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Is this really sensitive?

I'm kind of a shy/romantic/sensitive/nice guy so if you don't understand people like that id rather you just not even comment on this.

so theres a girl i really adore and like and have liked for a really long time. but me being me, i let the opportunity slip away and i mean i had a couple of them. being shy sucks and i know i have to man up i get that and thats fine I'm learning to do tht. but recently, i found out she's taken and that really just broke my hear. like it was pretty bad... i really care about girls i don't want sex or any of that shit i really liked her and i liked listening to her and making her laugh and just helping her and taking care of her. so now I'm like screwed basically right? we talked seldom but when we did it was a good convo i mean she def notices me but i would never ever ever come between her and her bf ever. i would hate for someone to do that to me. i don't even know like i guess I'm over it but i have dreams and random thoughts that piss me off but being nice i just ignore them or think what could've been it really sucks and its kind of gotten worse. tell me what the best thing to do here would be.

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Well just because she's with someone else right now, that doesn't mean you've lost her forever, or she'll be with him forever. This doesn't obviously mean you should interfere (and don't tell her you like her), which you already get. You don't have to "wait" for her if you don't want either, so don't hold your breath, because she could be with him for a long time. The only thing I can think of is just keep trying to put it out of your mind, and if you are ok with just being friends with her, that could be a way of being around her. If one day down the track, she's single, and you're single, well that's a start at least, and something may happen.

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Since she is already taken, the best thing would be to let her be and move on. It is very noble of you not to want to interfere with their relationship, but if you keep seeing her, you will never forget the lost chance.

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Just stop seeing her and move on! There are other girls out there........ She is not the only girl left in the world! If don't stop seeing her, you will never be able to move on with your life! You know she is already taken, right? Then what is the point of wasting your life after someone you can't have?

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Hey dude, let her know how you feel. It would really suck to find out years from know that she wanted you. That she was, "settling" for him. Let her know, and walk away.

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Damn good answer!!! Broat...I get, understand, respect, and definitely relate to how you wouldn't want to interfere with your friend's relationship with her current boyfriend, it really is noble as one responder above has commented...but GOD DAMN, Tonqi's answer shed some light!!!
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The fact that you don't want to ruin her relationship is good. Telling her might make things uncomfortable. It's hard but, I say try to find someone else that is not in a relationship. There is a girl out there who is looking for a guy like you.

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i know how you feel there was this one guy i was interested in he was the most amazing guy ever but my parents didnt like him so i was band from talking or texting him ever again :( it was hard i almost cried when i saw that he had texted me like a thousand times and i couldnt reply, but i know what i did was right because i listened to my parents and i know some day ill find a better guy that my parents will like and i will love for like for ever :) dont worry about a relationship yet you will find some one even more interesting and you'll get to have her, then you can dream about her all you want

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I used to be extremely shy so I know where you are coming from. I actually missed an opportunity just like you and found out later that the girl liked me but was also too shy to do anything.

The best advice I can give you is to learn to be honest about how you feel without being needy. If you are needy, meaning you are attached to the outcome of how she responds, she will see you as desperate. There is nothing less attractive than desperation.

If you like someone, ask them out in a casual way, always keeping in your mind that it is their loss if they say no. Don't ever beg and say things like, "I really really want to go out with you."

Just keep it casual and if they don't respond, just move on.

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Stay close to her. Keep her as your "pal", for now. When this new fellow doesn't work out, you'll be there. do you actually know if she's interested in you. make sure you do everything you can to find out. if she is, don't keep throwing away your opportunities. You sound like a great catch to me.

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Keep this girl close! You still talked to her you haven't really let her "slip away" from you. If you are trying to cope think of that in that aspect that you really haven't lost her that she is still there! I know this girl probably has made you feel for her in ways that you really haven't felt for anyone else, but know that there are tons of other woman out there that can make you feel the same way! So keep your head up because you will find her!

As for being shy! Hey you aren't the only one! Myself being shy. So I know how it feels to let something slip away that you really wanted to hold on to. I realized if I hadn't changed my ways and being less shy I would let some of the most important things that I had slip away from me!Your shyness is standing in the way of your happiness, and you know that! So make a difference. Conquer your fear of being shy and when you are in another situation like this just ask yourself is this person or this opportunity really worth losing to my shyness? Sometimes it is good to step out of your comfort zone! But in order to do that it takes you to realize that first! Best of luck! I hope I could of helped.

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