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why are some guys scared to get a married?

even if they love that person or been with them for a long time.

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They should be and so should you.You can't group a certain group of people together and call them one thing, it's everyone (or atleast it should be). Marriage is a BIG and HUGE commitment- like a promise. It's like people (not just guys) have fear of breaking a promise or hurting someone because of their own faults. Marriage is meant to be forever and not just some simple little ceremony between couples.

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I guess a real man wouldn't

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They just don't want to. It's not their nature to be monogamous.

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Marriage is forever, or is meant to be anyway. It is a huge commitment, and most guys don't want to be tied down like that.

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they're afraid of a life-long commitment. to them it's like tying a rock to your ankle, I suppose.
kind of sad - since they're the ones who propose, yet complain about marriage later on.

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They are not truly in love

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Because it's a lot to take on. I mean, marriage is supposed to be until your own passing. How can you live with someone conditionally for that long? When it comes to promises, a lot of us men tend to be smart about it. We know that forever is a long time coming and so is the end of marriage. How can we promise we'll love you after that? How can we promise that we will be with you to the end? We don't know what's going to happen in the future or what will become of our feelings. The promise of "Til Death to us Part" is a huge promise to take on

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Many reasons. Probably biggest reason is that their parents marriage was a disaster

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Because *girls* are better the men .

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Funny, my husband was the one pushing for marriage, not me. My reason is a few failed relationships before, one that was 5 yrs long. It is kind of hard to trust that there is something as a life long commitment after that.

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Well I say it's because it's a lot of commitment at one Time and we just want to run wild

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The fear is of the a divorce. Everybody knows that most marriages won't make it 5 years. Loving and being with them is different than being married, if you don't like the way things are going you just break up and move on. When married it becomes a whole different deal. you're 2 people that are trying to make it as 1. Marriage is a job, and it can really be a pain in the arse. We don't like to have to work for things, we want automatic happiness all the time, it will never happen being married. We hit a few potholes and bail out. Some of my friends just crack me up, 4 marriages, dude you need to stay single. If you know what to expect there would be a lot less divorce--because of a lot less marriage. People see it blow up all around them, so it puts you off. Know that it takes work, you're going to look at your spouse at times and think WTF was I thinking, you need to know hat you're going to argue and fight, and you'll feel like you never win. We want things our way, and now, marriage ruins it

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The same reason some women are scared to get married. Its a huge commitment that lasts a lifetime, and before making it you need to be absolute sure its the right person. Not doing so could result in them hurting someone they may care for dearly, but just not enough. Or even themselves. Its a lifetime commitment, and not only are you promising to stay with them til death, you're promising to stay loyal to them, promising to care for them, and promising to just BE there for them the whole time. Sometimes being scared is a good thing, it just means they want to be sure not only for THEIR sake, but also yours. They don't want to end up hurting you. It could also be a bad thing though. They might just not WANT to commit theirselves to one person.

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Huge Commitment and/or they might think that they're going to feel trapped I guess

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rshackleford

Some people are better off staying single.

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^Read the man-bashing comments posted above^ And for the rest of the day, consider it honestly, if you put a racial slur in the place of "man"... That level of bigotry would almost be criminal... Ask yourself WHY any sane person would want to marry that? Men want to marry a friend not an employer who despises them.

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