1 year ago
Last edited at 7:14AM on 12/15/2012
Why ya gotta "spend the rest of your life" with either of them? You might break up with either one if you jump into it too fast. Go out on several dates with each and figure out which one is more compatible, but keep in mind that they may decide you're not the one for them at anytime during this weeding out phase.
Intentionally set up a stressful situation for each (independently) and see how they react...you should be looking for adult behavior, i.e. behavior that wants to understand and work the issue...unilateral reactions and/or childish reactions should be noted...after you get the results, remember people don't change their behavior to stress very much over the years...long term there will be many stressful situations that will tax the relationship..ideally you will get insight into this and it may help you choose....if both behave poorly...keep looking
If you were really in love, you wouldn't need to be asking complete strangers for advice online. Have you thought about the possibility that maybe you are hurting both of them, and you look like a sl~t ?
If you are 23 there is no reason to think you've ever met the person you should spend the rest of your life with. If you know 2 decent guys that you really like then it may be time to figure out who you should commit to. It's probably time for you to understand yourself when you don't have a spare around. I wish you luck and hope it is better than you think. But if not you do have plenty of time to find Mr. Forever.
when your in love with someone that means there "the one". if they were the one of your life they were the one then you wouldnt see anyone else. since you have the issue of picking that means neither is the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with.