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How do you cope with grief?

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Grief is a process, it may not feel like it but it will get better. Grief is a part of life, remember the good times with whom you grieve. If your a believing person it will help to pray. It will help to write down your thoughts and to get over the anger part of the grief.

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Thank you, I think I'll try that.
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wow. thanks, i'm gonna try that
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It may take time but it does get better

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Allow yourself to grieve. Acknowledge your feelings and don't run from them.

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Your own way in your own time.

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If I need to, I make a pact with myself. Ie I won't cry cos he's not worth it & if I feel like I'm going to, I remind myself that I will not allow anyone to bring me down & so then I get on with the changes I need to do to get back on track.
but if it's over a death, then I cry as much as I need to, to cleanse my self of the distraught feelings I'm going through.

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It wont just clear up right away it will take time...all i can say is dont hold in your feelings if you feel the need to cry then cry if you need to talk to someone talk to the closest person to you tell them everything that you are feeling so you kno that you are not alone

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Sometimes even talking to strangers on the bus or at the laundromat is helpful. There is nobody alive who does not know grief. Everybody can relate to that. It's universal.

God bless -- of, if you're an atheist, then I hope you have many blessings, peace and love. You will have many happy days also.

And --- Please always remember the words of Mother Mary Jones: "Pray for the dead and fight like hell for the living."

We all have lots of work to do in this life.
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Typically....I cry for a little while...then I get mad....then I talk to someone and cry with them....then cry a little more. It is a process...it is okay to cry, it is okay to be mad, it is okay to be confused, it is okay to talk to others, only time heals our wounds...just talk to someone about it if you need to, it isn't healthy to bottle your feelings...ultimately, the talking about it is the thing that helps me most...

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Hang out with close friends and family

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it takes time, trust me I know. but stay active, find support, be with family and friends and other people who are going through it to. And always know its gonna be ok :)

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let it out crying is okay. and eat ice-cream right from the box with a spoon moping is the most important part to feeling better. to feel better you must first feel worse

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1.you do an epic face palm
2.you get angry and throw somthing
3.then think why you did not protect your sever

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It's not how you cope with it but finding a method of moving beyond it that matters.

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You take it day by day, step by step. ;o

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I still grieve....but its easier and I'm at peace....I still cry some times..

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pray

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It is a bitter lesson each of us must learn, as we lose our older family members, our beloved pets and anyone close. My advice as a long, long time survivor of grief, is to KNOW it will never go away. Therefore, embrace it as a part of the love for the lost one. Squeeze and hold it close. Because your love was profound, so is the grief. To attempt to erase it is as wrong as the attempt to dispel the love you feel—here, now, in the present—for the lost one. Grief holds hands with love.

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There are different "stages" of grief. I had to learn this when my 24 yr old daughter lost her husband (of only 2 years) very unexpectedly...Stages include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Each person deals with death in their own ways. There is no
"time limit" on how long each person grieves. Cherish the memories of the lost loved one. In my personal experience it never "goes away". It becomes more bearable over time. I ended up getting my daughter a grief counselor, who suggested her to keep a journal, and write everything she was feeling. I was amazed at how what she was writing went hand in hand with the stages of grief. That, time and prayer helped her immensely.. One of the biggest mistakes I have heard as well as seen people do, is to urge a person to "move on" or "get over it". They are not you, therefore each deals with each situation differently. Thoughts and prayers to you....

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Most of those who have responded to your question have offered a variety of fairly sound advise. What works for some often doesn't work for others. So all I can offer is what has always helped me personally. More often than not, there are others who are facing the same loss - a sibling, a parent, a relative or friend, all grieving over the same individual that you are. My way of "handling" my own grief has always been to support and comfort those who seem to be dealing with it less efficiently than I am. Being there to help others get through it is what helps me to get through it myself. In other words - helping others deal with their grief helps you to deal with your own. God bless.

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You sound like my mum. That's A Compliment. She supported all seven of her kids when the eight one died in a car accident in 1987 at the age of 24. My mother said its wrong for a mother to be burying her grown child when by nature it should have been the other way around. We also lost our dad 11 years earlier. I admire my mum for her strength in adversity, yet she is I of the gentlest softest people I know. The human sole is amazing what it endures & bears in the name of love.
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I cry, I sleep a lot, I neglect myself for awhile, then I come out of my cocoon and reach out and talk to people about how I feel, I try to surround myself with loving caring people who let me deal with things and don't rush me to stop grieving.

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talk to some one

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There are 5 stages of grief- denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance - let the process flow and don't keep it in (it's a healing process)

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talk to a counselor or if you go to school punching a locker helps me

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I don't. I just let it pass, or, find the key to it. Maybe you miss someone, or need a friend. Just go with it if you want the easy way out.

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Its hard. I don't think there is a cure but you get over it eventually well kinda you miss them but your not sad all the time in my case im always sad...

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cm muitos remedios

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read the new testament of the bible, many people in the new testament experienced grief, Lazarus is very appropriate. the point is God;s love, when found, will help.

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Give the devil its due, your moment of joy is eager to
join and share its pleasures with you, which you very
much deserve for bearing and tiding over strife.

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write down thing in poems songs stories any thing

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There are many different ways or coping mechanisms to get through grief. But they vary so much from person to person and situation to situation that what may work for one person in one situation may not work for someone else. If you are grieving with the loss of someone you know, then you might want to just allow your self to go through the process. Again, it may take some time. If so, you may want to research the 7 Stages of grief on-line or at the library to find suggestions on actual coping mechanisms. Also, how about reaching out to someone close to you. If you just need someone to listen to you or vent to, then ask that person if they could be there for that. Or you could ask him or her to just spend some friendly, quality time with you because being alone with your grieving and thoughts may just take it's toll on you. You also might want to look back at past instances with grief and try to recall what or if anything worked for you back then. So I guess what I'm trying to say, in short, is find what works best for you. I hope this was helpful. I wish you the best.

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Hey, wat is it?
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It's angel, he gone
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Yea, I know. Tano told me. How's his family?
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Messed up. I can't believe he died man... All those times we fought. All along I should've been nicer
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It's not your fault. Stuff happens yaknow?
We teared up over here... even Beat!
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Good point. And beat cried? Would've been a sight..
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Aaagh... Haven't been sleeping much since.
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Were all grieving... It's a process. Just don't take it too hard man, tell your supervisor to let you off work for a bit.
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Already have. Just at Carlos's house. Funerals at memorial drive.
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Alright. Send them my condolences!
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Will do
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