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My boyfriend wants to kill himself! Help please!

My boyfriend said that if i break up with him he will kill himself, but i dont want this relationship anymore, he is verbally abusive. I know him well and im sure he's serious, so please take this matter seriously. Im still with him because i know if he kills himself i wont be able to live knowing that i did this to him. . . remember he verbally abuses me

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Let me get this straight....you're supposed to stay with him for the rest of your life because this D-bag is threatening to off himself if you leave him??? Nope, nada, never......it's not your fault that he's a D-bag that is using "guilty emotional terrorism" to make you stay with him.....believe me, it's one thing to SAY you're gonna off yourself, and it's a WHOLE NOTHER thing to actually take ones own life......either way, do you REALLY wanna stay with this dude so he can keep treating you bad???

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what hes trying to do is control her through this and she doesnt need to let him....
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I think that's what I said too.....
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oh....... lmao
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8) It's all good 8)
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Morning NAFTA, How are you?
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Don't rightly know yet......and yourself?
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Just guzzling down my second cup of coffee, have to go into city today., my body is up and walking around, but my brain is still under the blanket. lol
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I hear ya....I've been having trouble sleeping lately and I got maybe an hour last night.....so I too am chuggin down coffee so I can hopefully stay awake for the rest of the day so I can HOPEFULLY sleep good tonight.....
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What's up in the city??
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Work, I have to drop files off at an attorney's office. (I store files for attorneys and physicians.
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Oops )
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HA!! Oops what??? LMAO!! 8)
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I had forgot to put the ) at the end of my sentence, and I dribbled coffee down my chin. lol You know I am just learning how to properly use a coffee cup lol
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so your saying i should just leave him?.
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You obviously need to leave him......and since he is gonna keep telling you that he's gonna k-ill himself, then maybe you should just write down what you wanna say and give it to him like that.....people don't k-ill themselves unless they are SERIOUSLY sick in the head, and even IF he were to do that, it is NOT YOUR FAULT that he has such serious emotional issues and didn't know how to treat you right in the first place.....SO, to sum it up, yes, you should leave him....
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okay, ill try to do it. . . thank you
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Good luck!!! 8)
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thanks, ill need it
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Be strong....NO ONE deserves to be treated like crap.....
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go to a school psychologist in your own time and he or she will be able to help you but be sure to explain yourself as thoroughly as possible

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First off, if he kills himself because of YOUR break up, it will NOT be your fault. It will be his decision.
Second off, show to him that he can live without you, slowly get away from him, and in about a month get to the point where he will barely be around your life.
Make it a happy break up somehow, give him hope, find him more and cool hobbies, get him to do a sport more often, to seek for a better education (i dont know his age though, but yea... university, etc).
Make goals, inspire him.

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He almost definitely won't, he's just saying this so you won't leave.

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what if he does?
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Then it wasn't your fault
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Okay, thank you, really :)
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to be honest he might not even kill himself my ex boyfriend said the same thing but thats cause he wanted me to stay..and if hes verbally abusive then its not your faught dont stay in that because who knows what he will do next but if you think he is serious bout killing himself then get help immedietly talk to a trusted adult parent maybe officer

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make a deal with him. tell him that he needs to stop being verbally abusive and you wont need to break up with him. and i agree with the "he needs help" answer too

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thank you, :)
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no prob
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... Break up with him anyway. He doesn't deserve you. Don't worry about his suicidal pity party. Let him do whatever the heck he wants. If he kills himself, you shouldn't feel guilty for it because you aren't the one who killed him. You didn't do anything to him. If he does it, he did it to himself. Get him help. ASAP.

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If ge is abusive, and she breaks up with him. He will harm her cause he will be mad. DONT VREAK IT IFF WITH HIM. be disgusting or introduce him to heaps of girls. Either way make him break it off with you. (wouldn't let me post so I had to comment instead)
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Break. Off**
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O.O such an intense answer you got there, selnik....
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Verbally abusive, not physically.
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.... ? so what do i do?
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Make him break it off with you.
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Persimmon, thanks? haha
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How about let him go to a strippers club (if over 18 of course) or a pub or something and have him be with girls and hopefully he will fall for one so he can break it off with you. Even try being really disgusting! Pretend you're sick infront of him and then start being really disgusting! Make him break it off with you

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Haha no prob :)
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Bring him to the hospital... that is what my parents did with me.... and look at me now :| not really better but I'm alive!

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and i hope you do better.
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Haha well thanks.... I guess
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lock him up.

