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sportsrule12
sportsrule12: 1 year ago

Who can help me? Im 17, In college,and never had a Girlfriend! Please, could you guys help me?

I'm a 17 yr old college freshman who goes to western michigan university. I have never, ever had a girlfriend! I mean they hardly even talk to me. When I do talk to them I'll ask them about themselves, and they'll tell me, and then they'll ask me about myself, and I tell them about myself, and then right after that they just stop talking to me. EVERY SINGLE ONE! I truly am a good guy. I would never ever just try to get in their pants, and I try to be truthful about myself. I don't need a drop dead beauty! Just a girl who respects me, and I respect her, and can have fun with(it doesn't mean sex automatically).Waiting tell marriage NO Problem. I relly don't know. Maybe it's my looks I do have a scar on my nose from a boating accident, and that deters them? All I need is help. Thank you for your time!

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crangel4
crangel4: 1 year ago via iPhone

You're young.. You have plenty of time for a girlfriend. Think about that education.
My son is 16, he's really smart and handsome. Girls his age are wanting the bad boys in school. Little do they know in the end those are the ones that end up with beer guts and dead end jobs. Not all but a lot of them. Then they'll look at guys like my son and you and think "man I should have paid attention to him when he liked me" cause they'll probably be over weight and single mothers. I know a lot of people will disagree with me... But you'll see. In the end you'll end up with the beautiful well educated girl. Trust me on that one.

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achilles55: 1 year ago
so true, so true
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gushlaw: 1 year ago
I should have read your comment before mine! I repeated what you said in a different way! lol... Well, repetition is good in these types of circumstances! So, Great minds think alike!! haha
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crangel4: 1 year ago via iPhone
Rooroo423..... You got it right the first time. ?
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bookworm126
bookworm126: 1 year ago

well at least you are trying! try talking to them maybe you might ignite a spark!
hope it all works out!

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Hunter270
Hunter270: 1 year ago

Hey man just be yourself and be respectful and you will eventually find the girl that is right for you

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organic
organic: 1 year ago via Android

tell us what exactly you say when they ask you about yourself...maybe you're saying too much or strange things.

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gushlaw
gushlaw: 1 year ago | Last edited at 12:44AM on 10/1/2011

I don't think it's your looks, from your picture your really cute (and scars... HOT!, bad boy in training!! lol)!! But from your comment you sound incredibly self consience. Girls, especially girls your age, like men who are confident almost to the cocky side. I'm not saying be a jerk! BE YOURSELF! but be CONFIDENT! Even if you don't believe you are the best looking or the smartest or whatever is crushing your confidence, you have to come across like you do, and if you think it to yourself enough, you will come to realize that it's TRUE! Sounds like you are doing everything right, but maybe divulging a little to much about yourself, which in turn can bring out your insecurities, and most people are already insecure meeting new people anyway. I agree with organic, more info needed. Remember, girls are fickle! they say they want the nice, nice guy, but in reality they are only ever with the ones that treat them bad. (cont in comments)

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gushlaw: 1 year ago
Until they are about 25 or so it will be this way. So show that your a great guy, which it sounds like you are, but also show a little bit of that bad boy (which I know is in there!) so she knows the relationship will be exciting and new!! And, your in college!! College is so much fun!!! go out with your friends, have an awesome time celebrating your independance from home and worry about a relationship LAST!! HAVE FUN!! These will be the years you will always wish you could go back to!
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ohdannyboy96
ohdannyboy96: 1 year ago via iPhone

Brother, to be very honest. It's called Beer. Helping ugly people get laid since, well forever. Don't take that the wrong way people. And I'm not saying your ugly neither man. But, maybe your looking in the wrong places. I know you said you were 17. But in a party environment, nobodies guard will be up. Or maybe you don't party. But when you go out and party man, don't do something just for attracting girls. Be yourself. Make a fool of yourself. I've found that not only will you make your friends laugh, but women will like you because people will like to hang around a fun care free type of person. Brother, never ever, ever, have sex without protection man. I had my son when I was 19. Not that that was a bad thing, cause it changed my life for the better. But that will eliminate alot of other things that can mess with your head bro. Good luck

