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How to celebrate the birthday of dead people?

Generally asking for celebRation as I want to celebrate the birthday of my maternal grandfather.

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You could arrange for a small gathering with family members in his honor and get a cake, light a candle and have a festive atmosphere to remember him as he was. Don't be sad just be happy knowing that he's watching over you. Bring pictures and share fun memories of him with the family members you will be surprice how much you'll learn about him and how fun it will be and you be happy just like he want you to be.

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Perhaps you could go to where he is interred and leave flowers for him. Say a prayer in his memory while you are there. Light a candle somewhere and think of him as it burns. Just wanting to celebrate him is honoring his memory.

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You could go and leave flowers for him like Koichan said,get a family get-together and talk about him,remember his good qualities and the reasons you miss him alot. :)

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I had a big all day memory day like a second wake on the 21st anniversary of my brothers death. 45 people passed through my house that day at different times. They represented different times in his life. We had a memory board of photos that everyone contributed to on the day & we shared a feast in his honor. It was one of the best days I have had. There was so much love in my house that day, that was nearly 5 years ago. He turned fifty this year. I will always miss him but i know I can connect with him anytime just by sitting quietly & talking to him.
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Awwww,may his soul rest in peace.Take care. :)
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Isn't it about cultural differences?

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No!
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It's about a love & the impact that person had in your life. I think love is universal & crosses all barriers in life. Cultural & spiritual, no matter what they were to you, they were part of your life.
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I celebrate the birthday of my sister that passed away by having her favorite meal for supper. She loved chili dogs and cheese dip, so that's what I have and I cherish my memories at that time.

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I hadn't thought of that. That's a good idea.
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It makes me feel like I'm honoring her memory. How did you do yesterday?
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So much better than I thought I would. We went to my sister's daughter's (my niece) for Christmas Eve and we all did pretty well. I hope you did okay too.
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I did. I know I've mentioned somewhere that I'm past the raw sorrow and am experiencing the aching sorrow....that's the best I can describe it. Still, I didn't expect to miss her so much. My niece, her daughter, came over to the house. That was nice.
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Rebecca, I've read about grief attacks. Supposedly, you can be just going about your daily work and something-a scent, a sound, a sight-triggers memories of your loved one. I guess it makes sense and definitely Christmas evokes memories. I just wanted to share that with you.
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My grandfather passed away in August, the following year on his birthday in July, my mom called me and she was upset and didn't know how to handle it. So I called up my brothers, and I went and bought some pre-made cupcakes, and told everyone to meet us at Grandpa's grave. This helped my mom immensely. Maybe it would help you as well.

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Are you muslim?
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Nope sorry.
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Then you are Christian sister.
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That's a very good idea. A celebration combined with memories...it was sweet of you to think of doing it!
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Hmm.. I celebrate the birthdays of people close to my heart that passed away by honoring them in my heart acknowledging the change they made and how much influence they've managed to yield during their lifetime. By remembering, rejoicing, celebrating the life they've lived.

I celebrate my mom's birthday(who passed away) by playing her the music she loved hearing from me when she was still alive. Bringing her flowers and candles and having an intimate celebration with her in my heart and mind in front of her altar in the house.

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Hi . This is so sweet.
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I like the idea of your intimate celebration. Thanks for sharing.
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I always burn a candle on my mom & dads b-day and d-day . Every year

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I am so sad to know that you are orphan?may God give you courage?
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Celebrate the beutiful memories of those you loved remember all the things you loved about them

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You can burn 100 candles for 100 reasons you love them you can serve at a gathering in honor of the loved one some thing special and pray for all those still here that they will be in Gods care and safe and thank God for who He has left here to be with you
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Cherish those that are here
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I love your last statement, "Cherish those that are here." Thanks for sharing.
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Yes it's beautiful words to sooth those that are here & not with their loved ones.
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Find a peaceful room in your house that doesn't have anyone traipsing through to interrupt this moment in time. Buy a special candle to represent the person. Ie a coffee drinker a coffee scented candle. If you know the aftershave or perfume they wore you could spray that in the air. If you have a photo of them have that close by, or something that belonged to them. You may like to hold something of theirs in your hands. With their candle burning, sit there & remember them & their achievements in life. I talk out loud to them. I tell them what they have missed since last time I spoke with them. I usually have tears but they are of love & sadness that they can't be here. I ask them for advice & to guide me as they can see the big picture & I can only see what's under my nose. I tell them I miss them & talk about times gone by for us. I spend anywhere from 20 - 45 minutes. There's no set timeframe. Just however long it takes you to remember their life & acknowledge the part they played in your life. I wish them to stay safe till the next time I light their candle. I Tell them I love & miss them & say happy birthday or whatever & assure them that I will speak with them again soon.

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