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where?
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He won't kill himself. He is just manipulating you. Those that talk about it rarely do it.

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so true boo. I've heard that those who do are said to have a peace about them. Kind of like they everything is resolved because they know it will soon be over.
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I never looked at it that way, thank you
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its a pity party......break up with him and if he does it its his fault and not yours...trust me......i had many relationships end like that and im 17..........so i get them baker acted and thats when the parents report them and they go to a hospital.

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leave him but first u need to call the cops and let them know so that they will be there to stop him

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okay, thank you
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People who are serious about "off-ing" themself, don't tell others they are gonna "off" themself...Go find someone better...

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oh crap i didnt mean to click fun.....ignore that lol im new at this
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I'll take that "fun" any ol day!
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Hey, it's fun telling people the truth.....8)
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That's the truth!
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thank you, really
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Call the police and let them help both of you and your families....They have a lot of professionals to deal with all you problems...if you really want help.

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His wanting to kill himself is a form of manipulation. Break up with him and let a family member that is close to him know what he is saying. Then move on with your life.

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break up with that di@#...he rlly doesnt deserve you at all if he rlly is serious about suicide just contact the police :P he may have some problems or anger issues just get out of there while you can... :/

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anytime :)
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Your boyfriend. is not good for you or himself, there is so much more that he can contribute to society, in stead seems he' s focused on controlling you' you are allowing him to treat. you like a pet' rub your head when he wants, go lay down when he wants, sit, and discipline you, all when he wants, and you, does what he wants, when he wants, stop the madness, you will never please him, you need to report the threat of him wanting to kill himself, to the authorities and get on with your life, how long before the idea of killing you or your children, if you have them, stay with him, you just might, But, don't do that, if not to late, get away from that whole situation, plan your future and don't look back, he is not in love with you, and you know that, if he harms himself, his choice, not yours, claim your future, and enjoy life. He needs help, and you can't do it. Hope to see you in the future, WITHOUT HIM. Good luck

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thank you, for taking your time and giving me really good advice :)
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Just talk to him and see what the problem is why does he verbally abuse you...he could also be saying this so you want leave him

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well why is the reason he wants to kill him self and you need to tell somebody and get him help even if he dont want you to that is the best you can do if he is wanting to kill him self and he will love you forever after you get him help trust me cause i had the same problem.

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If you want, you can do this in stages... Make yourself really boring to be around. Anything he wants to do, say" I don't feel like it". If he really insists, then go, but mope around and don't have any fun. Don't laugh at his jokes, don't look him in the eye.
I agree you should tell his family what he's saying, but ask them not to say anything, you just want them to be aware, so that when you do break it off, they can keep an eye on him.
You MUST get yourself out of this relationship... Verbal abuse is only the first step. Eventually it will turn physical. You've done all you can, no one will blame you for not wanting to throw away your life on this guy. Get out!

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Tell him if you stay with him, your liable to "off" YOUR self.

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Touche' FG. In a sense, staying with someone like would be suicidal.
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Perfect!
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Thanks mates!
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Breakin out the reverse psychology......EXCELLENT!!! 8)
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More of like, use the same reasoning on him that he's using on her.
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That should confuse him for just long enough for her to be able to flee the scene....8)
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hahaha thank you :)
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Sofia, please understand if you leave him and something does happen (which in all likelihood won't happen), YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE. Consider this: if he's making the threat, it may be your responsibility to report it to someone in authority, be it his parents, your parents, a counselor or even the police. Put the burden back on him where it belongs.

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Then again, have you seen her pic? I'm thinking of using the same tact!
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Faded! She could be your friggin' daughter!!!
Great answer, btw, Pilgrim.
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thanks raleigh, then there's always, 'if you won't leave me I'll find someone who will.
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What's your point Raleigh?
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hahaha wow really faded? hahaha that made my day, and thank you pilgrim(:
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You bet
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first off he isnt worth it sweetie and most guys wont do it just tell him that he can do way better

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K, thanks :D
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Say"good luck with that" and get away from this abusive nut case

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okay, thanks :)
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Listen to Mr. Faded Glory's advice and stop letting people manipulate you.