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hayfron: 1 year ago
try to complete your education and they will come like ants
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CastitatisLilium
CastitatisLilium: 1 year ago

As a girl, I can tell you, we're not worth the drama. Wait till you and the girls you'd be interested in are more mature. While we're still young, we're mostly drama. But don't worry. You'll find the right girl eventually. :)

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Lightsky
Lightsky: 1 year ago

Hey, it's fine being single=D I'm 14 and I've never been asked out (I've never had a boyfriend either). Unless you're looking for a wife, you shouldn't date because dating is supposed to help you find a spouse.
http://skyskyblog.blogspot.com/2011_02_01_archive.html
I hope this link helps=)

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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
No.. Dating helps you learn things about yourself and helps you learn what you do and do not want in a spouse.
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Lightsky: 1 year ago
I believe I could figure out what I want in a spouse without dating=)
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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
Ok. But your young still. I guarantee you will change your mind by the time you 17. Good luck though. :)
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Lightsky: 1 year ago
Eh, I don't think so. Did you click on the link? It gives 10 reasons why I don't date...
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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
Yes I did, and it was interesting. And I do agree with some of the reasons she/you are single. Plus, you are only 14! You haven't grown into yourself. I understand from the article this girl is very religious and so are you, and while respect that, god is supposed to love you no matter what, just because you don't want a boyfriend, or kiss anyone does not mean you are "pure". In one sense it does. But no one is perfect. And just because you may date a boy when you are ready does not mean you are going to end up on 16 and pregnant! But again your young, you don't need to date right now, just don't let literal translations of the bible deter you from maybe going to the movies with someone. You don't have to be intimate!
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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
And you may know what you want in a spouse, but how will you ever find your perfect partner when your older if you don't date them first? It's almost like you are saying you will meet someone and go right into marriage.
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Lightsky: 1 year ago
You still don't want to tempt yourself into having sex before marriage. I think having a boyfriend increases the temptation.
And I don't think you necessarily have to "date" to find a spouse. You can spend time with them and get to know them and not "go out", if you know what I mean=)
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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
Idk. I think dating is part of the fun of being young. I'm not going to try to change your mind, my opinion is so way off from yours there really isn't a point.

I will say, if I hadn't dated and just married the first guy who had qualities I liked, I would be divorced right now. If I had not dated my husband we wouldn't be as comfortable with each other.

Also, whether you date someone or not you will feel sexually attracted people. It's human nature. It's the way our bodies are made. So no matter what you do, date or not date... You will start to have certain feelings/wants. And this will just be your body letting you know :)

Also w/ that blog, please tell me that you don't think kissing will make you not pure?! If so, you should look into other reading materials, you don't need to feel guilty or impure because you may have feelings for someone and may kiss them.
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Lightsky: 1 year ago
I think you should save kisses for your spouse. And I'm not saying I haven't felt sexually attracted to guys, because I have. Since sex is for marriage only, I think dating increases the temptation=)
And you might be right, I might change my mind about as I get older.
But maybe I support courting...it's a bit different than dating=)
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gushlaw: 1 year ago via iPhone
Just don't stay totally closed to the idea. I believe very different from you, but god would want you to experience life. It is your choice. But I think of you wanted to kiss someone you would have enough self control to not go further. It's not that big of a deal (kissing). I hope you don't stay totally closed off from the experiences that are waiting for you. I do applaud you for waiting till marriage for sex. I know way to many girls your age who are already mothers. Good luck, I hope you keep your mind and options open for your sake! Your young, try to have a little fun and not get completely sucked in to a belief system.
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Lightsky: 1 year ago
Ok, thanks anyways=)
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