whichever form of hugging you choose remember that there is one rule of etiquette that must always be kept in mind. Huggers consider it to be VERY bad manners to be the first one to let go.
It goes back to one of our natural instincts. We flock to something soft when we are babies, whether it is a blanket, a stuffed bear or our mother. This instinct sticks with us our entire lives, although not as prominent as when we are young.
It's just natural. It's like trying to explain why food makes you feel good as well as keeps you alive. Or why people fall in love when they don't need that emotion to reproduce. It's just something that feels good and right.