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My dad is a creeper and does stuff with girls on webcams and Skype and it disgust me, he also creeps on my ex girlfriends what do i do

He is married to my mom and she has no clue, im the only one in the family who knows and i dont know what to do. I hate him cause of this but i have to be nice to him. Im 19 years old and i just want to know if i should tell my mom. I also believe he is cheating on my mom but have no proof at all. I have conversations of him and my ex girlfriends as proof so do i show her them. Im really just lost and dont know what to do

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Wow, tough place to be for a 19 year old. I know you don't want to hurt your Mom's feelings but in this situation I believe you have to tell her.
What your father is doing is against the law. Even worse, he is harming others, and they may not even know it.
Take all the physical evidence you have, talk to your mom and if she doesn't believe you, show her the proof.
Good luck to you, your mom and your ex GF. Hopefully, you can stop your father before he hurts more people.

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So he watches porn?

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I would tell you mother, she has the right to know about this..

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Tell your mom. If I was your mother, I would thank you for telling me. I know how hard things like that can be, but he should not be able to get away with things like that, especially considering he's doing something very illegal...

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Minji

Tell your mother dude....

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you really should tell your mother

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I think you should tell your mother.

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Yes! show her the proof and everything if you love your mom you would tell her

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If it were my husband and our son (no matter his age) knew about it i would want to be told immediately

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Tell your mom... She really needs to know....

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I wud definitely have a closed door discussion with ur mother. she deserves to know!

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That's friggen weird. And he sounds like a pedophile. Tell your mom.

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I don't have a good answer but I'm sorry this has happened to you and your mother. If I were you I'd confront him about it. Don't tell her but you should convince him to tell her himself. I get it if you don't want to do it though.

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Confront him maybe it will help ?

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Not trying to sound rude, but he sounds like he is a pedo. Tell your mother.

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I don't know why you think you have to be nice to him , I would drop the bomb on him in a heart beat , you don't owe him a thing but you owe you Mom everything ! !

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tell ur mom or tell ur dad 2 stop

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Dudde you need to tell your mom ASAP!!

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My dad is that way too. I grosses me out too. Once when my mom's best friend came from Germany ( I was about 6 years old at the time) and my mom was in the shower and my dad and her friend were on the couch. He asked " If my wife were to be asleep and I came downstairs to your room and we had you know what."He actually said the three letter word. Even though I didn't know what that meant exactly I knew it was something bad. I grew up a found out what it meant and till this day I still remember that day.

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you should tell her because if she finds out about your dad and she finds out that you knew it will hurt her that you didnt tell her... i hope you do what you think is right... hang in there it must be really hard on you..

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tell your mom!!!

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Absolutely tell your mom. I know if my 19 year old son, which I have, had that information and did not tell me I'd be very angry. It is definitely wrong and I think if you care about your mom you need to tell her. You must have concrete proof before you accuse.

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Yes, I agree you should have a discussion with your mum about it first. If you were to talk with your dad about it, he may delete any evidence and start thinking up lies to cover his tracks and prepare for the confrontation.
These sorts of behaviours are wrong, and although he may not be literally having intercourse, the intent is still there, and it is a window into his soul, to see what sorts of thoughts cross his mind, and that he is physically acting on his temptations by chatting on webcam.
I am also sorry that your father has become this way, and I wish all the best for your family. It would be great to get an update in a year or so to see how it has turned out, unless ofcourse you would rather not share that with us, which is completely understandable.

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My best friend had a father like this, and was constantly talking to her about how much he loved me, which would piss us both off. He would give me dirty looks, and try to touch me under the table. It made my friendship with Kayla very trying, and she left home not long after with me, and we ventured into the world together 9
although I was already circulating about- she was a bit younger than me). Please try not to let if affect your relationship too much, as I doubt your father would intentionally push you away. On the other hand however, he does not deserve forgiveness from your mother. I wouldn't forgive him at all. Maybe throw the computer in the bin for the sake of children involved, but if I wasn't too committed, I would kick him out instantly. Neither you nor your mum deserve this disrespect.
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i think you should talk to him about it first, but don't sound all judgmental and dis-loving cause then he might get really angry, and idk what he'd do. just tell him that you know he does this, that it's not just an assumption and it creep you out. tell him that you want him to be able to be a role model for you and your hero, and that he's definitely not being a good father to you at all. tell him alot about how you wish he could be there for you as a role model and strong father figure, but that he can't be that to you when you know what he does secretly

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We just had a similar question posed to us in psych class (college). I am actually studying family counseling. First of all, you have to take the root of your problem directly to the source. It isn't fair for you to be put in the middle of this situation at all. Tell your father you are aware of what he does and that you believe its time he have a talk with your mother. He obviously has some type of void in his life that he is trying to fill and it needs to be addressed. If he isn't willing to talk to your mom, I would let him know that you do not support his behavior and that your relationship with him will be negatively affected until he is willing to come clean and straighten up. Knowing that you know should prompt enough fear in him to either stop, or try to talk to your mom before you do.

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Tell ur mother. It will be worth it in the end

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Uhh... is he a Pedophile??? Tell your mom

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Between a rock and a hard place? Set his butt up. Get one of your female friends to entice him, videotape it on your cell phone and send it to your mom.

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