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i think my girlfriend is cheating on me. can anyone help me?

My girlfiend has been so weird latley. she never has time for me. it all started when we started to get serious. first off she is 16 and i am 15.
whenever she would come to my house she would always take my phone. she would look thriugh everything. i have nothing to hide but what really bothers me is when evernshe does take my phone she will NEVER let me see hers. then when break started she got "grounded" but everyday since break started she has either spent the night at her friends house or had a friend come over. Then tonight at 6:30 she said she would be right back in 10 minutes. so after 30 minutes she hadnt texted me so i sent her a message every 5-10 minutes until and hour later she said she was done. then i told her i was upset because i feel like shenis either lying or cheating on me and she said, wow. i am super hurt. and i need to be alone. for the last hour i have sent her all these messages saying why i love her and im sorry but she wont reply.
can anyone tell me what they think about this

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Sorry man, sounds bad. She probably staged a fight so she could be mad & break up so she could pursue another guy... Just a thought. It's rude of her & you deserve better. Do not text her no matter what. No more, it only makes you look bad. Fight the urge dude, fight it! Be done.

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You are giving really good advice, Chica!
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ask her but nicely

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He did
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what did she say?
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She said she needed time alone
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then see her inperson if this caries on for at least 3 weeks i think its time for a split bro sorry :'(
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sure sounds like it to me :/

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sounds like she's just not that into you!?

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for one, trust is key in the relationship. she shouldn't have the need to look through your phone. thats totally stupid. second, she should always tell you if shes staying longer then usual at a friend's so you dont get suspicous. 2nd, you should also have trust in her. i know its very suspicous and everything. but if she's 'hurt" at what you just said, then why shouldn't you be hurt at why she checks your phone everyday? if she doesnt let you check hers either then tell her that she's either hiding something or she wants privacy. confront her. show her whos boss. you dont need someone doing that. its very disrespectful, and this relationship doesnt look like its going to last. shes 15, you're 16, it's time to get another girl thats more trustworthy. maybe in the sooner future.

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Give her some time alone. Best to find out now how she really is.

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You have to break up with her. But make sure she's the one that feels bad about it.

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You have to TRUST her. The moment you don't trust your girlfriend anymore you break up with her.

Trust and communication is important to every relationship. Give her time. As accusing her with something like that is really hurtful if it's untrue. Her world doesn't just revolve around the two of you. She also has friends and family. You two are still young but that doesn't mean you have to keep making mistakes. Talk to her about how it bothers you but be gentle about it. Something like" Hey *girl's name*, I trust and love you a lot and I was just wondering about *insert subject matter*. It's just bothering me a bit and would like it if you can reassure me of what's going on."

It is also important on her part to reassure you as you don't want to be led on to false hopes and promises later on. Good luck figuring it out.

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Sounds like she's checking out of the relationship, sorry.

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You won't like my answer, but here it is. Because you are both so young, it is natural for you to date people and then move on. Few people marry the person they dated at 15 or 16, it just isn't normal. We continue to grow and mature until well into our 20's, so she is doing what is natural to a teen, moving on. It is unfortunate that she lacks the simple civility to tell you the honest truth, but she'd rather play with your affections. It appears that it amuses her to keep you hanging on, apologizing even though you haven't done anything wrong. Strap 'em on and walk away from her. You'll get your self-respect and peace back once you have demonstrated that you will not allow anyone to treat you like this. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and walk away from her as fast as you can. Do not take her back, do not communicate with her under any circumstances other than face to face and to tell her you are not interested in her any more. Learn from this and don't drop all your boundaries with anyone, it isn't healthy.

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Very good advice here.
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Thank you, I hate it when people take advantage of really nice people like this female child has.
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Maybe she is distancing herself from you because she is bored. Maybe you should try playing hard to get.

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If she goes thru your privacy thinking its okay, but doesnt let you to her, thats like an automatic "no trust" issue, and you should of broken up with her then. Lol my opinion.

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If you really love her, have patience. Wait. Talk to her , face to face.

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She definitely is ... In this situation you need to be a MAN and take charge of whats really happening. She thinks that your one year younger so you may be more gullable or etc. and she can play you . Show her that you want to know if she doesnt give you any answers well bro, honeslty the relationship has already been over the minute she chose the other guy .

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I think your suspicions are valid. But I also think you should back off let her decide on her own how this will play out. Dont play the blame game and definitely don't beg her to be w you. It's better to know ASAP what this girl is all about. You deserve someone who cares at least as much as you care about the relationship. Give her space let her come to you (or not) It's got to be her decision.

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I think you can’t spoil her very much.

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I wouldn't bother with her too much. Sounds like she is insecure (the looking through your phone thing, and not treating you equally (not letting you read her messages). The other stuff could be innocent enough, but the phone stuff alone is reason enough to consider breaking up. Not even married people should do that, everyone has the right to their privacy. It does sound like she's avoiding you a bit, but it may not be due to the fact that she's cheating necessarily. But if shes making you feel rejected &/or unappreciated, it can be difficult for things to go uphill from here unless she magically matures a bit over the next week.

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Well I have got a plan for you I know this is evil if she gets grounded just like spy on her or something I never been cheated on but I would recommend that!

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Listen bro I am going to be totally and brutally honest with you. Grow up, you still a kid for cry out loud and you have your whole life ahead of you. You will have more girls, more romances in your life time. Learn from this experience and used it to make you a better secured man tomorrow (meaning when you graduate from college). For now enjoy your youth because you will never be able to get those wasted years back and yes I am probably the same age range of your dad!!!!!

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I agree......and yes, I'm probably the same age range as his grandmother! Chuckle:)
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Stop texting her until she text you first and then after that wait a while and then pretend like it doesn't bother you or fallow her when she leaves your house

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My honest opinion here is that it sounds to me as if you spend all of your time keeping track of her and her life. What about your life? Personally it drives me crazy when other people keep track of what I am doing all the time. They question what I am doing and I feel harassed. I recommend that you think carefully about yourself, and your time and what you are doing to make yourself happy. She is not doing this for you - It sounds like she doesn't care. Let her go and take care of yourself for a change. You will be much happier, and when another girl sees this, she won't be able to resist you.

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Just go for a run to clear your mind. Don't text her.

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i bet its with your dad

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it sounds like u r a really sweet guy and everything but if u already sent her all those texts, then just stop. leave her with those texts to think about. then after u have alone time and u decided that its gone too far, just break it off

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sounds like she is done and dont want to be with you anymore she is just beating around the bush and not comeing straight out to tell you she might be trying to spare your feelings and not say anything to you but she should be honest with you and then again you just might need to put your foot down and tell her that your done period

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sorry dude i just can't read all of those words it's like christmas break is over and i have to go back to school

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