Honestly, you can't generalize mate selection for gays -- any more than you can generalize for straight people, male or female. I've got quite a few gay friends, male and female, so I see this all the time. Forget the stereotypes and the jokes that even gays tell on themselves. They want the same things that everybody else wants in a lover or a spouse. Think about it: Some straight guys want girly girls, some like sporty girls, or party girls, or serious scholar or career girls. Some want fashionable girls, some don't care if they're in jeans or totally sloppy but fun and loving. Same thing is true for the kind of guys that straight girls are looking for, right? Jock vs hipster vs accountant vs poet vs musician vs average guy who just loves her, etc etc etc. Every person has different preferences in their ideal mate. Gay guys or girls are just the same. They are just Looking for a special someone to share their life with, for right now or (if possible) for the rest of their lives. The ONLY difference from the choices in mates that straight people make is that the person a gay is looking for is embodied inside another gay person, rather than the opposite gender. Honest and truly.