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My friend recently asked me, how she is supposed to tell her parents, and other friends, that she is a lesbian.. I didnt kno exactly what to say, could you help me

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Be supportive to her, you can start by not referring to her as a les. That could be seen as a derogatory term. Lesbian, Gay, homosexual are all much more supportive terms. Ask her which she prefers you use in conversation with her.
She is going to need friends like you to talk to after she does tell her parents. Try not to suggest she change who she is and don't abandon your friendship. She is still the person she was before she entrusted you with her secret. Just be there for her like before.
I wish her a good coming out experience. And I respect your not turning your back on her and still calling her your friend. Good luck to both of you.

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TheHarem
I totally agree with your first sentence.....well actually with your entire answer. Superb! :)
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Jan! You brighten my night. So glad I stopped by to check in before heading to bed... These old bones, you know!? Lol
Thank you, again. I hope you had a good day. Me, not so bad, I just refused to turn on the TV, for the day.
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Tell her to wing it and don't try anything with you

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No do NOT do that. That is extremely disrespectful and if you do, you might as well say goodbye to your friendship
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Yes do not tell her this. It is NOT good advice
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Im not gunna tell her that..
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Is this your Gramma tht thinks you lie?

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Why was her comment removed
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she said earlier tht her grandma thinks she lies
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I know her question but why did her comment get removed
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idk...
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Did you tell her your straight?

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Uh, yea.. she kinda already knew I was straight, she jus wants to kno how to tell everyone
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If she's afraid then tell her not to tell anyone.
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I think her parents should kno
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Tell her to just say it. Her parents will accept it if they really love her.

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Just tell her to go for it. tell her that It is much better on the other side and if they love her they will accept her. Also tell her not to try to hide it because if they do and they find out they will all be hurt because she didnt think they were responsible enough to know. And that will create a whole new situation

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Ty
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wat?
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ps wat did your comment say? on skunk butt answer?
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Idk, wich one.. hes jus pissin me off, so probly jus to leave me alone
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yea he sounds super ignorant
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or maybe not ignorant but maybe like he was a little insensative to your situation
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with your grandma
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Yea, he jus thinks hes a hardass, nd that every little smartass joke he ,makes is funny
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she should just strait up tell them...and they should except that..because they are her parents & friends and they love her!:)

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Thts what im sayin, im still her friend
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well did you tell her that..
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Of course, but shes not exactly a brave person
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maybe you could help her tell them..together..have a friend there to support you always helps!:)
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Yea.. Ill try that idea
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ok...
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If her parents truly love her they will be ok so tell her to tell them they will find out eventually after all. And her friends should probably know about it too but it's not as necessary as for her parents.

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If her parents and friends really love her, this wont matter. She's still the same person she's always been, so this shouldn't change how you think of her.

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My friend Taylor was gay. And after a while he realized he had to tell his parents. He asked me what he should do. I told him just to tell them. He told them and they were happy that he told them. So tell your friend just to come right out with her parents.

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Yea just say it her parents won't hate her just because she is a lesbian parents always say "we love u for who you are " . so I also think she should go for it

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tell her to say it with her mouth :P

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Very funny, this isnt a joke..
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Dude come on can you be serious for two seconds. She sounds urgent
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It is.. actually, its very important, so the next time you have an important matter, I hope some dumbass like urself comes along, and makes smartass comments about it, then youll realize how you sound
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I'd just say she's strong for being open about who she is, it takes a lot for someone to admit to being lesbian. Tell her that she needs to keep that strength because it's not going to be easy, but it'll be worth it to be true to herself.

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Most girls don't tell their parents about straight sexual activity, tell her not to feel the need to identify herself by who she engages in sexual coheres with. It's not who she is it's what she does.

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Tell her to be honest with her parents. Sit down with them and say whatever she needs to say to them. They will have questions for her or may not react positively (at least not right away). My Mother and I went a while without really talking when I came out to her, but now we have a great relationship. I was in my mid twenties when I came out though, so that made some difference. Ultimately just continue to be a supportive friend and ally for her during this time in her life. Best of luck to your friend!

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