Well it just come from self control, listening is a good thing cause you are in topic or something not like throwing some random stuff out there, and learn not to get into convos if you don't know what the topic of it about :D
Listen more. People always say they like people that listen, it's hard but being patient is a real virtue. My bf doesn't talk much, but I do & it helps him open up more he says. So, possibly listen more but still be yourself... otherwise it's just fake!