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My aunt was so rude!! We went to my grandmothers house for Christmas.. and well.. my grandma got a call while we were there saying her sister had passed away due to cancer. My grandma didn't take it that well... she was upset. I mean.. her sister died on Christmas! I'd be upset too! But.. my aunt was just lecturing us about smoking. She thinks the reason my grandmas sister got cancer was because of smoking. Which IS NOT true! She was basically telling us all what to do with our own lives.. like not smoke. We all started fighting.. then she has the nerve to insult my father.. she went WAY to far. I stood up and literally screamed at her. She had no reason to bring my father into it. My uncle has cancer... and then she tells my cousin that her own father (my uncle) is going to die next. My cousin got really upset and started crying. She said a lot of things that upset everyone.. and I don't know what to do.. I mean, I'm so mad at her right now! She was being completely rude. My grandma does NOT need this.. my aunt was also saying how my grandma was going to die. Like... Wtf? I'm sorry, but there was no need for any of that! This was the worst Christmas ever.. I'm really worried about my grandma... she's 81 years old.. she CAN'T handle all this... Do you think it was unnecessary for her to say all that?? I swear sometimes she has no heart. :(

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Yes, I think that was rude, but it's understandable, given the circumstances. People say things when they're upset they would never say otherwise. Stress is very powerful.
Talk to her and try to comfort her about her sister. She's upset, and she needs someone to help her right now.

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Tldr :P Our opinion doesn't matter as much as yours does. If you thought it was rude say something.

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Yes......your aunt was a b!tch. Sorry. Good for you for screaming at your aunt. I am sorry about your lousy Christmas. I recall that you didn't get gifts, either. :( ( I also recall you didn't want any, but still) Just doesn't seem like a good Christmas at all, for you. : [

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It's hasn't been a very good christmas :/ Insulting my father is something you don't do when I'm around..I tend to get pretty angry. Christmas Isn't the same anymore :(
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Oh no. You can't let one Christmas ruin it for you. You will get over this one, but you won't forget. Please don't be down on Future Christmases. Your attitiude will make a big difference.
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I'm usually cheerful and happy on Christmas... But my family always fights.. Every since my mom and dad got divorced.. All Christmas's for me have been bad :(
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I'm really sorry. : {
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She has issues, thats for sure.

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That WAS very rude, you had a right to scream at her and stand up for your Father. You should probably try and talk to her, even though your mad at her. Is she always this way?

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I don't smoke, but with the chemotherapy I was on, secondhand smoke could have easily made me have gone deaf, it would not surprise me if it could have
She is just venting, and can't control her emotions, don't take it personally

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advicegirl13, I'm so sorry for your loss! And while your Aunt was completely out of line, (and I'm not trying to stick up for her at all) but maybe she was upset as well and this is how she was dealing with it! The way she dealt with it however, wasn't very adult like and I'm sorry you had to witness it. :(

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Yea.. I guess. She's always been a good one for telling people what to do and lecturing others. But thanks Cj! :)
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Don't take anything she said to heart sweetie. Especially if this is her "norm". She's just a very negative person, and we all know misery loves company!
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I shouldn't take it to heart.. But it's my family.. I mean I love them.. I don't wanna hear that stuff :(
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She may be just very sad that maybe she didn't mean to go too far. It happens to everyone in their life. I don't think your aunt meant to say any of what you heard.

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the worst thing in the world you can do is ignore someone. personally, i would not say another word to your aunt. nor should anyone else. get up. turn your back and silently take your granma into another room. close the door in her face - if your aunt tries to follow. take your granma and hold her tight and tell her how much you love her. same for anyone else who cares to join you. don't discuss how rude the aunt was - in front of your granma. make her feelings the main focus. someone should have stayed with granma. as everyone leaves, ignore the aunt, but give joyful wishes to everyone else. but make sure there is someone to ensure the aunt leaves before almost everyone is gone. don't want to leave her behind with granma. don't engage her or let her engage anyone in conversation. remember - it takes 2 to make an argument. so she would have no one to argue with. then, don't invite the aunt to any other family functions until she has learned her opinions are not wanted or welcomed. i hope your granma will be ok.

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Awee sad and ya well some people handle death differently but ya that sounds pretty messed up. Are you doing ok?

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Hey Chris! I haven't been doing too good... How about you?
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Hi Sarah :) and pretty good, so whats been up?
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Not a lot... I have a boring life! :P haha! You?
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Haha you know me so its not THAT boring x) and nuffin out on parole and im lookin to score
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Haha what do you mean?
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What do you mean what do i mean???
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You said "out on parole and looking to score" ;) haha!
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Haha i know :3
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Yea but what do you mean by that? x)
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Haha what do you need me to explain? Its pretty self exclamitory XP
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Well it was from a song and you should text me
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