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Hi, I recently found that my 16 year old daughter has a boyfriend, could you help please?

As I know it is very wrong for her to have one, I have grounded her, taken away her phone and computer, and told her that she cannot talk to him again. what else should I do?

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Let her have one. She is 16!

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i think you've done enough to her..

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She's 16, two years to an adult. You can't keep her away from everything forever

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16 is a perfectly normal age for a girl to have a boyfriend. If you haven't already though, it's time to talk with her about sex; especially safe sex.

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Why can't she have one? 16 is a pretty good age. If you set boundaries then I think she'll be perfectly fine. You've been too harsh.

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Wtf is wrong with you!!! She is six Frikin teen!!

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She's 16. Having a boyfriend at that age is quite normal. Punishing her will only make her resentful. Instead, try meeting the boy and his family. Put limits on the places they can spend time together or how much they chat on the phone. Suggest he come over and do homework with her. These young romances rarely last long but are her introduction into relationships and should be monitored. She's growing up and needs your understanding and guidance.

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I think that's good. I don't think it's wrong to have a boyfriend but if it's against your family value she shod listen to you.

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i think its cruel,maybe if you dont like it limit hours they hangout but dont go over board.

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As a 16 year old myself I currently have a girlfriend and we have a great relationship going, we are both good kinds and our parents like our relationship. My honest advise is to let her date if she finds someone. If you hold on too tight ad restrict what they can do then they learn how to sneak around and break rules. You need to compromise and find ground with both freedom and rules. If you act harshly for things like this then we will still do it but won't tell you. Would you rather know or not know about her relationships? Relationships can e healthy, if you are concerned then help make sure any relationship she gets into is a healthy one and not destructive to her social, school, and home life. Hope this helps!

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What's wrong with you!!!!! Shes 16

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you were a teenager once...let her have one, just make sure she doesnt do bad things. check up on her, nicely.

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At least MEET the guy. Find out his personality, and if you like it, just be sure your daughter doesn't shut the doors when he is over, and be sure that she doesn't spend TOO much time with him. She has friends to hang out with, and homework to do!

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she's 16, she will want to date, and personally that age isn't really a bad time to start getting into relationships. just talk it out with her, meet the guy - give him a chance! don't treat her like a child or she will shut down around you even more.

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be very careful how you handle this. at sixteen she is beginning to mature. you cannot keep her your little girl forever. let her spred her wings. support her instead of holding her back. let her know she can talk to you. early romances are important to all young people girls and boys. they seldom become serious. you have to be careful you do not force her to make mistakes by desisting you.

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16 is good enough, I mean, my 11 year old brother witnesses 6th graders talking about "Are you dating ???" and "Why did you break up with ???".

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Come on......I have a sister that met her boyfriend when she was 16, she married when she was 19 with that guy and she had her 36th anniversary, one friend of mine was 14 when she had her (now) husband as a boyfriend, Married for 30 years. The best one is my best friend from when I was 5 years old. She met and dated her boyfriend when she was 13...he was 14......nobody took it serious...They married when she was 18 and they are still together...but all that aside, come on....almost all 16 year olds have a boyfriend. When I had a boyfriend at that age it was more for hanging out and having someone to do things with and go places. No, I did not marry that one. Let her have some fun.

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What is wrong with you?!?!?!?!?!?!?

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if she gets told she can't, she's gonna be a ho very soon

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Goodness that's extreme. I agree with all the above. (except DLD_swagg) She is 16, soon to be an adult. Let her grow up.

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wow what a loving parent. Let her enjoy life! If shes doing good in school than let her have fun. shes not always going to be with you!

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um, you should pretend you don't care- thats why we do these things! however- I have a boyfriend, and my parents leave me alone about it- only because i failed when asking him out- REJECTED!!! Just keep an eye on her, and make sure she is not getting to cool for school; love is a beautiful feeling.

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Communicate, sit down and speak to her. punishing her by the so called grounding does not accomplish accept resentment and you do not need that. U might consider speaking to a pro-counselor like a minister for advice. I am wonder why you would ask Ask.com maybe you are seeking teenage replies?

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dont do anything else sometimes being too harsh on a teen will want them to act worse but if you give her freedom she will respect you in the future

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Um why is this in "Pets and Animals"??? ....

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Its not this is Parenting and family
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Nope. I went on Pets and Animal, and this was there.
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she is 16.. you should get to know the boy and his family and set boundies on where they can go, what time they can be out til, and what they can do.
i meanmy 15 y/o brother has a strong relationnship going

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16.... look she's old enough. But it's your opinion. I think you have been to harsh

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send her to another school sice she still see's him there

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She's already old enough, at least the boyfriend loves her, now you can give her phone & computer back! ^_^

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So you're denying your daughter the experience of learning how relationships function. Top parenting. Really, good job. I understand that it is probably quite scary for you, you're daughter is growing up, you don't want to share, etc. etc. But reality is, she's human, she's going to have and want to have relationships. Sure, set boundaries, keep communication open, but completely denying her that experience? That's just stupid.

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With all due respect, you're nuts.

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Theres nothing you can do. Shes 16 at that age there gonna do whatever they want to do.

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Good God, man, what kind of father are you? She is sixteen! she can have a boyfriend of she wants too, and you don't need to ask for more punishing ideas on the internet!

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Since marriage is the proper reason for dating, they should obviously be of a more responsible age before going out together. Good communication is essential, so when possible have casual chats while riding in the car or doing chores (Deuteronomy 6:6,7). No doubt she knows how you feel about dating, so make your point and then stop. Most of your message will be heard later when she's alone and can ponder over what you've said (proverbs 1:1-4). Listen without interrupting, then reply reasonably (Philippians 4:5). Stay calm and don't overreact (proverbs 10:19). Guide, don't dictate ( Hebrews 5:14). Ask her: why do you want to date? Are you ready to get married?- speaking from experience and trust me it works.

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16 is a good age as long as they dont have S.e.X.

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I think 16 is quite normal. How will she know the good ones from the bad ones if she doesn't get a chance to date. My fear is She's not allowed to date, then she goes out with the first idiot she meets and he's abusive and that's how she thinks a normal relationship is because she doesn't know any better. You don't want her to go behind your back, right? Teenagers don't nearly tell us enough of what's going on with their life. Then being so harsh you may know even less and that's worse. Good luck !!! Hope everything goes well for you two.

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She is quite a normal teenager. I would give her that stuff back and let her show responsibility by keeping a boyfriend!!

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lolwut

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let her have one so she can grow up and have a normal life. Best for her just not to have to much connections such as maybe a pregnancy but that's not likely to happen.
TRUST HER!

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Not trying to be rude but she is 16. I know kids who are 11 and have boyfriends. She is almost an adult. You should trust her. She didn't do anything wrong. You can't keep her away from living forever. Your only a teenager for so long. Let her have a boyfriend. If your that strict about it set rules or something but punishing her isn't right. She is 16. Strict parents just create sneaky kids.

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Meet the boy, you might really like him.

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