MODS !! Troll !!! You asked several questions lately. Said you " were a gay male getting ready to get married and you were "the girl" in the relationship and should you wear white." Another question you asked..."should you raise your adopted son gay so he doesn't think you're weird'". Another question..."your 8 year adopted son just diagnosed with dyslexia and ADHD, what should you do". And these are just the ones I remember from the last two days. Now you want to know" if you should make the first move in a relationship". Get off of Ask and quit wasting people's well intentioned time .