A friend keeps asking me to come over to his house to hang out but I can't stomach it, his place is disgusting &filthy. Read details please!
I'm running out of excuses.. the guy is really lonely and depressed.. I feel bad but I'm stalemate. he has two bedrooms and asks me to come stay a night here and there but I just can't. his house isn't just cluttered and disorganized--i can tolerate that! it's disgusting and dirty. the refrigerator makes me want to vomit, and the toilet too--the white porcelain toilet? yea you'd guess it was brown porcelain. the cupboards are full of expired, moldy food. he asks me to come over for dinner?? ummmm.... where are you cooking this food? the counters are stacked with dirty dishes because the sink is overflowing with them and swarming with flies. I took a bday gift over to him one day.. six weeks llater stopped by for another reason and the same exact dirty dishes with the same exact bits of food were still in the sink just with more dishes piled on top. OK---so, I don't want to be mean, but like I said, I'm out of excuses. do I just tell the guy whats up? I have another friend who agrees with me on this. I don't wanna drag her into it but I want him to know I'm not the only one in this spot...do I just tell him straight up--your house is too filthy? what are your suggestions? THANKS FOR YOUR HELP!