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I thought u said I was dumb?
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thank you, (:
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I said no such thing.
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and you're welcome Sofia.
You're not responsible for anyone's happiness but your own.
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Yeah ya did Maleficent
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...if you say so...I don't recall saying that...but if you say so...
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He isn't going to.. I have heard that so many times, & guess what? Its never happened. They do it, because they think you can be manipulated. They just want you to be stuck with them. Are you holding there weapon of choice, doing the work for them? No. Its not your fault. Its a choice of theirs. & you obviously need to get out of that relationship. I had one that said that, & I stayed for a while, he went nuts, then became my stalker. You know what came of it? He moved on, and I am happy

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Rayray... You're very lucky it turned out as it did. Stalking can become a very dangerous situation. I'm so glad it worked out for you!
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Thank You VikiH52 :)
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Don't stay in a relationship just because you are worried that this guy might kill himself - he is basically just blackmailing you. Emotional blackmail. If you no longer want to be his girlfriend but you think he may seriously try to take his life if you break up then the best thing to do is chat to somebody else who is close to him a friend or family member beforehand and ask them to be there for him and keep an eye on him. It's clear that you obviously do care about him even though you may no longer want to be his girlfriend - but don't hurt yourself just to save his feelings. He will be ok, I promise, and if you have pre-warned the people close to him then you have done pretty much everything you can do to help him - don't feel guilty, break ups happen all the time - this guy just needs to learn how to deal with them in a sensible way and stop manipulating things via emotional blackmail.

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Let him know that god made him, and if god actually wanted him to die, which would Never happen, he would let fait do it, not a human being. I send your boyfriend my best wishes and I hope that he will do the right thing.

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if he verbally abuses you then talk with him if hes going to treat you bad then why does he want the relationship tell him if you really wanted to be with me then hed treat you better it makes no sense for him to treat you like this but if you break up with him then hed kill himself as if he loved you and couldnt imagine a life without you

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He love you lot then why do you want to leave him

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Leave him ... if he isn't stable enough to deal with a break up he won't be able to handle the real problems in the world and it will happen anyway, so break up and notify the authorities

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You should talk to him and tell him that you don't like him verbally abusing you. Try and be there for him because if your in this situation you are probably the main person who cares. Don't break up with him until your sure he can handle it. Talk out your problems.

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He's not telling the truth, he just wants to keep you knowing that your greatest fear is guilt of killing a person. So he manipulated you by telling you this. Even if he does kill himself, HE killed himself, not you, so it's not your fault, if you want to leave, then go ahead.

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call 911 and tell them. he will be put in jail/mental ward

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Remember, leave now. obviously if you have to state twice that he verbally abuses you, you know he abuses you. get out. Big fat duh. Just be careful if he becomes all stalkerish. saw it in a show! FURREEELZ!

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Ok if he is abusive then go to the police and get out of the relationship that isn't fair that you get put in that place you need to end the relationship tell the police he is suisidle and then he can get help and you are free.

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let me get this right...
he verbally abuses you and then threatens to kill himself if u leave him.
i say u should stay with him. but u definitely need counseling of some sort. he probably thinks of u as the only person who really cares about him and he feels if u leave, there will be no hope left for him. stay with him and try to bring a counselor into this situation. try to be sympathetic with him;constantly letting him know how much u r in love with him. u have to keep working at this relationship. obviously he loves u because he knows if u r gone, he would kill himself because u r not by his side.

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Leave him...He knows that you'll leave him for verbly abusing you.But he doesn't want to stop,so he's trying to make you stay,by making you guilty.Call the cops and leave that bitch,girl!

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Leave him! He sounds like an asshole. And just because he says he is going to kill himself doesn't mean he will.. he's just trying to make you stay. He doesn't deserve you. 'Nuff said.

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i would tell him that i need some time to me and we can get back together in a little bit but i would not get back with him but he will get over you good luck :D

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1 its not good for you to be in an abusive relationship what kind of life is it to walk on egg shells to watch what you say or do to just make him happy so he dose not get mad. 2 just because he says he will kill himself dose not mean he will and if he dose it is his choice not yours so you have no right to feel guilty if he dose. 3 He sounds like he is unstable and calling the police would be a good idea if he is seriously on killing himself. 4 You need a man that will love you respect you and allow you to grow and bring out the best in you. You should feel relax and peaceful around him if this guy dose not do that for you get out .

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Guess what it's pretty unanimous that he is not worthy of you, your love or your respect. Don't let his threats blackmail you emotionly. It's time you rode off into the sunset alone. End of story.. & if he does anything stupid it's because he's unbalanced & got nothing to do with you. Understand that & move on. You can do what's best for you. Love yourself enough to respect yourself & put you & your self esteem first. Goodluck.

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