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I'm trying to be a good friend. My friend Daniel is 18, I'm 14, so he's like my big bro. I annoyed him today and he cussed me out telling me to stop texting him so much and that his girlfriend thinks I like him...which I dont. -_- I started crying and thinking..am I just a bad friend? Am I really that annoying? He's the only true friend I have and I feel like I can tell him anything. I feel bad and I feel like I'm probably going to cry myself to sleep tonight. How can I become a better friend? I see him as my big bro, he said he saw me as his sister, but now, I don't think he does any more. I'm freaking out. I feel like no one wants to be my friend in this world. Please help. Thank you.

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Give him some space and time to take a little breather. Then, after some time has passed, discuss your feelings with him calmly with no freaking out. You'll feel better.

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Thank you very much.
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Yw. Good luck. :)
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If you're texting him enough that he's asking you to stop, then stop.

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I did stop. But that's not exactly the advice I am looking for.
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I just started trying to be a good friend. So, I'm new to this. I never knew.
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i think everything will be fine, he was probably just frustrated with something else and accidentally blew off steam at you, but it would be a good idea to find other friends, there are a ton of people out there, just waiting to be your friend, i promise.

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no problem
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You should just try to apologize to him and say that you want your big bro back or something like that.

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Let him think over night and try talking to him tomorrow

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Just ask him what topics you are allowed to text to him and how often. He just doesn't want a third wheel he needs to monitor.

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His girlfriend probable really did get after him about your texting. Which is understandable on one hand but he should have told you to leave him alone in a kinder way.

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just stop texting him and his guilt for cussing you will be to much to bear if he has a working heart and he will apologize for it if not find a better truer friend i have one friend i always trust and a handful for anything else try to accommodate a group of friends like that and you will feel better

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Thank you so very much
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You are overlooking one key point in all this, the girlfriend. I believe Daniel doesn't care as much as his girlfriend does. It sounds like she is a bit jealous. I would text less for now. Having been 18 and known my share of them, wait for things to calm down and if the girlfriend is that insecure and demanding she will be gone before long. Don't cry and get upset over someone else's insecurity.

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Thank you. I just dont want to lose him as a friend because of how annoying I am.
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I think your 'friend' is a over reacting jackass (No eefence) that you need to just let go.If he thinks all that,he's not a friend.

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Don't worry, everything will work out. We all have days where we get a kick in the face, but be strong. Don't let someone bully you like that. You're a better person.

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don't worry about the small stuff.. You are 14 and at that age, you probably like to text etc..
Give your friend his space tho, and when he is ready to text again, he will.

You should try to not be too sensitive...You can make friends easier when you are not sensitive..I know 14 is a tough age tho. You should find another friend your age.,Learn from this. Some people do not like to be "pestered." We all do these things from time to time..Just don't take it to heart.It's normal.

As you see, we all here are giving you the same advice. Don't take it to heart and keep busy.. Volunteer at the animal shelter etc..You can make new friends like that. Or getting involved at the town library..teen dept. activities. Have a great weekend.. You're fine! I am sure your friend will call you soon. He does have his own interest so respect that..:)

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THANKYOU very much!! :) I'm feeling better.
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Good!! You are as normal as any 14 year old so don't sweat the small stuff:)
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I just...I don't want to lose him as a friend. Do you think he will text me back?
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As long as you don't make him feel stressed. Just leave him alone. If he wants to get in touch, he will..I don't know what happened but remember, he could be busy as most 18 year olds are and he does have a girlfriend. So just learn from this. Be there if he needs you as a friend..at your age, there is a big difference..You know what I mean?
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I suppose. Thank you once again.
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I am sure you can find friends your age too. You sound like a nice person:) Oh..you don't need lots of friends..just 1 or 2 who are really true..
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Give him time to cool down and then try talking to him. He might have been having a bad day. I'm sure if the both of you are really that close then maybe he might explain why he was acting like that.

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Leave him alone for a few days then after 3 or 4 days, text him that u r very very very sorry and that you didn't realize what you were doing at the time.

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No, you're not a bad friend. If anything he is. He shouldn't have said those things and if he knows he hurt you and still hasn't apologized, leave him alone and try to find a new friend until he does. As for his girlfriend, I think she may be just a little insecure.

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He asked you to stop texting, so stop.

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I did. That's not the advice I'm looking for.
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I think it will b OK. there is a age difference so I think u r right about the bro/sis thing.his girlfriend will need time to understand the friendship u have. she was giving him a hard time and he took it out on u. which we do to the people we r closest to. I think you should give him some space. if his girlfriend is jealous, insecure and trying to ruin his friendships she won't be around long. if he's smart

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