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One of my friends lost his father yesterday. I don't know how to help him.. Do you have an advices for me and.. for him? Thank you xxx

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I am so sorry for your friend. One of my friends lost their mother yesterday as well. All you can do is listen if he wants to talk. Let him be quiet if that what he wants. Just let him know that you are there for him either way. Did you know his dad? Do you have other friends that knew him? You and/or others can write a special memory down of his dad and if there are several you can make something like a scrap book for him, if it is just you just give him the letter. He need to remember the good times and not the loss.

My friend is asking for people to wear her mom's favorite color to the services, and asking for donations being made to her favorite charity instead of flowers. If you now if your friend's dad had a favorite cause you can make a donation to it in his name. Or if he had a favorite sports team wear the colors of the team to the service.

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Thank you very much! Xx im not very close to him and I dont know his dad... But i will be there for him!
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try to make him/her feel better

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Be their for him and comfort him in his time of need. I would also give him some space fore a few days and not pry too much about it.

If it were me and my friend I would try to keep their mind off of it and keep them happy. If it were to be brought up I would say "It was meant to be for some strange reason, keep your head up kid- you got me, I'll be here for you when you need it." and remind them that their Dad is no longer suffering and, probably, keeping watch and protecting them. Just try to keep their spirits up.

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Take him (er) to the club!!! Jk

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Say you'll be there for him, and then be there. You just have to listen, mostly. He really needs his friends and family, but he may need some time to himself, too. He probably doesn't even believe it yet, to tell the truth. It probably will be after the funeral that he could use a good friend who cares the most.

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I'm so sorry. :(
I think if you first ask if he wants to talk about it or not. Then do whatever!
Try to have a Merry Christmas I guess...

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Your very welcome. And I will pray for you. <3
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Oh youre really nice than k you so much <3
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Ask him how he feels, if he has a plain expression or angry, don't give him pity. However, if he's sad, you can give him his condolences.

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Just be there as a friend and let him know you are there for him :)

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Give him some space to calm down

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I would tell him it will be alright. Don't tell him I'm sorry...he will get that a lot from now on. He will most likely end up hating to get sympathy.

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