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What does he mean when he tells me this?

I know It's pretty self explanatory. My boyfriend and I have been dating 8 months now. Just today he sent me a text that said 'love me, hold me, n sleep with me baby'. A few months ago he said the same thing to me when we we're talking on the phone without the baby part. He recently started calling me 'baby' 2 weeks ago. Usually he addresses me by my name only. Also he tells me he misses me and such but not once has he actually told me those 3 words. Although, he isn't shy to express his feelings to me. I really have fallen for him but I wonder if he truly feels the same. When he's not working or me vice versa, we always make time for each other and if we're busy, we keep each other updated on our lives. Even when days go by without any contact, we're ok with it. And he's always interested in the things I like and want to try new things out with me. Another thing, we haven't had sex yet but would both like to when the time is right. And we are both in our early 30s. I should know the answer but what are your perspectives?

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I think ... If you're in your 30's and asking relationship advice of strangers, you probably shouldn't be in a serious relationship.

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That's why It's called ask.com. And yeah, I'm in my 30s and have had 2 long term relationships in the past and this one is different. A girl has the right to be curious. Thanks for your opinion though.
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MBrooke15
dont listen to this person...if u cant talk to anyone else about it, this is a good way of getting advice.... Ive gotten a lot of good advice from good people....I hope everything works out for u though.
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Thanks, Mbrooke. It's always nice to hear encouraging words:)
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MBrooke15
your welcome....I think it will go good....just dont stress yourself about it....
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Do it! Like make gestures that might make him want it. or go on a romantic trip somewhere private.

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We've been planning a trip together and hopefully in Spring if our schedules permit, we will.
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sounds to me like he wants sex

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Yes, we both want it and have expressed to each other on several occasions.
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then maybe you should go about doing it
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Wow. That's a weird relationship. I think that relationship is VERY slow considering you haven't slept with him... I think he possibly was having an affair too.

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I'd know if he was sleeping around. We started off as friends first before we actually considered dating. And I don't want to make the same mistakes as I've done in the past where I moved into a relationship way too fast
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I mean that's like the slowest relationship I've heard of. Me being a man myself i would have probably slept with girl in at leats the first month.
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haha. Not all men are like that. And I know I would've too but I'm trying a different approach this time.
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Okay. Good luck.
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Everybody's relationships are unique because of the unique personalities involved. I would just keep on as normal and not try to read too much into any one thing. You can drive yourself crazy trying to evaluate spurious statements. If you feel good about what is going on overall and no alarm bells are going off in your head, (You should have that kinda radar now), just ignore it until you have a reason not to.

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Hehe, thanks Falcon54! I've been keeping it on as normal as possible for the last few months and some days are tough:)
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I think he is sick of waiting the time is right for him and its his way of letting you no

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yeah he already tells me not try o delay much longer but he is a genuine person. I didn't mention the we're both Asians so our culture n beliefs differ.
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I hate to sound so crude, but I think he's simply trying to talk your pants off, if you catch my drift. You stated you haven't had sex yet, so do yourself a favor, and just not fall for this ploy to draw you into a sexual encounter with him. Withhold sex unit you're absolutely sure he's the man for you. Don't be fooled into submission. All too many young women end up as just one night stands, all because they dropped their guard.

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haha that's what I've been doing. it's tough though cause that's all I want. How foolish do I sound?
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8 months??? The text means he's ready to take your relationship to a physical level ! If he has stuck around for 8 months no sex he must love you , that's not healthy to go that long.

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thanks for ur comment. I don't care if anyone thinks I'm a prude. I have to trust my instincts about it and I feel He's the one cause He's waited this long for me.
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yes just do it girl, he wants it and u must love each other loads so what are you waiting for! Go girl!!

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We are planning to do it in March. We're not shy discussing the sex conversation. We've had our phone moments if u know what I mean but I'm not just gonna give myself up that easily although I want to. I just wonder if he loves me. I just wanna tell him I love him and I've showed him by my action .but even though He's done the same, I'm a little afraid of the rejection.
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I think it's time for you guys to have sex 8 mounts is more then ample time and its the holidays what better way to celabrate Christmas or the new year.

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