being a listener is good, if your interested in them. . when asked a question. ask for their answer about it too. it must interest them. read or Google anything you might wonder about. you find interesting stuff. share that. relax your body it will help your mind relax too.
One of the easiest ways to keep a conversation going is to simply ask the other person about their interests: what they do for work, what their favorite music is, what they like to do for fun, etc. Everyone's favorite topic of conversation is themselves. Once you get them on a topic that interests them ask them questions about it. They'll do most of the work carrying on the conversation for you.
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Social development is learned. Apply yourself, it takes time. Ask good questions, don't be fake. take care of your appearance, but don't obsess over it. Remember, your peers are as self conscious as you are.
Their was a period of about a year when I was shy, then I realized that the things I told myself mentally fed into my shyness. Realizing that no one really cares if I make a mistake or say something silly helped tremendously. I made self affirmation tapes and listened to daily to boost my self esteem. Remember people LOVE talking about themselves so remembering something they said and asking them about it facilitates conversations