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My husband is displaying all the signs of a mid life crisis. How can I help him get through it and save our marriage

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Counseling is the very best thing you two could do, if you can get him to go. This is a rough place to be in a marriage, and a lot of divorces happen here.

Many men find themselves vulnerable to the advances of younger women, and that is the most dangerous thing for your marriage. Remember, there are MANY young women who routinely flirt with older men, just to see if they can get him interested, and who would enjoy the financial advantages that an older man can provide.

The fact that you are aware of what is happening is really a plus for you. You can't address a problem that you can't see or acknowledge, so you are probably one step ahead of him. He is most likely very confused about his new feelings of restlessness or unhappiness, and will really need you to help him get through this successfully. I wish you the very best!

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give him so space to calm down and think about things and then maybe ask if he want to talk about it

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He will not talk about it. Just a text to end a 30 year marriage, then see me for 2 days and then go off roaming about france getting calm. But the texts say he is missing me. so who knows
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well i think u have to make him talk about it or else it wont get better. if he truly loves u he will listen.
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u should tell him how u feel and he will do something to try to help u and ur marriage if he also wants to save it
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S3x! Lots and lots of s3x! And in between when you're not having lots and lots of s3x, give him lots of attention and affection :-)

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dont hinder him. if he wants to drive motorcycle, let him drive motorcycle. if he wants to go to the north pole to find himself...and so on.

it will be over before you know it :)

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I'm no expert but i would suggest talking to him, and/or taking him out somewhere he can get his mind off of things and be happy. Remind him of the person he married in the first place. Treat you guys to something nice. I will pray that everything works out ok for you guys.

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If he would just see me it would help. what did not help was a text ending our 30 year relationship, then come to see me and act normally and then go off roaming about france on his own.
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My Grandpa walked out on my Grandma kinda of like that after a 30 year marriage. He gave her signs that it was coming but she never saw them. Did he ever give you signs? Men are always confused about what they want. And always like different experiences. Think about if he could possibly be fooling around. That's what my grandpa did.
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buy him a motor cylce :) it.... ir worked for my dad

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The motorcycle almost killed me. Come to think of it I guess it did kill the crisis.

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