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I'm depressed, and is it normal for me to purposefully not attend and fear counseling?

I have been depressed as long as I can remember, including in my childhood. I went to counseling then and realized it wasn't helping me. Now as an adult, I still feel this way toward counseling. I feel uncomfortable talking to people whose job is to listen to me and help me, but I am comfortable talking to someone I actually know and trust. I don't believe in counseling and I don't think it helps me. Is that normal for a depressed person? Also, I can only tell certain people about my depression and sadly, none of them are family. I can trust the few friends I have for advice versus my family. My family knows I'm depressed but don't seem to show any signs of caring about it. My few friends are understanding and supportive about my problem, but I think it's strange I trust friends over family to talk with for help. Is that normal as well?

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You should see a counselor, and not just once. It takes a few times to get things out there. They are are going to give you an honest and professional opinion. Even if you think your friends are being honest, they still hold back because they don't want to hurt you.

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NO!!!! you need help, the world needs the things you are going to provide to it, we all have a purpose, and it isnt dying

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There is nothing wrong with trusting friends over family, if thats all you have go with it and think positive, things will get better if you believe they will.

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I was the same way when I was depressed. I didn't snap out of it until I moved in with my roommate 2 years ago. I would rather talk to a friend than a therapist or family.

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Completely normal to have fear. Fear is false evidence appearing real. Go to the counseling session and walk through your fear. Just remember, God is by your side and loves you unconditionally, ask for his help, and he will be by your side for this new adventure.

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Sometimes it feels stupid like no one can help you but if you let loose and find the right counselor that you're comfortable talking to you'll be fine.

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Nothing is normal about depression. You might not believe in counseling but it can and does help with depression. But, only if the patient participates whole heartedly. Telling friends about your issues makes them take the role of counselor and moves them out of a friendship role. Not good.
Perhaps your feeling that family is the cause if your depression, therefore you do not trust them. And as above, when talking to a loved one about your issues, it moves them to a caretaker role and not a loved one role that they should have. Not good.
Please take another look at therapy.
You might have to interview several practitioners before you find the right one for you, but once you do, you will open up your world to pleasurable feelings again.
Good luck.

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It is totally normal to talk to your friends over your family. My guess most of what you talk about is your family. If you talk to someone in your family it often gets back to who you were talking about.

As for not talking to a professional, ehhh..... You should try to get over the fear. They will see things from a new perspective and may give you new insight. Your friends see things for your view and will agree with you more often then not. A professional will look at it from all sides and help you see things as others my see them. It may not always be what you want to hear, but if your way was working you wouldn't still need help, would you?

If you give a counselor try and after a few (3-5) sessions things aren't clicking find another one. It is a personal thing and sometimes it takes a few tries to find the right one.

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Trusting friends more then family can be alright. If you feel you have enough control over your depression, and know you are on the right amount of medication (if you need any), then you shouldn't have to go to counseling if it makes you uncomfortable.

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yes its normal, Its extremely uncomfortable because your having a stranger pry personal information from you. Talk to your friends if its what helps you. I'm sure your family cares but just dont know what to do or how to help you. Running, exercising( join a adult sports team, skate, bike, surf, martial arts iceskate, etc.)Whatever you like to do or are interest in trying out will help lift your mood. be outside in the sun and finding hobbies and being around people should also help

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you can talk to a very close person and ask for advise. Tell them you dont want to feel depressed anymore and your tired of it. Remember to thank them. Hope this helps

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