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My Son Alex is 16. He's been watching porn and then and being a complete jerk to his mom and he's breaking curfue and staying out untill 3 in the morning. he broke his mom's wrist the other day because he grabbed it and twisted it. and he actually peed on her.... i don't know what to do. i've grounded him from his car and hes not allowed to go out with friends but he breaks the lock on his door and goes out anyway...and he has a sense that he can pee wherever he wants to..hes out of control...help?

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Your son may be psychotic: up until breaking his mother's wrist an urinating on her (he may have got that from all the porn) - he had classic adolescent behaviors - but these two events are beyond the realm of typical adolescence. Drag him for an evaluation by a psychiatrist / psychologist and provide them with a detailed history of his 16 years. He's heading fast down the lane of perversion and violent criminality. You may need social services in on this too. He may have to be placed in a mental health facility for observation, counseling, and medication. Beating him to a pulp could provoke a psychotic to stab you in your sleep in retaliation - Lanza's mother was trying to have him committed when he blew her head off. Consider this kid potentially lethal.

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does his mom having cancer and his sister dying form cancer at 11 have anything to do with this?
they were twins..but he was mean like that since he hit 12...
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Mr cereb..... I think you are absolutely right. You last sentence is worrying me. Thanks for your comments.
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Adrian: of course these are contributions to his behavior - but many of us have had tragedies in our early life and don't become out-of-control rage maniacs that break their mothers's hands or urinate on her (that is typical of prisoners and deeply disturbed psychiatric patients). You need professionals to evaluate him before he hurts anyone else or himself.
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Aij: yes - very troublesome - this is the personality type that gave us Columbine...
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Rath: seriously? What does that say about the poster's state of mind?
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Dubious.
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Take off your belt and show him who the boss of the house is. That or when he's out change the locks on the front door. If he breaks in call the cops and have him prosecuted. Sounds like he wasn't disciplined when he was younger.

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ive belted him before.. and soap in his mouth when he was being nasty to his mom. hes been disiplined..and he just now peed on his mom again...i dont know what to do. i dont want to do anything considered abuse
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Haul him to a psychiatrist. Sounds like he's got a screw loose.
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I Told Him I Was Getting HIm Help..., And He Started Crying And Said "I Don't Need Help ... I'm Sorry Okay? I Just Don't Know How To Handle Anything And I Have Bad Anger Issues And I Have Trust Issues And Trouble Talking Already...Strangers...If I Talk To Strangers Dad I'll Freak...I...Bleh...Dad...Take My Labtop...And Can I Be Homeschooled? And...Please Don't Make Me Talk To Strangers....Dad...Please...I'm Sorry...I Get Mad Easily..."
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and then he said "Just..I'd Rather Die Than Go To A Stranger"
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Sounds like he really needs help.
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You should lock him in his room and take all his toys and his computer (if he has one), and then you should yell at him until he stops. My dad would do that to me (except the lock in room thing, your son just deserves to be punished). I don't want to be harsh or anything, and I'm sorry if I am, but he needs severe punishment for his actions.

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Boom, done. http://www.teen-bootcamp.com, That or a lot of places have a program to let your teen spend a day in jail...

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Send him to that tv show parental control where they discipline children or maybe military school? Why is he treating his mom like that? He might need to see a counselor or something.

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i dont know. he's being a real jerk..and he jus tnow decided it was alright to pee on his mom...i don't have th emoney for any tv show...what do i do? i mean i know he'd had a rough time....but really this is too far
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You should take him to a counselor. I know this might seem like a bit much but he broke his moms wrist , there can be some issues going on behind that.. s far as discipline , It doesn;t seem like he is going to listen to anything say , so grounding him won't help much. You could try to create your own little boot camp if you can't afford to send him to one. Maybe every time he pees on something you could have him scrub it with a tooth brush until its cleaner than it was when he peed on it. He would quickly learn that pee goes in toilets only!
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the face that makes this worse..is his mama has cancer..so he takes advantage of her.
i think i have a reason behind his ..behavior. theres no reason fo r it but his sister died of canccer when she was 11
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also one night in a jail cell is a little harsh but he would definetely learn his lesson then.
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Oh. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm very sorry his mother has cancer too. You should definietely take him to a counselor, then.
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meant definetely
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thank you. and what stuff would be too harsh? as a punishment
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To many times parents are soft on the child. Get help. Call 911 if you have to. He had no respect for your house. Pissing on a person is an ultimate sign of disrespect. Letting him continue only lets him get closer to death our life in prison. I know way to many convicts that wish their parents had done something sooner.
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oh I was just saying that putting him in jail would be a bit harsh but would do the trick. You probably shouldn't hit him either
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Should I Do Something This Very Second? Alex Is Trying To Sleep Now.
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Tell him "get in the car, I'm getting you help", and you better be ready for a fight. Can you win? Or will you have broken bones also? Report him. Let them come pick him up. Don't get yourself hurt.
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Yes! Look up some good counselors or something! Your son may be going through a hard time but he is still out of control. You need to stay on top of the situation and in control. Best of luck to you and your son. I'll be praying for your family
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I Told Him I Was Getting HIm Help..., And He Started Crying And Said "I Don't Need Help ... I'm Sorry Okay? I Just Don't Know How To Handle Anything And I Have Bad Anger Issues And I Have Trust Issues And Trouble Talking Already...Strangers...If I Talk To Strangers Dad I'll Freak...I...Bleh...Dad...Take My Labtop...And Can I Be Homeschooled? And...Please Don't Make Me Talk To Strangers....Dad...Please...I'm Sorry...I Get Mad Easily..."
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Well mybe if he's like xenophobic or something you could talk him yourself. Watch him. Maybe he'll be different. If he acts the same really do get him help.
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I am Talking To Him Now. I Got Through..I Think. I got him to talk bout whats bothering him and he told me he loved me and now..he just asked if he could go tLK To his mom...alone..but..i dunno
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maybe not alone but ur breaking through! Good for you hope everything works out
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What!? He broke his mom's wrist and peed on her?! Sounds like he needs a juvenile detention center. Or a psychiatrist.

