Well. One, if you are trying to do this for you. Do what you guys do. Work out. You know the basics. If you are doing it to hook up with a girl. It's not the outside appearance you should be worried about. It's your self esteem and confidence. Women like all types of men. Every woman and every man is different. Don't change who you are unless it's you that wants to be changed. Cause if you're doing it for the ladies. They can tell. And guess what most if us don't like phony men. Just speaking from the heart here.