You have a couple of choices in my opinion: 1. Forgive and forget, or 2. Move on. It is best not to stay and feel bitter and unhappy all the time, you will become a bitter person, and that is not good for your child. If you can forgive and forget (forget is just as important as forgive), you will have to give up the hurt feelings, trust him again (to some degree), and allow him to make it up to you. If I knew how to turn back time so the cheating did not occur, I'd do that for you, but I'm still working on that superpower!
If you mean getting over a broken relationship, then you can do away with some things that can still remind you of that person. Give yourself time and move out in some distant place for some time. However, if you mean quitting the behavior of cheating, then you need to choose someone that you truly love do away with the rest of the contacts that can temp you. Be loyal and honest while talking to the selected one and tell the rest the truth.
Sadly cheating and being hit are the two things remembered for life. Get away from the cheater. You are your own best friend, make new plans Also spend time with people who are always kinds, eg one friend, an aunty etc You can express your disgust to them, they'll console you. Get busy, get active, get new skills, get ahead Resolve to not be fooled again. The world is mostly good.
Don't go back to a cheater if they did it once they will probably just do it again. Keep yourself busy doing things with friends//family so you don't think about it all the time. Have fun with people do things you like to do. They are people out there that will treat you better then that you do not deserve to be with a cheater they do not love you if they hurt you like that so leave them there
think about how much better you'll be without him! this is my favorite quote and its so true - if you have the choice between me and her, pick her because if you really loved me there wouldnt be a choice! obviously destiny made its choice and has a plan to get you together one day with your true love!
If you are trying to stay and forgive the guy that cheated on you, then there are a few things you need to keep in mind. Time doesn't always heal all wounds but they will fade and eventually be so far in the back of your memory that one day you will be able to look back and laugh at them. The saying "You never know what you have until it's gone" really does apply and it's very true. So you gotta think about how bad the cheater actually feels wether or not you should give him another chance and you will be able to tell especially if he cries. If you broke up already, then you just need to do you for a while. Stay single, it'll help! You need to be able to be alone and not go straight to the next person. I've been through it all and I've also been the cheater a few times. So from both sides of the equation... It usually turns out that the person regrets deeply what they have done. It doesn't always make him/her a complete liar either, even though I know it will still be hard to trust that person again, but you gotta try. Just don't sweat the small stuff and keep focussing on the bigger pictures in life always.
please move on, if you forgive him he taks you for garanted and he do it again (my ex boyfriend do that with me) I know that hearts, and that you love him so much that you yant to die, but if you love yourself, please live that asswole!!
Try your best to forget about him/her. Some people are saying eat icecream (not sure if that actually helps) but you can try it. And if you can try to plan to get with your best friends. If he/she sais they want to get back together say no cause you never know if it will get worse. ;/
The best way to get over cheating, is to realize that all people are past or future lives of yourself, and you wouldn't want to hold yourself back from doing what you want to do. So if your partner is cheating on your, stop requiring a relationship of limitation on that person. It's really just you, sleeping with you. All existing at once. Judging this only causes "karma" which is nothing more than shying away from a certain aspect of reality due to judgment of it.
The only reason we create relationships that have restrictions is that we are energetically dependent on that other person, and we fear of loosing that. Stay out of relationships until you can figure out how to not depend on another person, and you will free yourself from the hellish cycle of dependency.
Everyone says move on and forget, I understand that is not that easy! Just keep your head up and stay strong; keep looking for the light in this hard and dark time in your life you can do it:) Good Luck!
I know it's hard because you love him and you have a kid but every now and agin you have to let go of things to become who you're destined to be. What's a life wondering what he's doing all the time?! If I would you I would leave them. Also how did you find out about it? If he told you himself he's loyal and there's a big chance he won't do it again-at least in my opinion and if he hasn't told you himself I just wouldn't be able to trust him. Good luck and stay strong for your child especially! :-)
look i have been cheated on last summer and the best way honestly is to talk to them about it! i know it may seem hard and like you just can't but you can i did it and we are still friend! even though i still have the thought in the back of my head i moved on!you can't live your life in the past forgive and forget is the best thing to do trust me!
well you can forgive but you will never forget that is for sure. but if you love that person and they made a mistake and you take them back let them know that you are not messing around if they screw up again this will be the last time. make them want you so bad that if you two were to ever break up where ever goes he can't stop thinking about you and how much he screwed up. but you can't really forget about it you just throw it to the side and not necessarily get over it but just start fresh.
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From experience: there is no way. If you stay together you always think he or she is gonna do it again; the trust is gone and the relationship isn't getting better. Why did he/she cheat on you in the first place? It's never gonna be okay by you. If you break up over it; even then it's gonna haunt you, because you think all your next partners are gonna be like that. Just keep reminding yourself that your new partner isn't your old partner and you'll do fine:)
Oh, and a little bit of boxing in the gym to take it out on a punchingbag never hurt anyone;)
My now ex boyfriend cheated on me and I so stupidly went back out with him. It wasn't ever the same though because all my trust was gone. Don't go back to a cheater. They suck if they're gonna do that to you. God has a plan and he'll give you a great guy one day. Good luck.