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Should I be ashamed of Self injury scars?

I have scars all over my legs from cutting. for months I've been wearing skirts or dresses and I don't think too much of it. but this morning my mom asked me if I really wanted to go out like that and I'm wondering if its something I should hide?

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No my dear, absolutely not. If it doesn't bother you, then it certainly shouldn't bother anybody else. If we all were made to feel uncomfortable or ashamed of our bodies imperfections, then nobody would be able to live in peace. Many people in the world have scars on their bodies, or physical disabilities or imperfections. The human body goes through a lot of wear and tear on a daily basis. My goodness, I took a bad fall about 2 years ago and took all my skin off a good portion of my body. The skin healed, but now I have scars. Nobody minds including me. There is too much emphasis on exterior packaging in this country. That is not what defines us as a person. Don't worry about your "battle scars." Be proud of what's on the inside. I do hope that the cutting is something that you have been able to overcome. Wear your dresses. I guarantee you if you wear a beautiful smile, nobody will even notice your scars anyway.

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Thankyou kindly. :)
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If you are over that, then I don't believe you should be ashamed of the cuts. If you got help and quit cutting, then I believe everyone who knows you would or should be proud of you, because overcoming something like that shows strength and character.

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no, instead, just go out there and proudly say "I got this scars for kicking gangsters in the face, got any problem with that!?" that way you'll lose every bit of shame

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No absolutely not

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Definitely love yourself as is. Everything we do in life enriches our souls. You have waited your entire life for this day to come. We all have our scars, though some are oblivious to their own, and anyone that would judge is not worth the time. Maybe tell your mom that you need her support, not her criticism, moving forward. Sounds like you're on the right track already.

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there is nothing to be shamed
be as you like and enjoy yourselves

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Over time those scars will lighten, the sun can also help, only it takes a few years of tanning,the first couple of years in the sun, the scars will remain white,then they will start to tan with the rest of you,-in the mean time, a foundation of se sort can do wonders if you're embarrassed about them, setting like a mousse goes on really well to arms, legs etc. It really depends on where your life is at present, if you're employed, and most people know about you, and accept you- then, you should hold that dear, and say- blow that, and try to get over those feelings, unfortunately though, if you are looking for work, and trying to find a footing, people do judge, and it may be worth trying to cover up for a couple/ few years if in the end it will help you. I do wish you all the best, and hopefully in a few years, it will all be a distant memory.

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nah... Don't be ashamed because I have scars... Lol on my leg from falling on a pine cone and from falling on a razor and getting a huge cut ....both the pine and razor gave a scar but their pretty cool lookin'... And I'm a girl so that's kinda Wierd to like it but it's because I am Wierd....;)

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No, in fact a lot of people wished they could be like you, not worried about how you look. I have a big scar on my leg from a bike accident.

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I believe that those scars are just a reminder of what you have done and if you get the feeling of wanting to do that again just look at yourself and ask should I really be doing this ? Leave it has a reminder to yourself to not want to injury yourself again.

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You should not be ashamed. Just as an addict should not be ashamed of having a disease, you need not feel shame for self harm. It is a coping strategy that ultimately does more harm than good. That is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is CRUCIAL that you learn a new way. To do that you will need help.
Before your last Q was removed, I was trying to give you links. Do you remember? It took me a long time to find you, but I truly believe I should not give up on you. Let's try again. Since you could not open a link that I pasted from a previous Q, I will have to go to each site and try posting it fresh from the URL. Since this will be time consuming, I will run out of editing time. It will take me three comments, and then we can talk if you would like.

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This is the video of the therapist who understands why it is so hard to seek help.

http://www.ask.com/videos/watch-video/interview-with-mental-health-worker-about-self-harm-part-1/fCjKUWsX5K3a3dwrqZYKGA?ver=16

If you have trouble linking, you may need to type it into the URL. But hopefully, this time it will work.
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This is the best site I have found to date. It is a great article that even discusses the steps of treatment.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm
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This is a coping technique, but one that comes with a high price. The relief is temporary, and the aftermath is heartbreaking. You must seek help. You don't have to be afraid. Instead imagine.

Imagine you with new coping skills.... skills that leave you feeling comforted, for days and days.... skills that don't betray you, but uplift you....

Go to the doctor a.s.a.p. When you are getting your wrist cared for, tell the doctor about your cutting. Ask for a referral to a therapist. Tell your school. Tell every adult who loves you. Get as many people on your side as possible. You can build an entire cheering section!

Go to the doctor and get your wrist checked NOW, ......please.
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There are several compassionate teachers and therapists on this site. I'll let them know you are here and looking for help. I hope you will follow us, so we can celebrate your recovery.

Just as smokers or alcoholics fight the good fight, "fall off the sobriety wagon," and climb back on to try again - you will have a huge journey ahead of you. And at the end of your straight and narrow road you will find the most beautiful thing. You will find - you!
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Thank you!!!
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I answered you other Q too. I hope it helps.
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I noticed. It does and thanks. I like the link too
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I'm glad! Thanks for the follow/follow back. Hope I see you often. I rain stars on my followers. You'll see one when I bump into you.
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That was very kind of you Happy.;)
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Aw shucks....
Actually, it was my pleasure.
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It was extremely nice of you to take the time :)
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I will take as much time as you wish....anytime!
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Are you going to the doctor or school nurse tomorrow?
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I'm homeschooled and I don't think it's really necessary to go to the doctor cause the bleeding has stopped and I have stuff to put on the cut
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Also it looks a lot better now
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There is a much more important reason to go. PLEASE. Pretty please.
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I have been to the doctor and discussed my self injury before. He told my patents to send me to a therapist. My parents can't afford to send me to a therapist. What is the point of going to the doctor?
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Angelfire.....can you check in your area to see if there is any kind of a support group you can participate in? There are support groups for all different kinds of problems anywhere from alcohol and drug abuse, to emotional problems, physical handicaps and abuse, dealing with grief, anorexia and on. Possibly there might be one to help you with your cutting or a related support group. You mentioned that your parents can't afford counseling. Have they checked with the mental health department in your town to see if you might qualify for free or low cost counseling. The Mental health department might also be able to offer some suggestions for helping you find some help to overcome this. If the cutting is combined with anorexia, it is imperative you get some help.
I will be following you closely as well. You seem to be so sweet. Please get better. You have gained alot of friends already here on Ask that want to see you healed and happy.
And just like Happy2beHere, I love to throw "Stars" at my friends too.
Cyber hug :)
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They sent me to free counseling for a while but you only get twelve sessions so that's done. I'm planning on getting a job and then maybe I can pay for it myself.
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Oh and thanks lol :)
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That sounds wonderful. A job would definitely help not just financially, but also might boost you mentally. You really sound bright and articulate and very nice. ;)
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Happy......thankyou for all your wonderful suggestions. Superb answer. I will be watching and hoping for further updates too.
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