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So, I've been dating this boy and he's always rubbing my legs and trying to touch my boobs. when I try to tell him to stop he just gets mad. I'm only 14 and I'm not sure how to handle this. Like the other day he asked me I'd I wanted to play a game called fire truck so I said yes, he said he was gonna walk his fingers up my legs and when it got awkward to say red light I said red light almost right away but he insisted that fire trucks don't stop at red lights I wanna break up with him but he has bad pictures of me and I'm scared he might put them out in public. Ive been up all night worrying I cant even sleep anymore what should I do???

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If he's your age then tell your parents or even a school counselor and get help the number one thing is to take those pics away from him and him away from you :)

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You need to open up about this to your parents or your school counselor. What you have is not a relationship and if you carry on with it, he might just end up doing something you will regret for the rest of your life. If a man won't respect your feelings and opinions, he isn't worth your time. Break up with him if you have to, but don't subject yourself to this anymore.

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If he's 18, press charges
If he's not, tell your parents
And he is just using you for his own pleasures.

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How old is he?

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!4, as said in the paragraph.
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*14
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Meet up with him. Delete the pictures and tell him you want to break up.. He's being to pushy and touchy Feely for your likeings.

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Tell your parents or slowly get rid of the pics then brake up with him

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You could press charges . And if he has pics of you could press charge for that. Some boys just want s?x . Just be careful

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Take his phone and delete everything!!! I went through the same thing and now I have a picture going through the high school of me and its bad. Definitely delete the pics. Take his phone and run into the bathroom or something because I do not want you to go though what I'm going though. Now guys have my picture as there screen savers and its awful. DO NOT BREAK UP WITH HIM because he sounds exactly like the guy I was dateing. Make sure the pictures are gone first and don't tell your parents or the school because its illegal to send them. I'm so sorry that happened ):

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It's illegal for HIM to have them. You sending them will probably get you in trouble, yes, because that's dangerous and not very wise. But not as much trouble as HE will get in for having them or spreading them around. I'm sorry about what happened with you sincerelyconfused but you can press charges against him for distributing them. Talk to your school counsellor if you need to.
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Tell him that it is illegal for him to share pics of you and it's illegal for you to send them unless you both are 18. Have an adult call him and explain this to him and please don't send any more questionable pics. He sounds like a shady person if he's threatening you with that, put a stop to it now.

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You should break up with this guy. Tell your
A. Parents
B. Teacher
C. School Counselor
D. Principle
Now, im no psychic, but I can see this guy going to jail for rape or molestation

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true :)
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cute his dic* out.........no i joking to do that haha tell your parents but dont tell any school people that work there because he will tell his friends and its just..... not good break up with this dam as* ho :D good luck

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dont worry i had the same problem with my ex.boyfriend and im only 13 and incidentally he asked me to play the same game"when to stop" but he called it and i didnt know wht it was either.... i jus distanced myself from him abit but then later dumped him but now we're friends just tell him u dont feel comfortable doing tht stuff then say maybe when we're older (even if u dont feel tht way it will still give him how u say "hope" for later ) good luck girly! :)

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Should have kept your clothes on then you wouldn't have to worry about the pics.

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While you're right that taking sexy pictures when you're a teenager isn't a smart move, this isn't very helpful. And it's not her fault that her boyfriend is a total jerk.
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This guy is dangerous. Like, really dangerous. He won't respect you saying no and that makes him the worst kind of boyfriend ever - the kind grownup women would press charges against.

The pictures are the problem. If they are only in his phone, here is what I would suggest. Go to a school counsellor or another adult that you trust. Explain that you have been pushed into things that you didn't want to do and you are afraid of what this boy will do. Ask if they will confiscate his phone without any warning to him. They can delete the photos and the other kids don't have to know.

You HAVE to tell an adult about this guy, and here's why. Even if not with you, someone who does stuff like this will probably eventually do something even more horrible than what he has already done. If you tell someone, they may be able to stop him before he does that, and no girl will have to spend the rest of her life with those horrible memories and nightmares of what he did to her.

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tell ur parents
he has screws loose
tell his parents

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I'm only 14 too, and it sounds as if your being sexually harassed. Threaten to press charges if he continues to do it and don't be afraid to really tell him off. And you really can press charges, especially if he's older than you. You should not be in this positions and it not right that he should be able to harass you. Tell a adult about it, and yer I know it's going to be a bit awkward but don't risk staying with him any longer, he could try something else that would be far worse and can lead on to other problems.

You can try getting the pictures off him weather they are on his phone or whatever, distract him and take his phone, and delete the pictures, permanently!

The best thing to do is to tell your mum of dad or you boyfriend parents and they will sort it out.

Remember, he has not right to touch you if you are uncomfortable with it. Tell him to piss off! Smack his hand when he tries to touch your legs or breasts. Stand up for yourself.

Hope you get through this alright.

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When your with him ask him if u can text a friend on his phone then delete the pics give it back then the next day break up with him

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Delete the pictures from his phone and and then tell him that things arent working out and break up with him. Good luck, I hope you find someone better

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you should open up to your parents or guardian's so they can help you handle everything. also if he is older you can take legal action

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you should sneak into his phone delete the pics and then break up with him you should not have to go through any of this we females have to stick together or we will be fight each other over nothing boys think it is funny but it isn't we should be able to help each other without bein embarrassed even though we dont know each other i am here on ask.com to help who ever needs help

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Get bad pictures of him or make him do something stupid when drunk or something and video then its equal and you can dump him if that pic is you face it will handy to get lads.

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Wouldn't that make her equally as bad as he is?
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"do stuff to make him break up with you but don't make it obvious you're trying to make him break up w/ you. or get another girl you know but he does not to ask him out so he might break up w/ you for her, then she can dump him and he can't put bad pics. of her in the public" - my 17 yr. old neighbor

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At first you should talk to him sweetly and get your hands on those pictures, after that break up with him. Because he doesn't like you, he likes your body ! if u cannot take those pictures by yourself then take someones help .

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u should see his phone then erase the pics then dont send none

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If you are worried about blackmail then you need to tell an adult you trust and then they can talk to the right people to get rid of the images. From personal experience, people our age are often ignored or classed as over-reacting. Talk to someone close and stay away from him in the meantime by keeping yourself busy, perhaps your friends could help with this? Just keep your concerns to those you trust, not your school year. Chances are if you are concerned about him using the photos in a nasty way, you may have trouble getting them off him without help. Good luck sweetie, I'm sure you'll be fine :) x

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id tell a teacher or ur parents. then break up with him. and stay away from him.

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break up with him and u shouldve not have given tht much private stuff and if he does something call the police

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I think you fine breaking up with him unless you don't get any black colored letters in the mail.

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Break up, and report to an official if something bad happens to you with him. If it gets WAY serious, you could order a restraining order on him...

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OMG i am in the same situation!!!! He doesnt seem to want to be around me unless he is touching me. He gras my butt too. Like at school between classes! If you feel uncomfortable, break up with him. He'll learn his lesson, and if he matures, you can go back to him. Im doing the same thing. I hope i helped!!! :)

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