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Can I sue my husband's mistress for intentional infliiction of emotional distress?

My husband has abandoned myself and three children for another woman. Before he moved out, I asked this woman if she was involved with my husband. She denied this on two occasions. Now, he has moved in with her and they flaunt their relationship. No divorce papers have been sent to me as of yet. He has just been gone for a month romping around with this woman. She knew he was married to me when they started this affair. I am now under the care of a psychiatriast and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I am also on medication because of this. Can I sue her for intentional infliction of emotional distress?

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You need a lawyer. Some states do hold the mistress accountable legally. As for your husband, he owes you, too - alimony and child support. Don't wait for him to file and don't agree to share representation.

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hellll yeaaahhh
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if your husband has not divorced you,yes you can..! all the best

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I really don't know but don't just blame her--he is every bit as guilty.

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It doesn't sound like she's just blaming her, but wants her to share the blame.
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It takes two to tango. She knew he was married..
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Yes it does take 2 to tango. Thats exactly my point. The woman was wrong knowing he was married, but my question is, did HE know he was married? Of course he did. :)
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Lol yeah he definitely knew. I have to be honest I was approached by a married man sweet to the eye and ears but being that I was also cheated on I couldn't see myself doing to her what they have done to me
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Good for u. I'm married to a man who is hit on quite a bit, by women I must say are much more attractive than I, but he just let's em know he's not for sale, lease or rent. that's y I come down on men; I know the heifer shouldn't be flirting with a married man, but I also know the man ain't a victim--he has a mind :)

I hope all gets better for you. All our sympathies...and never doubt that he'll miss his water when his well has suddenly run dry :-/
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Lula is right. Only some states recognize this type of lawsuit. Your main concern needs to be filing for divorce to get alimony and child support. No matter what, his mistress will get hers. He will tire of her and cheat on her next.

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I'm so sorry for your situation. My husband also left me for another woman and abandoned me with with my 3 kids. I couldn't afford a divorce since he was the head of household so I went to legal aid and they divorced me for free I did ask for child support and alimony and umm I never did anything about the slut but I went through the exact thing yet I didnt go get help or medications maybe that would of helped me a whole bunch with all the pain I was going through.

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I am so sorry, I recently went through this myself. The best thing you can do for you and your kids is to persue a divorce. In my opinion, there is nothing lower than a women who will cheat with a married man. What goes around, comes around.

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I believe in that! They leave the food women for some lose legged skank
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I meant good women, sorry
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You will reap what you sow. God will take care of them.
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Don't sue her, it is more your husbands responsibility. He made a commitment to you, not her.

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I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I know in north Carolina a person can sue for alienation of affection. I'm don't know about other states. Good luck, you deserve better

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Hell yes! Sue her and make her pay financially for her actions. She is a grown woman and made a conscious decision to disregard you and your children. She is now benefiting on any and all financial support you are lacking and she sleeps next to your damn husband at night. Sue your husband too, you can incorporate your lawsuit for intentional and negligent emotional distress, breach of contract, etc into your divorce. You could also hire a private investigator, I know that may be a little expensive but in the end believe me it is more than worth it. You could do your own detective work actually and it provides an excellent distraction from the pain and suffering you have to endure. The bottom line is that you are not someone?s baby mama, you are someone?s wife and you are entitled to certain things. He has an obligation to you and your children and if he chose to disrespect and disregard you and your children then he should be held accountable. As a wife, you have rights.

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Please do not listen to any stupid opinions like, she is not the one married to you, that?s just vindictive, or it?s not her fault, simply because, although she isn?t married to you she knew you were married, it is not vindictive to hold any adult accountable for their actions as they are well aware that there are always consequences for any action, and it is definitely fifty percent her fault. As far as he is concerned, take him to the cleaners, sue on behalf of yourself and your children, and make him pay for the lawyers that you will get, private detectives and any medical bills due to therapy/psychiatric treatment as well. Honestly you need to get a few law books and read them thoroughly. One of the biggest problems with society today is the fact that we as a nation have no respect or regard for another?s life or family. I promise you as soon as that whore realizes that her actions will not only put her on public record for being a home wrecker, but that her taxes, paycheck, pension etc can be garnished should you win your case and prove this whore induced the breach of contract, caused emotional harm upon you and your children, that her friends and family will now know that her ?man? is someone else?s husband, she will not only stop the affair but think twice about opening her legs to another creep that?s running around cheating on his wife and children.
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If more women and men where smart enough to make these adulterers and mistresses pay financial for their disgusting libido, they wouldn?t be so quick to violate someone?s marriage. And just for the record, I sued my husband mistress and she is now begging and pleading because she can?t afford a lawyer, she has children to feed etc. I also sued my husband and he is paying me and my children in spades, our lives began lovely and his became the crappy bed he made for himself. Not only did he have to pay for everything, his entire family has looked upon him with distaste and shame. I had no interest in waiting for what goes around comes around scenarios, it happened to me and my children and now it happened to him and his whore. I will gladly encourage any married person male or female to handle the situation in the same manner. It isn?t just females that are being cheated on and mistreated. I didn?t use a lawyer, I used law libraries and law books and it worked out just fine.
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This is happening to me too. The woman, Elaine dibos-lowry found my husband on Facebook who used to be his high school sweet heart. She immediately divorced her husband and started relationship with my husband. She lives in Texas and we live in Georgia. He moved out and the next thing I know he was in Hilton in California with her. He caused my 2 boys and I long term depression and anxiety. I warned her many time to leave my husband alone but she responded no. My lawyer wants to sue her regardless of no Alienation of affection law exist in Texas. She left her husband who was diagnosed with cancer. I have been married for 18 years and had a beautiful marriage. She is broke with 4 kids and the ugliest woman I have ever seen. My husband is very successful and I put him through college and made him successful. I never wish this on anyone but I am going full force to take care of the pain she caused my family. You have no idea how devastating it is to have your whole world ripped apart suddenly and without warning.

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