My husband shows NO interest in me sexually. All he cares about his video games.
He sits and plays on his laptop from when he gets home from work until he goes to bed. drinking beer or hard liquor most nights. He is 40 overweight and lazy. He has no interest in sex, kissing, or anything. I have tried everything, talking to him, trying to get him active, etc and nothing works. He just gets mad or ignores me. He tells me he loves me but doesn't show it. Every time I bring up sex he has a stomach ache or headache. Now also his lower back hurts so when we do have sex( which has gone from once a week to sometimes once a month and I ALWAYS have to pretty much beg), he is in pain. He has trouble getting and staying hard also. He won't do anything to try and change this. He won't even talk dirty or text dirty with me like he did when we first got together. He is so obsessed with his gaming that if I need help with something he gets mad if I interrupt him or doesn't hear me. One time there was a wasp in the house and he got all pissed that I made him get up to kill it. I fell once and he didn't get up go help me. He will never walk the dogs. He has no friends and always gives me a hard time when I make plans for us with my friends. A lot of time he won't go and when he does he says it's because he had no choice and its always a huge fight in the car but when he gets around my friends or family he is on his best behavior. Why did I marry him? I felt comfortable and wanted to get married.(terrible I know). He is on 3 blood pressure meds and just keeps gaining weight and doesn't care. I said to him that I wish he was more interested in me physically and he says he never feels well, and I told him to start exercising and stop drinking and he just gets mad, ignores it and changes the subject. I am trying to lose weight and exercise but he won't do it. I can't afford to leave him and we are in a lease. I'm old also, 38. Not sure what else to do. We do get along some days as friends. Go to dinner etc and have good conversation. He never puts me down . But he is so into himself and video games.