Hi angelfire. My husband's addiction is alcohol, now sober for decades. He said that although the process of getting sober was difficult, he's grateful that he went through it.
His epiphany came when he realized that the shame he felt about his addiction was irrelevant. If he had diabetes, he would not be ashamed. He also wouldn't go to the fair and binge on cotton candy. With the conflicted emotions about his disease at bay, he started his journey.
It was a bit scary at first. Sometimes, he didn't want to look at the darker aspects of himself. (That's not fun for any of us.) But, he NEEDED to explore himself, with all the pain - and all the glory. Had he not, he wouldn't be as complete as he is today.
There is no "best thing" to be addicted to. The "best thing" is discovering who we are, as we discover how to accept and adjust to the darker aspects of the world and ourselves - without our drug of choice.
Here's an interesting part. Denial was a double edged sword. Now that he is no longer afraid to admit his failings, he can be proud of his strengths. He has many strengths. He is an amazing man. I love him dearly, and I am very proud of him.