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he i sjus tso direspectfull...and when i threaten juvy he just runs his hands through his hair and then punches the wall and leaves
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Yeah, sounds like he needs professional help. Just follow through with whatever you say you will do. That way, he won't question your authority.
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The problem. There it is. "t h r e a t s"
Hollow and no authority. For his sake, make the hard move.
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knock him out breaking his moms wrist is something that i would kill my son for

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Take away everything in his room except a blanket and pillow. Take his door off. If he gets better start giving back clothes, a mattress, and dresser/hangers for the closet and he will eventually earn his room back. If he gets worse take away the pillow. My aunt did this to my cousin.

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I think his son just gets on his account
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Beat him up, he'll learn, and it's not like he'll call the cops at all

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Makes sense, nobody writes that much unless they're trying to get attention
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Thus is way beyond typical teenage behavior. Get the juvenile authorities involved. Send him away for a while.
Its my son u say. Don't do something now and he will end up in prison for a long time. And as bearer of bad tidings, I'll say the worst, his mom might end up dead. DO SOMETHING IMMEDIATELY.

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Let me add. If there was a person in my vicinity getting peed on, I would proudly go to jail for beating them to sleep. If it were someone I cared for, said pee er best hope someone is around capable of stopping me.
Quit talking, call professionals.
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I think you should turn him in to a correction center or a psychiatric ASAP cuz if he does that in this age to his mom later on he is gonna grow wilder and wilder and I am so sorry to hear and say that the world doesnt want another bad happening like what happened in that elementary school.

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Your son does not need punishment from you, he needs professional help ASAP. Call social services or the police, they can tell you what steps you need to take. Get the kid out of the house NOW, not later.

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He's Trying To Sleep Now... I'm Getting A Hold Of The pros now
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Good for you. I hope everything works out for you.
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He sounds like he is in need of help right away. Take him to a crisis center. He does not need a beating or any severe treatment, he needs help. Something not right!!

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I Told Him I Was Getting HIm Help..., And He Started Crying And Said "I Don't Need Help ... I'm Sorry Okay? I Just Don't Know How To Handle Anything And I Have Bad Anger Issues And I Have Trust Issues And Trouble Talking Already...Strangers...If I Talk To Strangers Dad I'll Freak...I...Bleh...Dad...Take My Labtop...And Can I Be Homeschooled? And...Please Don't Make Me Talk To Strangers....Dad...Please...I'm Sorry...I Get Mad Easily..."
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Call the police.

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I Told Him I Was Getting HIm Help..., And He Started Crying And Said "I Don't Need Help ... I'm Sorry Okay? I Just Don't Know How To Handle Anything And I Have Bad Anger Issues And I Have Trust Issues And Trouble Talking Already...Strangers...If I Talk To Strangers Dad I'll Freak...I...Bleh...Dad...Take My Labtop...And Can I Be Homeschooled? And...Please Don't Make Me Talk To Strangers....Dad...Please...I'm Sorry...I Get Mad Easily... I'm Sorry I'd Rather Die Than Talk To A Stranger,,"
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If nothing else worked, that is basically your last option. It most likely will work, and if it doesn't, then I don't know
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He needs a beating

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Prevention is better then cure, you must inform this type of behavior to police and ask them to tame him in some juvenile rehabilitation center. Send him in military.

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I Told Him I Was Getting HIm Help..., And He Started Crying And Said "I Don't Need Help ... I'm Sorry Okay? I Just Don't Know How To Handle Anything And I Have Bad Anger Issues And I Have Trust Issues And Trouble Talking Already...Strangers...If I Talk To Strangers Dad I'll Freak...I...Bleh...Dad...Take My Labtop...And Can I Be Homeschooled? And...Please Don't Make Me Talk To Strangers....Dad...Please...I'm Sorry...I Get Mad Easily... I'm Sorry I'd Rather Die Than Talk To A Stranger,," And I've Been Talking To him. I sORTA GOT THROUGH.
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I am very sorry to know all that. I is a very strange situation. May Allah give you strength to come over all this. Aameennn.
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