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If you are a 25 single girl, would you marry a 24 divorced man with a twin boys of 5 paying child support and having no house to leave?

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No. Not a good future there.

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It Is Not! Good Job!
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if you love him

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No, absolutely not

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No.

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In about 13 years

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Because his kids will be 18, and he won't have to be paying child support any more. Then he will be able to support you.
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Noooo not a good idea. You would be miserable.

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AT least he has proven that he isn't sterile~

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It Is Not A Good Future Or Idia!

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Ummm no

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would you marry him for material benefits or because you love and believe in him......if it is the latter go ahead....he may just start doing well with your support ...and may soon be able to afford his own house.

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Tt is better not to marry such person.

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A good friend would tell you-no. But you will probably be with him anyway.

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You are both about 4 years into your 70 years as an adult, barely started.
Anything is possible including courses and wealth building.
Kids under 8 are mostly receptive to a new parent figure.
No house is not an issue USA has 5 million vacant homes.
Renting is a better use of money than buying, and leaves you able to move.

Issue is this a person you have to mother ?
Are his ethics, habits, maturity, ability/creativity to work in place ?
Do you have shared values ?
Do you both love each other hopelessly
Does he have baggage from his marriage ?
Is this a case of "too fast after a breakdown"
Is the relationship because you feel sorry for him.
How does he treat his mum, alcohol, drugs, gambling, hobbies
Does he keep things tidy and clean ?

You may well be in love with the twins
More than him.

If ok on all these, proceed cautiously to next level.

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not at all.never

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if you like him and kids :P

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No. Wouldn't even go there.

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I would not. It sounds to me like you are settling. You can find someone who will love you without any baggage, enjoy your youth.

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If you have to ask, NO. If you just had no other choice; you couldn't live without him... you wouldn't be asking and the situation wouldn't matter. Either way... doesn't look wise.

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Doesn't sound good

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good luck.

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No not until he saved to have a house he a year younger remember the boys will always be there it real take a tole on your relationship when you have kids and the kids have to come first don't get stuck doing all the work for him and check out his X she will be part if your life for a long time

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