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I think my sister is anorexic, what do I do?

So lately I have noticed my twin sister, Danielle, hasn't been eating. At dinner she just pushes the food around her plate, she "never has time" for breakfast, and at lunch she just say "the school food is horrible". She seems really distent and not her self anymore, her grades aren't as well as they usely are. I don't know who to talk about this with my mom died and my older brother, Devon, committed suicide and my dad he hasn't really cared about anything since my mom died. Please help she is all I have left.

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Dallas...... I wish I could jump out of my phone and give you a big hug. You and your family have gone through some terribly sad times recently. I am so sorry.
Your sister may be suffering from Anexoria or depression or both. It's obvious you love her very much. I know you're hesitant to talk to your dad, but the bottom line is he needs to be aware of your sisters situation. It sounds like she may need some counseling or possibly some medication (anti-depressants) to help get through these troubling times. She should really see a physician.
If you really are hesitant to talk to your dad, do you have any close family members you can go to for advice? If not, you may wish to talk to the school counselor or the school nurse. Please consider talking to your father first. He really needs to know what's going on. Your family needs to stay connected now more than ever.
I wish you the very best and you will be in my prayers. Take Care.

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Very well and warmly said!
Hug for you, too ...
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You are so kind. Thankyou :)
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Top drawer, Harem! You hit it spot on and all bases.
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Thankyou...I wasn't sure. :)
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Be sure!
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plz seek help with a doctor or someone u can trust

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Talk to a school counselor and try to talk to your dad as well. It maybe the wake up call he needs.

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You really need to confront her about it. Tell her that you love her and she's all you have left. Talk to her and try to get her to visit a doctor. Good luck<3
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You need to sit and talk to her. Ask her if she's being bullied or if she thinks of herself in a bad way.

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Aww that's horrible maybe try talking to her about it, or like take her to a close friend or aunt and see if they can help. I'm soo sorry that's really sweet of you for trying to help you're sister!

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Maybe She Has Depression of all this Go Get A Therpist Im sure yall have a school Therpist

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Well just ask her what's the problem

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Talk to her and let her know you're there for her. Tell her the effects of anorexia and how dangerous it is, and tell her she's beautiful. Let her know that if she needs to talk you're there, and talking about it is the best thing to do

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You need help. You can't tackle all this by yourself. Talk to your sister lovingly (don't nag) and tell her how you're worried about her and scared for both of you. Then you should talk to your dad about all this, too. He will care more than you think.
Also, check out this link:
http://www.teencentral.net/Help/teenhelp.php
It's got listings for every US state (and some international, since I don't know where you are -- but don't say where you are, online). There are numbers for teen hotlines, and family counseling centers, and other stuff.
If you don't find what you need there, do a google search for "teen help ____" where the blank is the name of your country or town/state.
These are people who've been where you are now and who are waiting to help you with this!
You can do it! Just ask for help with all this complicated stuff you can't fix all by yourself... :)

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Hug back to you too. I'm sure this question saddened you as much as it did me. Wonderful answer and link.
God Bless
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Yeh it sure did sadden me, too. Your answer was great.
It's tough enough being a teenager (I remember), let alone have to worry so much and try to take care of everybody else, too. Not something that any of us could manage all alone, eh? I really hope she's brave enough to ask for help with all that.
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As do I. :)
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Well, most of the time when girls become anorexic it's because they think they are fat or have been called fat,Maybe if you remind her how beautiful she is it will make her feel better. Also tell her that she's been worrying you cause girls like to know that their brothers care about them.I hope I helped and Good luck!

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What you are facing no doubt feels overwhelming, it would to anyone. See if you can find someone else in your family to guide you and support you in working through this problem. I imagine it is frightening to you also, I totally understand. What it is important for you to realize is that there are many people who care about you and want to help you. You can look at the comments and answers to your question if you doubt me. Trust that there are others in your world that want to help you and your sister too. Lesson for you: It's okay to reach out and ask for help, and if you don't find it the first time, do it again. Lesson for your sister: Read lesson for you. Hang tough and you and your family will get through this. Be sure to talk to your dad about this, he loves you and your sister even if he's grieving terribly right now, trust him. Hugs, Sweetie.

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Koichan.....I'm so glad to see you answered this question as well. Your answer is so reassuring. I wish we could just wave a magic wand for this family and make it all better.
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So true. thanks
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You're quite welcome. :)
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Anorexia is a life threatening illness. I know, because of having had this myself as a teen. Talk to your dad right now and tell him about your sister. She needs to get into counseling and see a medical doctor right away. If you feel like you cannot tell your dad, please tell someone like a school counselor or a trusted adult. Make sure something is done for your sister right away. Take care

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Oh my gosh I can't believe what you are going through. I have a twin brother, but sadly we are not close at all we fight a lot Anyway, it kinda depends if u r close to her or not, if not, u need to get close to her if what u said was true because, as you said you are all she has left and vise versa Talk to her about it. Let her know you are there for her in any way possible and u love her, she will open up (hopefully) but, no matter what u do need to talk to her about this. Honestly (this is really weird) I do the same exact thing! (But I'm not anorexic) I don't have time 4 breakfast in the mornings, school lunch is crap, and at dinner I don't eat a lot. This really messes u up, u feel dizzy, like ur gonna faint, and u r kinda cranky all day. But, I'm not sure y I do it, I am skinny, so idk. It is sorta like a routine. Does she feel she is fat? It could be she is too depressed. ***let God be with you in this time, Dallas, God bless you, you and your sister, and your dad will be in my prayers***

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we are close and she is fairly skinny but she is getting skinnier
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As I said, it could be depression talk to her about it, she needs you, and you need her
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It's like we are alike in so many ways Dallas.. I lost my mother too. Seek medical help for your sister!

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I'm so sorry. You need to go to a trusted adult or a close friend and talk to them about it. Talk to your sister try to figure out why she is not eating. This is a very hard thing to deal with. anorexia is a very scary thing. Make sure she knows that your there for her and help her throughout the hard time she might be going through. How bad has it gotten? Is it to the point were she is looking very unhealthy. If she won't tell you what is going on the contact a doctor or if your in school then a school nurse. I wish the best for you both I will pray for you both.

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