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so here's my problem. I'm 14 and my parents are... sort of control freaks. If me or my brothers ever did anything outside the status quo my parents would interrogate us with questions about why we did what we did. I also am not liked by many people an have built up a mentality to try and fit everyone's image of what they want me to be to try and make them like me and so I'm not helping myself. The problem that made me want to write this question is this: my family has netflix and I'm terrified to watch anything with major swearing in it in fear of my parents judging/interrogating/lecturing me about it. So yeah if you have an advice that would be great

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Have you thought about talking to your parents about the Netflix issue. I know that it won't directly solve the problems. But, if you show them that you are mature enough to discuss what you are watching on T.V. and how it makes you feel, they will be a little less worried about the content of what you are watching. If you can show them this maturity and responsibility in all that you do, they may eventually learn to accept that you are growing up and becoming your own person. Be confident in what you are saying, but also respectful.

Keep in mind, that your parents trying to "control" you is more than likely them trying to protect you. But, if their control is going to make you "hide" things from them, they're doing the opposite of protecting you. Try to keep an open line of communication with your parents.

I hope this helps. I can only imagine how tough this is. But, know that as long as you keep talking to them and letting them know how you feel and what you are thinking, they may "ease" up a bit.

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I would try to tell my friends what movie to get ; or even tell them the truth that your not comfortable - they'll understand :)

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You don't need other people to mold you be your own swagg have fun in your friend ;)

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Tell them about your parents and what they act like. If they tell you to do it anyway, just don't do it.

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I always tell myself this, if it's something you really want to do, don't let your parents or anyone stop you. The consequences maybe bad but they wont last forever, eventually your parents will get happy with you again.

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little girls looking for trouble usualy find it. I drove cab for extra money. a little girl14(nice girl someone cared for her she had nice cloths intelligent) got in my cab w/3 guys/ high soo high(crack)..they were going to a hojo. Know what they did to her? wana guess? I treid to get her to stay in the cab. i begged her.
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Parents are trying to protect from what we know is not a perfect world you going out there and putting yourself in harms way because you think your old enough to take care if yourself your not stupid irresponsible kids that don't listen to there parents because they know it call and think they know best mostly end up in police reports or worst body bags looks when your a parent you try to protect your kid sometime to much and kids rebel it's the nature order if things but if rebelling gets you killed or if your to afraid if what you have done to talk to your parents it's wo
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Well your what? Almost 15? By the time i was 12 i could watch South park because my Mother new i didnt swear and she TRUSTED me. You are not the problem your parents are. Talk to them about this.

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IsaiahWoods
That is absolutly rright
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They probably just aren't ready for you to grow up. Have you talked to them about it? It might be awkward, but trust me, it's worth it. And you shouldn't have to try to fit in with people. The people who you are going to want to be around are going to accept you for being you, not everyone's image of you.

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YOLO listen to your parents, because they know what right from wrong. and people probably do not like you because you attempt to be the "perfect image " be yourself! you will be much more liked, and maybe your parents will chill a little.

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It is a good idea to respect your parents while living in their house. PG-13 movies never have more than three swear words. Also, posted by the rating it has to say what in the movie garnered its rating.
If a movie has a scene with someone smoking, for instance, it will mention it. It is the best way to figure out if the movie would upset your parents.

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You need to figure out who YOU are and be that. You don't have to repeat swearing just because you heard it in a movie, any more than you have to copy your friends when they're doing something stupid. If you mean you parents might hassle you for even watching those movies, ask them. Tell them something like "I'd like to watch the movie WHATEVER IT'S CALLED but there's swearing it in it. What do you think?" They might be impressed that this has made a difference to you.
I used to ask my sons why they did certain things, not so much because I needed to be told why as to get them to think about what they did BEFORE they did it. Teenagers aren't very good at that.
Myself, I didn't mind them watching movies with swearing or whatever, as long as I had seen the movie myself and knew how far it took things. Boys are going to hear that stuff anyway; they just need to know not to copy it at the wrong time.

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Sounds like they're being responsable parents more should be like yours.
Ever seen worlds strictest parents on CMT? I wrote the book. My kids are polite well manured high honors w/ mentions sports AND RESPECTED IN THE NIEGHBORHOOD.
We probably wouldn't have prob's like New town shootings if everyone's parents cared the way yours do.
They LOVE you. you don't have to MAKE them like you.

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hey lil bro...be yourself always find your place and don't ever disrespected your parents...ok now if you have courage to stand up to your parents and say look here you guys are driving me crazy...tell them exactly how you feel..tell them how you would like to be treated..really you need space to grow..stay out of trouble be a leader not a follower.

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Talk to your parents see if you can get them to calm down a little on the rules

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